The Fault In Our Stars actor said he loves a number of his male friends, “I’m in love with a bunch of my male friends who I’m not interested in having sex with, so why can’t I put the desire to have sex with women aside and let myself have love with women?”
Speaking of his co-star, Shailene Woodley, he said, “I love Shailene Woodley and we never had anything sexual and that was great.
We've all been casually swiping left on a loop until a gorgeous Golden Retriever stops us in our tracks.
Be it a golden-furred Labrador beauty, a tiny terrier puppy with baby paws or a King Charles; dogs melt our hearts and urge us to swipe right.
Many of us believe that inserting dog photos into our dating profiles will garner us more dating app matches, but now a representative from OkCupid may just have confirmed this.
Elite Daily spoke to Michael Kaye, Global Communications Manager at OkCupid, and according to him, adding pictures of dogs in your dating app profile is proven to make it more successful when it comes to matches;
"We actually have millions of dog mentions in OkCupid profiles," Kaye says.
"Users with dog mentions have a higher probability of initial conversation over those with cat mentions. They also have a higher reply rate."
OkCupid also discovered that a love of dogs is something most people agree on;
"We found that 81 percent of men and 80 percent of women on OkCupid like dogs," Kaye continues. "Additionally, 84 percent of women and 80 percent of men either own a dog or would love to."
Kaye also claims that has been a 422 percent increase in dog mentions on OkCupid profiles since 2017. Everyone must be catching on to the trend…
Gabrielle Aboodi, the Senior Account Executive for Tinder, also told Elite Daily that dating app users are in love with doggos.
"Users typically respond to photos that include animals or travelling shots," she says, adding that roughly 10 percent of both men and women include dogs in their photos.
UK-based pet food company Webbox carried out a two-week social experiment called Pet Wingman, where they tried to find out whether including your dog in your Tinder or Bumble profile boosted your chances of finding a match, and the results were positive.
Women saw an increase of 69 percent more matches when they included a dog in one or more of their pictures, while men saw an increase of 38 percent more matches.
For Tinder, women received 117 percent more matches, 150 percent more messages, 100 percent more super likes, and 122 percent more total interactions.
Men on Tinder received 30 percent more matches, 75 percent more messages, 200 percent more super likes, and 53 percent more total interactions.
Dog photos lead to just as much success on Bumble as they did on Tinder for male users of the app.
For Bumble, women received 22 percent more matches, 100 percent more super likes, and 30 percent more total interactions, while men on Bumble received 45 percent more matches, 40 percent more messages, and 39 percent more total interactions.
"Bumble users often include photos of their pets on their profiles, but they can also use Bumble filters and badges to specially match with people that are also dog lovers," Bumble's Global PR Coordinator Sang Lee commented.
"In fact, our data shows that our pet badge is one of the most popular badges alongside our star sign badge."
There you have it, single ladies and gents. Ruffly the entire population loves woofers, so kickstart that photoshoot and add some swipe right-worthy paw pics to your profile.
There are many things we’d like to forget about our teenage years; the emo phase, the streaky tan, the concealer covered lips, the cringey duck face poses and most of all- your first crush.
Whether it was the boy who lived down the street or Disney’s ‘It Boy’ of the time Zac Efron, we all had our fair share of playground and popstar crushes.
There are many we’d like to forget, especially ones whose names will forever be scribbled in the back of our geography copies.
We develop crushes from quite a young age, the average being aged 12, but we can’t help but wonder why we feel this way.
What causes the butterflies in our stomachs, the glint in our eye when we spot them in town, the feeling of frustration when we don’t hear from them and that elation when we do?
We spoke to psychologist Rachel Tomlinson about catching feels, feeling smitten and the impact it all has on our mind.
First things first, why on earth do we fall for people? We all understand just how complicated and stressful dating and relationships can be, so why does our mind crave affection like there’s no tomorrow?
“We have these feelings because humans are social creatures and we are driven to try and form relationships with other people.
“We want relationships and crave them. These relationships keep us safe, both mentally and physically and having reciprocal and positive relationships is good for our health and stress levels,” Rachel explained.
We all want to find the Harry to our Meghan, the Miley to our Liam and the Beyoncé to our Jay-Z, but it isn’t as straightforward as we wish it was.
We fret about what to wear for that first date, we panic about coming across as too eager or whether we are making a good impression.
We beat ourselves up when they don’t respond to us, we worry about winning them over or if they’re ‘the one’.
The impact it has on our mind is pretty intense at times.
“Having strong, mutually beneficial relationships (including romantic ones) make us feel good and give us a sense of social connection which is healthy. However, issues can arise when relationships end or crushes aren’t reciprocated.
“If people have recently become single or are experiencing overwhelming feelings of love and lust that aren’t returned it can result in stress, lowered immunity, poor physical and potentially exacerbate mental health issues,” she stressed.
We all want a significant other, crush or lover to feel the same as we do. We crave that attention, love and desire like a cup of coffee at 6 am on a Monday morning.
“Your brain responds to this attraction by signalling the release of chemicals: dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. These are feel-good chemicals and people can experience excitement, excess physical energy (including heart racing, sweaty palms etc) and giddy/joyful feelings,” Rachel continued.
Testosterone and oestrogen are also released and we feel lust.
This combination of chemicals gives us a rush like no other, but they can become addictive. “People often find that they crave the presence of their crush to get more of those feelings, resulting in (sometimes) quite obsessive thought patterns. Having a crush can feel as though your brain and body have been hijacked by this new love (or lust).”
It’s a natural feeling that has been built into our minds for generations and generations. Your 85-year-old granny once got butterflies at a dance in the 1950s. Your mam definitely swooned over Rob Lowe during the 1980s. Your big brother definitely shed secret tears when his childhood crush went to the debs with his best friend. Your co-worker certainly worries about what to wear on that all too important first date. The guy sitting next to you on the bus no doubt gets butterflies when bumping into his college love after years apart.
It’s a feeling we’re all going to have to get used to because as Emily Dickinson once said ‘the heart want what it wants or else it does not care.'
Most of us think about sex at least once a day, it's a perfectly natural phenomenon that's an integral aspect of our lives.
Of course, it's important to acknowledge that asexuality exists too, and people with low sex drives for whatever reason, medical or not. So if you're not having erotic fantasies, don't fret.
One question is on our minds at this moment in time: How can we know what generation were the biggest fantasy-addicts of them all, though? That's easy: Science.
A new study has confirmed that modern women spend THREE TIMES as long dreaming about sex than the women of the 1970s.
The sexual revolution of the late 20th century and falling levels of shame around the taboo of sexuality are thought to be behind the latest spicy trend.
Researchers from the University of Freiburg in Germany asked 2,907 participants aged between 16 and 92-years-old about their sexy-time dreams, and the results are fascinating.
Women under 30 years of age claimed that one-fifth of their dreams were erotic, while for men in the same age group it was one-quarter.
A previous survey from 50 years ago discovered that women thought about sex during sleep only one-third as much as modern ladies.
The gap between genders has closed over time, which the journal Psychology & Sexuality puts down to the rise of feminism and an awareness of intersexuality, queer culture and communication.
The report stated: "One might speculate that younger women in modern society deal with sexuality more openly that older women of previous generations."
An erotic dream is defined as having "sexually motivated" activity, such as flirting and kissing. The scientists from the University of Freiburg in Germany also found that 83.8 percent of two sexes had experienced a wet dream.
Studies which took place back in 1966 and 1998 found less than four percent of women and 12 percent of men confessed to having sex dreams. Maybe they were just being coy?
The research didn't go into the type of sex dreams women were experiencing in the past and present, which would be interesting to dig into.
Dream away gals, it's a healthy part of your lifestyle and is proven to influence the development of your sexual preferences.
You're essentially carrying out important scientific experimentation in your own brain, right?
1.65 million sufferers nationwide live with acute and persistent discomfort in Ireland, which takes a toll on work, sleep, leisure and relationships.
35 percent of study participants claimed that the persistent pain had deeply affected their sex lives, with 17 percent saying their pain had a huge impact on their physical relationships.
Chronic pain is defined by health experts and doctors as over 12 weeks of consistent pain, with the Irish Society of Chartered Physiotherapists saying three-out-of-four sufferers can't live regular lives
Among those with chronic pain, almost half reported that their ability to sleep had been damaged.
Dr Brona Fullen of the UCD School of Public Health said:
“Living with persistent pain is not easy. Not only does it impact on on physical well-being but also your mental health. Emotions such as worry, stress, anxiety, low mood, fear and anger can develop.”
The survey interviewed 1,000 people, with 434 reporting that they had suffered chronic pain at one part in their lives.
75 percent said that it had a negative impact on their social activities and exercise. 70 percent of sufferers admitted that it damaged their ability to take part in family life and playing with their children.
Chronic pain is costing the taxpayer billions each year, according to the ISCP. This Sunday marks World Physiotherapy Day, with the 2019 theme being chronic pain.
The normal tissue healing frame is three-to-six months, and most chronic pain conditions have no apparent biological value. The causes and cures of female pain disorders are especially under-researched.
3,922 British adults were quizzed on heterosexual relationships, and one-third of people (32 percent) think men need sex more than women (WOW) compared to only one percent who said the opposite.
45 percent of the study's participants said that they think a man is more likely to initiate sex, compared with three percent who believe the opposite.
43 percent said that both sexes were equally responsible for starting sex. One-in-10 of respondents claimed that a woman decides when the intimate act has finished, compared with 36 percent for men and 38 percent who said both.
"Although it's good to find that three-quarters of adults believe men and women are both likely to enjoy sex, what we clearly also have are persistent, widely held views about who sex is primarily 'for', who 'needs' it and whose pleasure matters,” said Sarah Green, director of the organisation.
"This is a cornerstone of equality as much as equal pay and shared parenting, but 'the orgasm gap' is perhaps not as widely discussed as some other key equality issues."
Interestingly, pensioners are more likely than 18-24-year-olds to believe both partners enjoy sex. People aged 65 and older felt both a man and woman would equally enjoy sex.
Among 18-24-year-olds, just 25 percent believe having sex is a mutual decision, while 50 percent think it is up to the man to decide. Just 10 percent believe it’s up to women to choose whether they have sex.
7 percent think women are more likely to "go along with sex to keep their partner happy", compared with only 2 percent who thought the same of men.
Dr Fiona Vera Gray, research fellow at Durham Law School and expert on sexual harassment and pornography, said: "This report shows how far we've got to go in changing outdated ideas about women as sexual gatekeepers."
Research has recently proven that men and women are equally aroused by sexual images, showing that sex makes no difference to the response to sexual visual stimuli.
The Max Planck Institute for Biological Cybernetics in Tübingen, Germany published the news in the scientific journal PNAS last month, saying; "Erotic pictures and videos are widely assumed to induce differential response due to sexual duality," the researchers stated.
This alarming statistic is only recorded amongst women who are even comfortable speaking to doctors about sex, meaning that a far greater number could be more accurate.
Another hugely concerning fact which the study expressed is that "large proportions" of women don't tell their partners when sex hurts, they simply grin and bear it.
This testifies to the notion that women often sacrifice their pleasure, not to mention their comfort, for male satisfaction. The assumption that “bad sex” simply means the absence of pleasure is a naïve one- for many women, “bad sex” can mean extreme discomfort and even agony.
Debby Herbenick, an academic from the Indiana University School of Public Health and one of those who incentivised the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour, confirmed this suggestion.
"When it comes to 'good sex,'" she commented, "women often mean without pain, men often mean they had orgasms."
According to another scientific article on women’s pain:
“Approximately 15% of women have chronic dyspareunia that is poorly understood, infrequently cured, often highly problematic, and distressing.”
The stigma surrounding problems such as the ones mentioned above is part of the reason why women aren’t discussing their sexual pain, especially not with healthcare practitioners.
Even if a woman feels willing and able to discuss her sex life with her doctor, the lack of research into female pain in general as well as in sexual medicine means that even more barriers crop up.
Being taught you were born unequal on a physical level instills a deep-seated inferiority complex, one I'm only starting to unlearn at age 27. When we learn we're naturally built for more pain & less pleasure, we come to accept lives where we experience more pain & less pleasure.
Other disorders such as vulvodynia, vestibulodynia, interstitial cystitis, vaginitis, vaginal atrophy, fibroids, lichen sclerosus and lichen planus (skin disorders), ovarian cysts and endometriosis have all been grossly under-reported, and awareness of these conditions is extremely limited.
Yeast infections, overly tight pelvic floor muscles, bowel problems and hormonal imbalances can also be major contributors to pain during sex, as well as STI’s.
BBC Three has recently aired a visceral visual essay series, where director Sindha Agha decided to artistically depicted the female experience of painful sex.
The beautiful video uses colourful imagery and imaginative props such as glass, metal nails, sprinkles, knives and fruit to parallel with the emotional narration:
Endometriosis sufferer Rhoda Hierons reads her own words aloud with a gorgeous and vivid backdrop, describing the pain of sex as “glass shattering inside you and embedding itself”.
Sindha Agha emotively explains the meaning behind her video: “I’m trying to create an external language for women’s innermost experiences,” she claims.
“As women, I feel we’ve been led to believe that many of our experiences are indescribable, incommunicable; that even when we can figure out how to talk about what happens inside our bodies and our minds, that we’d better not — that others don’t want to hear it because it’s too gross, too sad, too strange. Above all, that we won’t be understood."
System injustices in healthcare need to change if women ever want to truly understand and gain respect for their own bodies.
Women have never been given the tools to communicate their pain, especially not during sex. Language is not in a woman’s favour, even the medical understanding of the female anatomy is not where it should be.
Without the words, women cannot use language to communicate.
Without language, there is no voice that can even attempt to ask for the help that they desperately need.
For more information, check out some of these informative websites on pain and female sexual health:
She wrote: “There are SO many I love, but my absolute fave has to be Nick and Jess. I think about this kiss a lot."
Us too, Jenna. Us too.
Classic couples like Gossip Girl’s Chuck and Blair obviously made the list, alongside Brooklyn Nine Nine’s Jake and Amy
The SHEmazing team decided to share our fave TV kisses from our most beloved TV shows.
'Mine is Bill and Sookie from True Blood!
The early seasons of the show were brilliant and they were also a couple in real life – they got together while filming season one I think which is a nice added detail.'
-Jennifer McShane, Editor
'Jess and Rory's kiss in Gilmore Girls is so hyped-up – the sexual tension fizzes between them for months before it happens.
And you can see that their chemistry is real – they started dating after they met on the show, after all.'
-Aoife Loughnane, Editorial Intern
'When Rachel makes up with Ross. I think this was after the whole 'we were on a break thing'. But all of them sat down to watch an old home video of Rachel and Monica's prom.
Rachel crosses the room and kisses him romantically and we're reminded that nothing could ever come in between Ross and Rachel. I mean, they're Ross and Rachel after all.'
-Shayna Sappington, Editorial Intern
Emily and Paige from Pretty Little Liars, the journey for them both to overcome their fears about being judged for their sexuality is touching.
-Sarah Magliocco, Deputy Editor
'My fave on-screen kiss also took place in Stars Hollow. Rory and Logan's naive and intense relationship was just so endearing. The kisses shared on mornings in their apartment always made me turn to mush.'
Kissing is fun, everybody knows that. But who would have known that the act of smooching can actually give you HEALTH BENEFITS?
Does it heal your broken heart, clear your skin and boost your immune system? You're about to find out.
Strap yourselves in ladies, here are each and every glorious health benefit of puckering up. You should probably find someone to practice on…you know, for the sake of your body. It's a temple, isn't it?
Just don't do it like this:
According to a 2009 scientific study, when we kiss somebody, our bodies release hormones which can actually ease stress. In the case of men, it increases bonding too. We love a good bromance alert.
Oral healthcare, anyone?
Now, we're not saying that you shouldn't brush your teeth or use mouthwash, but allegedly, a good kiss marathon is great news for your teeth and gums. How? Listen up:
“When you’re kissing, you’re secreting more saliva in your mouth. That’s the mechanism that washes away the plaque on your teeth that leads to cavities.” A shift a day keeps the dental plaque away, girlos.
It acts as a painkiller (Seriously)
Your achy, break-y heart deserves some attention. Especially when you've got some form of cramps, like your time of the month.
Apparently, some lip action actually helps to reduce the effects of chronic pain. Some savvy scientists at Current Pharmaceutical Design conducted some research into smooching, learned that the “cuddle hormone” oxytocin is packed full of analgesic painkilling properties.
Oxytocin s released whenever you kiss and hug your partner, so do it as much as possible, we say. Blood vessel dilation after a good kissing sesh is great for reducing aches and pains, so when you're on your period, pucker up. You NEED it, right?
Hayfever or Bae-fever?
Anyone who suffers from allergies can rejoice at this news; apparently kissing eases itchy eyes and snotty noses (ew).
Researchers at Satou Hospital in Japan investigated the protective effect of kissing against allergies, and claim that locking lips for only 30 minutes can do wonders for the immune system.
It decreases the release of histamine (the chemical which is produced in response to allergens) as it relaxes you, and also can work miracles for eczema sufferers. Is there anything a great shift can't do?
No pressure, honeys
So apparently, kissing can even reduce your blood pressure? We've all felt butterflies in our stomachs and a weakening of the ol' knees, as well as a quickening heartbeat, and now we've figured out that kissing passionately does even more:
Demirjian explains: “It gets your heartbeat revved in a healthy way that lowers your blood pressure. It dilates the blood vessels, allowing blood to flow more freely, taking pressure off your organs, especially your heart and brain.”
Hot Diggedy Damn, we're 100 percent HERE for this science.
Let's talk about sex, baby, let's talk about you + me
Your sex life gets some HELLA drastic improvements from kissing; the two go together like Grace & Frankie, like women and vibrators, like Netflix and chill. You get the idea.
Kissing is also WAY more likely to increase your chances of having an orgasm. Lord knows we could use some of those…
As Carol Queen, the staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, explains;
“Kissing is a powerful type of foreplay… it helps increase the chances that both partners will have a good and pleasurable erotic experience.”
Face the Facts
So BASICALLY, kissing involves more than 30 facial muscles, which can be given a major workout from a good kiss.
According to Demirjian, tongue wrestling can strengthen your neck and jawline – very good news, as these are particularly tricky spots to exercise on a daily basis.
“Your mouth has a number of facial muscles,” she says. “When those are engaged in kissing, you can tighten and tone them.”
Tighten and tone, you say? Sign us up.
A perfectly-timed kiss can be the ideal mood booster. If scientists are saying it, then it must be true, right?
Puckering up can give your body a big-time release of happiness hormones, such as serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine. Ooh la la.
Those hormonal bad boys can help you relax, restore and revitalise your system. What more could you need?
NOW do you believe us about scientific research?
Grab that lad or lassie and get your smooch on, it's for your own benefit, and theirs too.
Your doctor has officially given you one prescription to visit the LOVE shack *winks*
Sex plays a huge part of our lives, whether you’re having it, not having it, wanting it, not wanting it and everything in between, it motivates us daily in ways we probably don’t even think about. Despite this, it’s still not an open talking point. Private Education, a new podcast hosted by Aisling Keenan wishes to change this taboo, by having informal and educational chats about all things sex and relationships.
The first of its kind in Ireland, the podcast is all about open communication and understanding in the hopes to lead to more acceptance.
Sex education is lacking in schools and this doesn’t stop once you reach adulthood. Having written about it for so long, Aisling Keenan found that there was a lot of interest in the intricacies of sex and different relationships but there weren’t enough people talking openly about it. Private Education is an open space for people to talk in a healthy, informed and comfortable manner, with no subject ruled out.
Learn how different relationships work, from gay and lesbian relationships to open relationships to being single in your 30s and 40s. Listen to what’s going on behind closed doors in a fun and often hilarious manner, with the aim to normalise the way we talk about sex. The weekly podcast is like sitting down with your friends to have a chat, with guests so far including James Kavanagh, Laura Young from Laura’s Views and Fionnuala Jay, Karen Constantine from Lovely Girly Bits and Catherine Carton from Dainty Dress Diaries, Laura Cunningham and Andrea Horan are also confirmed to feature over the coming weeks.
Topics discussed include sex education in schools, stereotypes in the gay community and the ten most googled sex questions, so each show has something for everyone. The podcast is for anyone interested in sex, relationships and sexual health.
Aisling Keenan is a freelance journalist from Dublin who was previously the editor of XPOSÉ Magazine and XPOSÉ Beauty Bible, beauty editor for U Magazine and beauty columnist for the Irish Independent Weekend Magazine. She is also a regular contributor on radio, having appeared on shows such as RTÉ 2FM, Newstalk and SPIN 1038 while also appearing frequently on TV3's XPOSÉ.
Private Education wishes to change the narrative and allow people to talk about things in an open and healthy manner. Did you know for example the most googled sex question is “Where is the G spot?”! Or what a Bear is in the Gay Community? Private Education has all the answers. It’s like sex ed for adults.