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Breaking up is hard to do, and there is no other term for it other than it completely, totally sucks.

Whether you were broken up with or you had to do the breaking up, moving on can be tough no matter how the relationship met its demise.

While we may just want to bury our heads in a bucket of ice cream and vegetate in front on Netflix, there is apparently a new way to speed up the healing process of a broken heart. 

According to science, there is a breakup trick that will help you get over your ex-lover much faster. 

Apparently, just thinking that you are over them makes you over them. Here's how it works:

A research team from the University of Colorado Boulder ran tests on participants who had recently experienced a ‘romantic rejection,’ and half were given a placebo feel good drug to see how they coped with the feelings. 

The participants were studied in a brain imaging lab while recalling details of their breakup while staring at a picture of their ex. Intense.

The half of the group which were given the 'feel good' placebo drug were more over their previous relationship than those who weren't.

So it seems that just telling yourself that you're okay is half the battle. 

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There are many things we’d like to forget about our teenage years; the emo phase, the streaky tan, the concealer covered lips, the cringey duck face poses and most of all- your first crush.

Whether it was the boy who lived down the street or Disney’s ‘It Boy’ of the time Zac Efron, we all had our fair share of playground and popstar crushes.

There are many we’d like to forget, especially ones whose names will forever be scribbled in the back of our geography copies.

We develop crushes from quite a young age, the average being aged 12, but we can’t help but wonder why we feel this way.

What causes the butterflies in our stomachs, the glint in our eye when we spot them in town, the feeling of frustration when we don’t hear from them and that elation when we do?

We spoke to psychologist Rachel Tomlinson about catching feels, feeling smitten and the impact it all has on our mind.

First things first, why on earth do we fall for people? We all understand just how complicated and stressful dating and relationships can be, so why does our mind crave affection like there’s no tomorrow?

“We have these feelings because humans are social creatures and we are driven to try and form relationships with other people.

“We want relationships and crave them. These relationships keep us safe, both mentally and physically and having reciprocal and positive relationships is good for our health and stress levels,” Rachel explained.

We all want to find the Harry to our Meghan, the Miley to our Liam and the Beyoncé to our Jay-Z, but it isn’t as straightforward as we wish it was.

We fret about what to wear for that first date, we panic about coming across as too eager or whether we are making a good impression.

We beat ourselves up when they don’t respond to us, we worry about winning them over or if they’re ‘the one’.

The impact it has on our mind is pretty intense at times. 

“Having strong, mutually beneficial relationships (including romantic ones) make us feel good and give us a sense of social connection which is healthy. However, issues can arise when relationships end or crushes aren’t reciprocated.

“If people have recently become single or are experiencing overwhelming feelings of love and lust that aren’t returned it can result in stress, lowered immunity, poor physical and potentially exacerbate mental health issues,” she stressed.

We all want a significant other, crush or lover to feel the same as we do. We crave that attention, love and desire like a cup of coffee at 6 am on a Monday morning.

“Your brain responds to this attraction by signalling the release of chemicals: dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. These are feel-good chemicals and people can experience excitement, excess physical energy (including heart racing, sweaty palms etc) and giddy/joyful feelings,” Rachel continued.

Testosterone and oestrogen are also released and we feel lust.

This combination of chemicals gives us a rush like no other, but they can become addictive. “People often find that they crave the presence of their crush to get more of those feelings, resulting in (sometimes) quite obsessive thought patterns. Having a crush can feel as though your brain and body have been hijacked by this new love (or lust).”

It’s a natural feeling that has been built into our minds for generations and generations. Your 85-year-old granny once got butterflies at a dance in the 1950s. Your mam definitely swooned over Rob Lowe during the 1980s. Your big brother definitely shed secret tears when his childhood crush went to the debs with his best friend. Your co-worker certainly worries about what to wear on that all too important first date. The guy sitting next to you on the bus no doubt gets butterflies when bumping into his college love after years apart.

It’s a feeling we’re all going to have to get used to because as Emily Dickinson once said ‘the heart want what it wants or else it does not care.'

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Happy to be single? You're not alone. 

A new survey has shown that more women are happy and content with being independent individuals than men. 

Retail analysts Mintel found that two thirds of single women are more than happy being without an other half. 

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The same could not be said for men.

Just under half of men surveyed said they were happy being alone, according to The Irish Sun. 

If you're looking for love on Tinder, look away now. 

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Their study also found that that 70% of singles are not actively search for a bae, and haven't been focusing on their love lives at all in the last year, according to The Daily Mail.

So careers, friends and family seem to come before love for those in the survey. 

However, around 40% of adults worry about being forever alone (us too hun) and this figure rises in young adults. 

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Look, we all thought that by the age of 25 we would be married and living in a lavish house, spending our Sundays browsing around home stores and buying the expensive candles.

Alas, society shifted on it's arse and most of us are lucky at to have moved out of our parents house and into an overpriced box falsely given the name 'an apartment' before our 25th birthday.

So it comes as no surprise that us millennials are suffering from something that never before existed and that is 'the quarter life crisis'.

When you cop that you haven't lived up to their own expectations by a certain age, it can be crushing.

As this study shows.

More than 1,000 people aged between 23 and 39 were surveyed to see what factors they believed affected their life satisfaction.

It showed that 30 percent of married people who were going through a quarter-life crisis thought that they had settled for their other half. 

Those who blamed the pressure to get hitched in adding to their depressive state made up 17 percent and 16 percent blamed it on the pressure to get pregnant. 

 

And it found out that 2 in 3 people had experienced the quarter life crisis. 

Do you agree?

 

 

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Well, well, well; what do we have here? A possible new flame? Give us the content we deserve.

Love Island fans are positive that Yewande Biala and George Rains are secretly dating after spotting flirty messages on each other's social media.

The pair have regularly been commenting regularly on each other's Instagram posts with suggestive replies, and we're gagging for the romance to blossom.

Image: Instagram/@yewande_biala

The 23-year-old Irish scientist posted a stunning picture of herself in a white skirt and black leggings, captioning the shot; "Where's your favourite place to go for brunch?"

22-year-old Essex builder George replied: "Whereever you are", even adding side-eye emoji. We all know what that means…

Yewande used the same emoji when she commented on a picture of George two days ago, posing next to a river in Cambridge. We see repetition, we see flirtatious banter, we see LOVE.

 

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The pair never actually met on the show, as Yewande was dumped before the Casa Amor segment happened, which featured George. He later coupled up with Lucie but the pair never clicked.

Iain Stirling, the ITV show's commentator, made sure to make fun of George's silent demeanor and penchant for talking about snacks.

Image: Instagram/@yewande_biala

George has even left flame emojis underneath Yewande's photos, which sent fans into an absolute frenzy.

"Go for it," posted one Instagram fan. "Secure it period," added another."So are y'll dating orrrrr-." asked a third. ANSWER us, Yewande. We know you want to.

The Irish beauty had a rough time in the villa, coupling up with Danny Williams who later dumped her for Arabella Chi, who was dumped just two days later. He's now smitten with Jourdan Riane, but is it showmance? Probably. The point is: Yewande Biala deserves love.

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The world and it's mother are in LOVE with the ITV reality show winners Greg O'Shea and Amber Gill, yet the producers of Love Island aren't convinced that they'll last as a couple.

In previous years, ITV have rushed to make spin-off shows about the pairings and finalists, with popularity sky high, but this year things appear to be different.

According to The Sun, the producers are holding back as they fear the Islanders will split before the show is aired.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The ITV bosses were embarrassed last year, when Jack Fincham and Dani Dyer's on-and-off relationship was hitting the rocks before their short-lived ITV2 series was broadcast.

Jack & Dani: Life After Love Island didn't get anywhere near the same amount of viewers, and the same thing happened in 2017.

Third-placed finalists Chris Hughes and Olivia Attwood's series Chris & Olivia: Crackin' On, saw the pair have an explosive break-up at the end of the three-part show.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Amber Gill and Greg O'Shea were surprise winners of the £50,000 prize this year, after Greg had only been in the villa for 12 days.

They've only just confirmed vaguely that they're in an official relationship and still have a distance between them as Amber lives in Newcastle and Greg resides in Dublin.

Bosses don't feel it would be a wise choice to let cameras follow them around just yet.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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A source said: “It’s been a publicity disaster in previous years, when couples split before their show aired or appeared to get back together just as the programmes came out."

The insider added; “Jack and Dani’s series was a perfect example last year, with everyone saying their relationship was fake.

“This year bosses want to take the heat off the contestants’ relationships, especially as it’s been such a choppy year for couples making a go of it. Instead they are focusing on winter Love Island and want to nail the casting for that series."

They continued; “Of course, they’re keeping a close eye on their couples to spot any potential for spin-off shows, but at the moment it’s certainly not looking likely.”

Most couples barely even make it to three months, and Greg and Amber have been predicted to last just 69 days by data analysts Watches2You.

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The people of Twitter have shared the best kisses in TV history and we are swooning. Some of the most iconic on-screen couples made the list, but do you agree with the top smooches?

Writer Jenna Guillaume got the ball rolling on Twitter by revealing her fave snog and it’s a classic.

She wrote: “There are SO many I love, but my absolute fave has to be Nick and Jess. I think about this kiss a lot."

Us too, Jenna. Us too.

Classic couples like Gossip Girl’s Chuck and Blair obviously made the list, alongside Brooklyn Nine Nine’s Jake and Amy

The SHEmazing team decided to share our fave TV kisses from our most beloved TV shows.

'Mine is Bill and Sookie from True Blood!

The early seasons of the show were brilliant and they were also a couple in real life – they got together while filming season one I think which is a nice added detail.'

-Jennifer McShane, Editor

'Jess and Rory's kiss in Gilmore Girls is so hyped-up – the sexual tension fizzes between them for months before it happens.

And you can see that their chemistry is real – they started dating after they met on the show, after all.'

-Aoife Loughnane, Editorial Intern

'When Rachel makes up with Ross. I think this was after the whole 'we were on a break thing'. But all of them sat down to watch an old home video of Rachel and Monica's prom.

Rachel crosses the room and kisses him romantically and we're reminded that nothing could ever come in between Ross and Rachel. I mean, they're Ross and Rachel after all.'

-Shayna Sappington, Editorial Intern

Emily and Paige from Pretty Little Liars, the journey for them both to overcome their fears about being judged for their sexuality is touching. 

-Sarah Magliocco, Deputy Editor

'My fave on-screen kiss also took place in Stars Hollow. Rory and Logan's naive and intense relationship was just so endearing. The kisses shared on mornings in their apartment always made me turn to mush.'

-Kat O’Connor, Staff Writer

 

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Maura Higgins has given an explanation for her shocked (and pretty angry) face as the Love Island winners were revealed on Monday night.

The Irish grid girl was accused of having a sour face when Amber GIll and Greg O'Shea were announced as King and Queen of the villa ahead of Tommy Fury and Molly-Mae Hague.

Many fans claim that Tommy and Molly deserved the £50,000 prize, seeing as they are the only official couple in the villa.

28-year-old Maura has now confirmed her displeasure after the vote was called out, saying; "You know what, I'm not going to lie – I was shocked.

"Obviously, I love Greg and Amber to bits, but I mean, it’s Love Island. Molly and Tommy have found love, it’s genuine love, and I was without a doubt shocked. I thought they had it in the bag.”

She added: "It is Love Island and they found love." Maura also stuck up for her friend Molly-Mae after she was accused of faking her feelings for Tommy to nab the prize money.

"I don’t have a clue why – Molly-Mae is the most genuine girl I’ve ever met in my life. She is without a doubt besotted by Tommy, and they’re the perfect couple.”

The winning couple have since made their relationship official, silencing critics who hit out at them for winning after only being together for two weeks.

During an interview with the Mirror, Greg asked Amber if they were now exclusive. "I think that… yeah," she said.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Greg responded: "I don’t think it's in our nature to see other people. We’re both quite loyal and we’re really into each other at the moment even though it’s only early stages. So definitely we’re only seeing each other."

Amber's ex Michael Griffiths infamously cheated on her during trip to Casa Amor and broke her heart by recoupling with Joanna Chimonides. 

Greg notoriously kept calling him 'Mike', which was beyond hilarious, so perhaps the comment about loyalty was a sly (deserved) dig? We love it, Greg. Go team.

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Workplace romance is becoming a little vintage, it would seem. Except less fashionable.

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Just one-in-10 couples (11 percent) are now finding love in the workplace, according to a new report.

Nearly one-in-five romances in 1990 were forged at work, in comparison. Back in the day, things were clearly done differently.

They were also times when people stayed at the same job their entire lives though, and most likely met less people, seeing as travel options were less extensive.

The research was published in the latest 'How Couples Meet and Stay Together Study' from Stanford University.

Nichi Hodgson, author of The Curious History of Dating: From Jane Austen to Tinder, in an interview with Yahoo UK claims that striking up a relationship with a colleague is now “less sociably acceptable”.

Despite the fact that we're spending longer hours in the workplace, we are now more cautious than ever about a co-worker relationship turning into something romantic, according to Hodgson, due to the #MeToo movement.

The movement aims to tackle workplace sexual harassment and assault, and has been building since Tarana Burke started it back in 2006. It caught fire in 2017 after the Harvey Weinstein scandal broke.

Nichi Hodgeson claims that "workplace relationships need to be conducted very carefully to ensure there's no breach of company behavioural guidelines." I mean, it ain't that hard not to be a creep.

Hodgson also argues that we shouldn’t necessarily be disappointed by the end of the workplace romance:

“They don't necessarily show you someone's true colours – you won't see how tender or angry someone can be at work, for example, because the majority of people are on their best behaviour,” she says.

“Just because they're a good team player at work doesn't mean they necessarily will be in a relationship.”

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Online dating and apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and OK Cupid are now taking the lead in bringing people together, with almost one-in-four (39 percent) of heterosexual couples meeting through those platforms.

This is an increase since 2009, when the stats showed 22 percent of hetero couples meeting online, according to the Stanford University findings.

Meeting through friends is still a popular means of finding your future partner, but it's much less common than it was in the past. Over a third (34 percent) of people met this way in 1990, but it’s now just one in five (20 percent)

“Dating apps may have only been around for a decade but they have a radical hold on our affections when it comes to meeting a partner, mainly because they are so convenient in our ever time-pressed lives,” Hodgson says.

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“They're not necessarily leading to better connections though for multiple reasons – they create a paradox of choice, giving us too many people to choose between when social scientists tell us we get cognitive overload somewhere between five and nine options," she continues.

“Dating apps are encouraging us to be ruder with behaviours,” Hodgson adds, which is due to a “lack of accountability needed from users”. Overall, Hodgson believes that dating apps can still lead to a stable, long-term match. 

“When we do finally choose a serious partner from a dating app, we are likely to stick with them – we are taking longer to settle on someone but that is producing more stable long-term matches when we finally commit.”

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The Irish nation is undeniably in debt to the Duchess of Longford: Maura Higgins.

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The Love Island contestant has represented her country proudly, uttering the word 'tanks' at every turn and using her wily ways to nab Curtis Pritchard. 

We're all pretty dedicated to her for providing us with endless entertainment, but Naturally Fast Food brand LEON has taken the crown for possessing the most commitment to the grid girl.

LEON Ireland have pledged to rename their famous LOVe burger to 'The Maura Burger' for a day if the hilarious hopeful bags the £50,000 prize. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Her bid to win the Love Island crown hasn't gone unnoticed by the food brand, who recently opened their doors in Dublin's Temple Bar. Their gas offer is sure to turn heads and set pulses racing.

The day after the reality show's finale airs, The Maura Burger will come to life if the Irish hopeful bags the crown.

The burger itself will be exactly like the LOVe Burger, but with extra sauce on the side for some added spice. We all know Queen Maura loves a bit of seasoning and flavour in her life…

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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If the Longford native wins the show, the first 50 people to order The Maura Burger will get one for free in LEON restaurants. It's an offer we just can't refuse.

All customers must do is say “I got a text from Maura” when ordering and they will be offered a free side.

We're all about celebrating our icons with food, that's for sure.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Managing director of LEON Ireland, Stuart Fitzgerald, said;

Our team are addicted to Love Island and our favourite islander is definitely Longford native, Maura. Our team are 100 percent loyal to Maura so we thought we’d share the love with our customers."

The poor girl must have crippling back pain from carrying the ENTIRE series of the show. Don't miss out on LEON's offer, and remember your manners. As Maura would say; "Tanks".

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We all had plenty of respect for ex-Love Island contestant Yewande Biala, especially when she told Danny Williams (remember the travel agent?); "What goes around come around." 

As it turns out, her only regret from her time in the villa was not having the chance to couple up with Ovie Soko, who would have been PERFECT for her with his chill vibes and respect for women.

Ovie arrived during the Casa Amor part of the series, which Yewande just missed out on after being eliminated.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Danny Williams stupidly chose to dump the scientist in favour of newcomer Arabella Chi, and the Dubliner said that they should have brought Ovie in sooner for her.

"Where was Ovie when I was crying in the beach hut saying 'no one likes me,'" Yewande told RTÉ Entertainment.

"That would've been the perfect time to be like, 'Ok we're going to send Ovie in as the bombshell'." He's 100 percent bombshell material, we'll give her that. Yewande also makes a very good point.

She's a firm believer in the idea that "everything happens for a reason", but she admits that she'd have coupled up with Ovie if she had been given the opportunity.

"I'm a real firm believer that everything happens for a reason so I feel that if you did change something, I wouldn't have the outcome – it could be worse, it could be better, I don't know – so I think I'd just leave it as it is," she explained.

"I had an amazing experience, I laughed, I cried, it was great."

Ovie is currently in a friendship couple with Amber Gill, but Yewande is convinced that Amber is, "still too hurt from Michael and I don't think anyone's really going to work romantically, I don't think she's ready for anything romantically in that villa."

What about Irish hunk Greg? We saw sparks when the rugby player and future solicitor met her for a date in the Hideaway. Michael rudely interrupted the pair last night to ask Amber for a chat, the devil.

Yewande expressed her shock at Michael's toxic behaviour towards Amber since their split and Casa Amor recoupling with Joanna Chimonides.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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"It's shocking how he's treated her from that, because that's not the Michael that I know," she said.

"I really want to be like, 'What are you doing? Can you just explain your thought process.' I just don't understand what's happened. It's just really unfortunate because I really wanted them to win and I thought if they stayed together they were really strong and they possibly could've won."

We desperately hope Amber calls him a 'dead ting' and walks away, because if she goes back to that horrible man it sets an awful example. You wouldn't treat your pet pooch the way Michael treated her.

Yewande also opened up about life in the Love Island villa; “We’ve no ­concept of time.

“There was a time where Joe (Garratt) found out that you could check the time on the cooker and then they changed it so we’ve no concept of time whatsoever. We always guestimated when the sun came out.”

The contestants are filmed 24 hours a day, and are told to dress up every evening to create a party vibe in the house. They must wait until producers confirm that their filming commitments are over before they go to bed.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The Islanders are also gifted with ­sponsored wardrobes to wear for the duration of their stay and they avail of the laundry service once a week (but don't do any of the housework).

Yewande urged viewers to be aware that the footage they see doesn’t always portray reality, seeing as it's just an hour of television per day.

She told Virgin Media Television’s Ireland AM: “You are only seeing an hour of what went on in 24 or 48 hours so it’s really hard to judge a person’s personality by just watching an hour.”

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Yewande admits she’s also sceptical about Maura and Curtis' relationship;

“I just don’t know. When I was in there I didn’t really see it, but I’ve been out of there a while and I know that everything moves really quickly in there.”

She reckons Maura’s head could be turned by newcomer Greg O’Shea, a professional rugby player from Limerick who went on a date with Amber.

Yewande who reckons lovebirds Tommy Fury and Molly-Mae Hague, who are in a relationship, are “smitten”.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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However, she warned : “At the end of the day it is a game and not everyone is genuine.”

But while she may have left without a boyfriend, Yewande insists that;

 “It’s a great way to find love, not even just romantic love. It’s a great way to learn about yourself as a person. It’s also great to find an amazing group of friends.”

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Love Island's newest star Francesca Allen is finding herself in hot water after an old tweet resurfaced referencing Caroline Flack's former relationship with Harry Styles.

The show host was once called "a dirty paedophile" by the store owner when she was just 16-years-old, so we can't be judging her too harshly. Presumably she never thought she'd meet the host as well.

The tweet from 2012 was written by Francesca's friend Paige Banks, who took to the social media site to share the message; 

"Highlight of the day seeing Caroline Flack and calling her a dirty pedo with Francesca Allen hahaha."

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Representatives of Francesca shared a statement to the media, which reads; "This was a historic tweet that has not come from Francesca directly.

"Francesca can’t reply as she is in the villa but she would be mortified if she was judged based on the actions of a 16-year-old friend. She has a lot of respect for Caroline and is looking forward to meeting her."

Many of us remember when Caroline and Harry Styles were first pictured together as a couple in 2011, with eyebrows raised due to their 14-year age gap. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Back in 2015, Caroline revealed the massive level of abuse she received once their relationship went public; 

"It began to go wrong when Harry was pictured coming out of my house one morning," Caroline wrote in her autobiography Storm In A C Cup. "And once that was out, it was open season. After that anyone could say anything. In the street people started shouting at me “paedophile” and “pervert”."

The former couple dated for a few months throughout 2011 and 2012, after a 17-year-old Harry's "captivating smile" won 32-year-old Caroline over.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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"I already knew he had a crush on me, he’d made it pretty obvious," the Love Island presenter said. "It was flattering and I found it amusing. He was a kind of cheeky man/boy with a captivating smile who got what he wanted."

Francesca is seemingly unaware of the furore surrounding the ancient tweet, considering she only entered the villa three days ago. She's already caused a stir and Maura sees her as Public Enemy Number One after she chose Curtis Pritchard in the recoupling.

Shouldn't everyone dismiss the old tweet as teenage nonsense? Imagine if the things we wrote on Bebo when we were 16 were published, yeesh. We'd be finished.

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