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Deciding what to do on Valentine's Day can be a major chore, especially for single ladies out there. 

It can be a frustrating time of forging through millions of Facebook events, restaurant promotions specifically for two and condescending Whatsapp messages of pity from friends in relationships.

Why not break a world record while trying to find love? Something for the CV as well as a future cuddle buddy would be IDEAL, and the event raises money for two great causes as well.

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An official Guinness World Record attempt will take place at the Custom House Quarter on Valentines Day 2019, and it looks absolutely unreal.

If you're single and ready to mingle, or just want to go along for the laugh (or have a competitive streak that can only be tamed by breaking records…) make sure to head to the CHQ speed dating event.

They need more than 655 attendees to beat the current record, and one of them can be you.

Maybe you're looking for a future life partner to walk down the aisle towards (seriously) or perhaps you're just bored this Valentine's Day like millions of us, round up your single friends and join the queue for a night to remember.

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Tickets are €15 per person and include a drink on arrival (very much needed), snacks and entertainment on the night. If you show your ticket to EPIC The Irish Emigration Museum within three months following the event, you get two-for-one entry. Second date alert?

Take home some hilarious stories, not to be told at family events, and maybe even some romance? Who knows what lies in store.

All proceeds from your tickets will be going to Movember Ireland and Breast Cancer Awareness too, so you'll feel extra wholesome after finding a match made in…well, not heaven but close enough.

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Get your tickets on Eventbrite, and based on your answers when registering you will be split into categories based on orientation and age (over 18s lads) to match you with your perfect date.As perfect as basic algorithms can manage at least.

Dates per person last three minutes each, so you'll get the sparks of love or just a few snippets of nice conversation/small talk, either way it's a win-win.

Matching will be done on a little app, where you can keep track of everyone you meet throughout the night. Think socially acceptable cyber snooping, like Tinder with a tracker.

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A link will be sent out to the app via email in January, and your profile can be created before the event.

The app basically acts as your wingwoman on the night; when you meet someone you can scan their QR codes and swipe right or left after the date based on if you're into them or would rather hide in a bin than ever see them once more. 

If you both swipe right, you'll receive each other's contact details, and then LOVE WILL BLOSSOM. Hopefully. If you remember your phone charger.

For more information on the event where you'll find your future baby daddy, follow the link. Y'all are welcome, enjoy breaking records for a good cause.

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What does it mean to be an ‘empowered woman’ in 2019?

The phrase ‘empowered woman’ is intrinsically loaded with underlying meaning and misunderstood perceptions. When many of us hear the phrase, most people envision a sexually-promiscuous woman who refuses to have children and most likely drinks scotch.

Arguably, its meaning has dramatically changed in the last year, ever since actress Alyssa Milano’s ‘Me Too’ tweet went viral.

2018 has not been the easiest of times for Irish women.

Watching the news everyday has been a tortuous experience, with violence against women splashed across every publication, the media raining debilitating double standards upon anyone remotely famous and the paparazzi splashing unflattering female body images across the internet.

Two massively painful rape trials have illuminated the imperative need for changes in the Irish law regarding sexual violence and assault, and the horrific way in which women are treated and cross-examined in the courtroom.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The Repeal movement was draining for everyone involved, the right to bodily autonomy is still undeniably under threat.

It’s worth noting that standards are changing all around us, lines are being drawn, boundaries are being set. Finally, I might add.

Women are always hyper-aware of the need for self-protection, especially when it comes to sex and dating.

We’ve all held our keys in between our knuckles as we walk down a dimly-lit road at night, we’ve all experienced unwanted attention on nights out, and we’ve all worried about what we wear, and the negative consequences our clothes could potentially bring.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Standards of relationships are changing in conjunction, as women entering the dating world have new questions which they are asking of potential lovers.

This also stands for workplace relationships, women are fighting back against pay inequality and sexism which are prevalent even in first-world countries such as Ireland and the UK.

Watching Little Mix and Ariana Grande fight back against Piers Morgan's recent sexist comments has been such a breath of fresh air.

The #MeToo and TimesUp movements have been eye-opening experiences for men, women and intersex people worldwide, with every facet of society examining its own behaviour with a new lens.

Unlike most men, women are expected to be looking for love around every corner.

During our teens and 20s, being single is depicted as a hugely empowering, freeing experience, yet a shadow dawns on the eve of our 30th birthdays: the misogynistic view that our biological clocks are ticking, and where on earth is our husband?

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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I have learnt many things from relationships, mainly that learning who you are can often only become a reality when you face tough aspects of life alone.

This is not true for everyone, of course, but many women in this day and age have to shrug off countless societal pressures and notions which are veiled in misogyny and shame.

Female empowerment in this article can only be relevant to my personal experiences, women are extremely complex beings and each feels empowered in totally different ways.

For women with disabilities, of different ages, gender binaries, classes and ethnicities, feeling good about ourselves comes in all shapes and forms.

Sex is power, #MeToo has taught me that. I cannot speak for other women, especially those in the LGBT+ community, but as a heterosexual woman, I have also learned many other hard lessons about the need to empower myself and have control over my body and mind.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Women are not therapists, we cannot be expected to handle the emotional baggage of other people.

We have enough of our own. Watching Ariana get blamed for Mac Miller's death is a primary example of the degradation placed on people for leaving toxic relationships.

 Ariana Grande has entered ultimate female empowerment mode, sporting a friendship ring instead of her recent engagement rock, and regularly posting images of classic film stars and female icon moments on her Instagram account.

Her new music video will be a tribute to classic movies with female leads such as 13 Going On 30, Mean Girls, Bring It On and Legally Blonde.

Thank u, next; Ari’s latest phenomenally successful single, pays homage to her past loves before declaring that her relationship with herself is now a priority.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Reports claim that her ex-fiancé, Pete Davidson, did not support her sufficiently following the death of Mac Miller, her former love.

Ariana explained how toxic her relationship with Miller was; she endured the pain of watching someone they love struggle through addiction but realised that it was expected of her to ‘fix’ his pain, to mother him through his issues.

Her realisation that she could not carry out this burden was imperative.

When Davidson joked about swapping Grande’s birth control pills on Saturday Night Live, the reaction was mixed.

Many wondered why controversy erupted over the comment, yet many reflected on the notion of literally trapping a woman into staying with you through pregnancy, a huge emotional and physical ordeal for women.

Realise that we are not defined by our relationship status, and to have a relationship with yourself can be an incredibly growth experience.

Letting go of the pressure to always have an ‘other half’ can be freeing in itself. Don’t underestimate the value of your friendships, especially female ones.

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SEX is empowering:

Learning what you like (this applies to anyone with a sexual partner- in a relationship or not) is CRUCIAL.

Women have always been expected to satisfy men in terms of sex, the language was never granted to us regarding how to communicate our desires, and how to find pleasure.

Consent in this country has always been a murky topic, hidden under the surface.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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I never heard the word mentioned until I went to college, and by the time I learnt the word’s true meaning, I had already had unconsensual experiences without truly understanding them at all.

Educating ourselves about consent, and only having relationships with those who truly respect us and our bodies can be incredibly empowering.

Learn how to say no, be selfish.

Women cannot be expected to please everyone, all the time. Often we have to work incredibly hard, in our employment or relationships, to get the achievements we deserve.

Learning to put yourself first can be a massive way of respecting our own mental health and practicing self-love and acceptance.

Ask yourself, what do YOU want, instead of what does everyone else want of you.

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Learning new skills

Self -defence classes, a new language, a skill such as website building, graphic design, even calligraphy. Why not?

If you have valuable assets such as the ability to drive, and even do nitpicky jobs such as online banking or tax can be empowering in terms of releasing yourself from co-dependence.

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Don’t let opportunities pass you by.

Go with your instincts. Do what you’ve always wanted to do, but always found an excuse never to do it. You miss 100% of the chances you let pass by, and you never know how much you can gain from letting your fears dissipate and challenging yourself.

Mental health

The importance of having a health mind can never be underestimated. Take personal time whenever you know that you need it, don't succumb to pressure. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Body confidence

Society makes it so damn hard to allow you to feel secure in your own skin. In a world with such fascination with image and beauty, loving yourself is a completely rebellious act.

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Everyone is unique, so don’t try to fit a beauty mould which will undoubtedly change in the next five to ten years.

In the 90s it was bone glamour with malnourished models such as Kate Moss on the runway looking like all they needed most was a McDonalds, and now the Kardashians have transformed cosmetic beauty into plastic surgery-induced curves, glossy brunette hair and big lips and bums.

Who knows what the next big trend will be, but why force yourself to look like someone else? You are worth so much more than what you weigh or what you see in the mirror.

Taking control of your love life

The laws of dating have transformed recently, with apps such as Bumble finally realising that women don’t always want to wait around for the right person to ask them on a date.

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Try asking someone out, the worst that can happen is that they say no.

Food and health

I lived in San Francisco for four months and had the most atrocious diet, and when I came home I vowed to learn at least ten easy home-cook meals that are quick to make, and have health benefits. Having independence in terms of your body and health can be crucial to an empowering mindset, especially for women with chronic health problems.

Career

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Finding career success can be a huge morale boost, especially for women. Success shouldn’t be based on how much you earn, but how much you love your job and how you contribute to bringing a positive energy to the world around you.

Fight to be heard at the table, realise how intelligent you are and how you should be valued in your workplace. Don’t let anyone invalidate you.

You have the key to your own happiness, no one else.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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To be totally independent, ‘empowered’ single gal has countless benefits. Find your own definition of ‘empowerment’, some women are empowered by their style, their job, their relationship, their sex life, and others are empowered simply by being happy in their own skin.

Whether you're feeling great and powerful totally covered up or completely naked, do whatever makes you happy.

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As Ru Paul the Great regularly claims, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”

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Happy to be single? You're not alone. 

A new survey has shown that more women are happy and content with being independent individuals than men. 

Retail analysts Mintel found that two thirds of single women are more than happy being without an other half. 

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The same could not be said for men to the same extent. 

Just under half of men surveyed said they were happy being alone, according to The Irish Sun. 

If you're looking for love on Tinder, look away now. 

Their study also found that that 70pc of singles are not actively search for a bae, and haven't been focusing on their love lives at all in the last year, according to The Daily Mail.

So careers, friends and family seem to come before love for those in the survey. 

However, around 40pc of adults worry about being forever alone (us too hun) and this figure rises in young adults. 

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Another day, another body shaming slogan to get irked by. 

Cropping up on Living Social is a tote bag with a message that's less than positive about the way we choose to take care of our physiques. 

With over 20,000,000 results for the slogan to be found in a Google search, it's clearly a popular turn of phrase. 

However, what does the context of the phrase really say about the way we view self care. 

To be single or taken doesn't define us as people – and that's a positive message to instil. 

But to then declare the third option as being 'at the gym' rather than caring about your love life, suggests that the only way to better yourself and the worthiest consumer of your time is to improve your body through exercise. 

'Let everyone know you’re focusing on you with a statement slogan tote bag,' reads the product description. 

'First you were single, next you were in a relationship, and now… you’re focusing on you.'

Ultimately, there are many ways to personally express self care, and I firmly do not believe that weight loss is one that needs to be promoted. 

We cannot say we're impressed, as it perpetuates a societal expectation that to be worthy is to be slim. 

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Yes, working out is therapeutic, and if you have the right intentions with your gym time, then amazing, but this tote is just another example of the assumption that thin equals healthy, and it uses body shaming to do this through the slogan. 

That being said, if someone chooses to devote their time to the process of augmenting their bodies through responsible exercise control, then more power to them, but to highlight weight loss as a focal point of self improvement is not what we're about. 

Thin, fat, muscular, curvy, all bodies are good bodies and this tote forgets that. 

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Getting into a successful relationship is something that most people truly long for.

However, not everyone is in a place in their lives right now where a relationship is something that's feasible for them.

Whether it's a high-demand job, a lack of interest, or just the fact that they haven't met the right person yet, not having a romantic relationship can sometimes be seen as a bit of a failure.

There are stereotypes enforced on single women, who are called crazy cat ladies and spinsters, doomed to reside in a state of perpetual singledom forever. 

It can be especially tough when your family consistently reminds you that if you want to get married in your early thirties, you better get cracking on securing yourself a fine suitor with a sense of urgency. 

There can be quite a bit of pressure to find the man or woman of your dreams, and this pressure definitely needs to chill for a second, because really, it's completely unnecessary.

While there are a million amazing reasons to get into a relationship, there are so many perks to being single.

We've picked out a few of our favourites:

10. You can get emotionally invested in TV relationships

Did anyone else cry when Hanna and Caleb split in Pretty Little Liars? Or when Susan and Mike were forced to call it quits in Desperate Housewives?

We can live vicariously through out TV peers without having the actual drama of a dysfunctional relationship. Win-win. 

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9. There is no one to mess up your Netflix preferences.

Speaking of TV dramas, our Netflix accounts are a perfectly honed medley of all of our favourite TV shows and documentaries, with the ideal suggestions in every second stream.

If we had to spend Netflix and chill nights with someone who doesn't share our exact TV tastes, we'd be very upset. 

8. Your bed is your sanctuary, and yours alone.

Some of us are just emotionally attached to our leabas, and having it all to ourselves is a blessing.

Cuddles are top notch, but if we had to put up with someone kicking, stealing the blanket or even snoring in our beds every night we'd lose our s***.

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7. More on the bed thing…

You can go to bed and wake up any time you want to, without worrying about accidentally waking someone up.

Or worse, being woken up by someone else, which would be completely unacceptable.

6. You invest time in building other meaningful relationships

Your best friends are your soul mates and you like it that way.

Sometimes, a romantic relationship can be all-consuming, and on rare occasions people can grow distant from their friends because of it, but when you're single then every night is girl's night. 

5. And when those friends are also single?

Having a best friend who is also single is pretty epic, it's like having a partner in crime for navigating the dating world.

And the nights out are unbeatable!

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4. You can avoid the drama of a relationship.

Life is full of enough drama without having to deal with jealousy arguments, splitting bills or in-laws.

Breaking up and making up is simply too messy for us to handle right now. 

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3. You get to eat all the food.

You know when the box says four servings, but your heart says one?

Well there is no one around to judge you for this, or worse, insist that you share that family-sized lasagne. 

2. You get to be selfish, and that's okay.

Sometimes you just have to focus on your own feelings.

Couples choose to be permanently respectful and considerate of the other's feelings, but when you're alone, you can make the best decisions to suit you without having to consider or notify anyone else. 

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1. You realise that you can be happy on your own.

One of the most important things to realise in life is your own worth, and being single is one of the best ways to truly become comfortable in yourself.

Learning about who you really are can happen single or attached, but singlehood definitely gives you more time to reflect on yourself. 

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So, no relationship? No problem. 

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Valentine's Day is fast approaching, and by now the single population have gone in one of two directions. 

1. A longing for romance. Bridget Jones style self-pity. Freezer full of ice-cream. 

2. Blatant cynicism. Can't believe people waste their money on this sh*t. Would rather hang out with their friends anyway. 

Truth be told, we've been guilty of both. It just depends on our moods really – and how many glasses of wine we've had. 

Anyway, it's time to shut the pity party down once and for all because science says you're better off single. 

A 2015 study conducted by social scientists Natalie Sarkisian and Naomi Gerstel found that single people were more likely to reach out to their social networks. 

As well as that, they also tended to give and receive more help and advice than their married counterparts. 

Factors like race, gender and income levels had little impact on the results, meaning that the findings remained consistent across most demographics. 

"Being single increases the social connections of both women and men," Sarkisian and Gerstel wrote. 

And of course, we all know the importance of strong friendships when it comes to overall wellbeing. 

In short – stay single, stay happy. 

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One of the most awkward things about being single at Christmas time is dodging questions from extended family about your aversion to 'settling down.'

As if a condescending 'tick tock' wasn't bad enough, those little reminders that 'if you want to get married when you're 30, you need to meet them now' has us in cold sweats. 

One family has made their only single child's relationship status clear in a hilarious family Christmas card, and we're here for the idea,

Comparing yourself to your siblings can be hard, especially if one is engaged, one is starting a family, and you're just chilling. 

 Emily Seawright and her family are going viral today, after they expressed their various statuses in their card. 

With over 321,000 likes, and almost 55,000 retweets, Emily's declarations of just being Emily is clearly relatable for many. 

Others have taken the opportunity to share their own similar family photos, and the thread has become something for a showcase of the singletons of the world:

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So, being the only single one in your group of friends isn't exactly a barrel of laughs. Sure, you wish them all the happiness in the world, but wouldn't it be nice to have your old pal back, you know, the way it used to be.

All of a sudden the time allocated to your BFF antics gets cut in half and you often spend Saturday nights alone watching ITV gameshows on repeat.

What's worse is when a group of couples insist you tag along on their night out resulting in a selection of awkward photos that'll make you ask – “What the hell was I doing with my hands?”

However, while it can sometimes be tough watching your friends frollic off into the sunset with their SO, there are actually a whole bunch of reasons why being the single one is a blessing in disguise.

1. You can flirt with whoever you want

You know when people in relationships say they don't miss flirting? Yeah, they're lying. 

Having the freedom to form a connection (however small that may be) with whoever you want, whenever you want is not only fun and exciting, it's a truly underrated perk of single life. 
 

2. You can spend all your money on yourself

You'll often hear your friends complain that they can't come out this Saturday because it's so-and-so's birthday in a few weeks. 

You'll offer a half-genuine "no worries, maybe next time", before thanking your lucky stars for your complete financial independence. 

3. Binge watch any series without anyone getting mad

Netflix cheating is a real issues and data has revealed that 46 per cent of people in relationships are guilty of watching ahead of their partners. 

In fact the phenomenon is so big, Netflix have released a series of videos with tips on how to deal with the ultimate act of betrayal. 

But that's not your problem – next episode please. 

4. You don't have to worry about why they're not texting you back

Let's be real, 90 per cent of the texts you receive are from your mam while the remaining come from the various takeaways around your local area.

And you know what? You wouldn't change it for the world. 

5. Your decisions are yours, and yours alone

Move to London?  Travel South America for a year? Go right ahead. 

Not that having a SO should ever stop you from following your dreams, but being unattached makes those decisions a whole lot easier. 

6. All the wingwomen you could ever hope for

There is no greater friend than one who will do whatever she can to find you a date. 

She’ll put herself in some of the most embarrassing situations without even batting an eyelid, because hey, what does she have to lose?

 

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So, in case you didn't know, August 1 marks a very important date on the Twitter calendar – National Girlfriend Day.

And of course, as with any national day, the twittersphere exploded with a series of posts marking the occasion.

Sure, some couples have used the opportunity to express their love and appreciation for one another, but we're not interested in that are we?

Unsurprisingly, the singletons of Twitter did not disappoint and they're cries for help are every bit relatable as they are hilarious.

Here's some of the best:

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Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and while we're happy for the loved up couples (really, we are) the forever-alone-feels are hitting hard.

However, fellow singletons have taken to Twitter to complain about the realities of being single on the big day.

14. Just be grateful this isn't you.

13. A little bit a lot…

12. Back in the day, when these holidays really mattered.

11.  Every cloud has a silver lining.

10. TRUTH.

 9. So real it hurts. 

8. Nothing if not consistent. 

7. Not planning on leaving the house.

6. At least the hint dropping and present swapping isn't a problem.

5. Even Tesco is slagging the singletons.

4. What a cruel world.

3. Get a grip girl, you don;t need no man!

2. Pizza never leaves you for another.

1. Maybe we will leave the house, but just to do this

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We suppose this is a little early Christmas present for Honey G fans.

Yep, the X Factor rapper has just released her debut single, The Honey G Show, just in time for Christmas.

In the video, the aspiring star references herself to big-time performers such as Kanye West and Snoop Dogg, and then even compares herself to Muhammad Ali.

Oh, and of course the track includes THAT call and response chorus (that we all love so much).

Even though Honey didn't win the X Factor this year, she's still hoping to bag a number one with this song.

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She's walked in all the major fashion shows and been in many famous magazines, but it looks like Suki Waterhouse has another career in mind.

The model made her singing debut last night as she shared her first single with her fans on Twitter.

Suki wrote: "I put out my 1st song today. It's called 'Brutally' & means so much to be featured in @lenadunham's #womenofthehour."

And fans really seemed to like her new path as they replied to her tweet with high praises.

One fan wrote in response: "Yay queen! So proud of you!" While another tweeted, "Suki your voice is soooo good!!!"

Well, we didn't see that coming!

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