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The popular dating app Bumble has finally created a new tool to fight back against unsolicited d*ck pics being sent and received by its users.

An AI named 'Private Detector' will be able to scan images sent in chats for signs of X-rated imagery and blur them out as well as assigning a warning.

55 million people use the app, which is claiming that it can separate out the lewd pictures with 98 percent accuracy.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The firm said: "With our revolutionary AI, we're able to detect potentially inappropriate content and warn you about the image before you open it."

"We're committed to keeping you protected from unsolicited photos so you can have a safer experience meeting new people on Bumble," the company stated.

Bumble is one of Tinder's major competitors, but works by only allowing women to initiate a chat with their matches. The app is one of the few that allows its users to trade images.

In June, the AI technology trained to spot nudes will start flagging possible rude images as soon as they land in your inbox.

The pic will be blurred and will also involve a message underneath that reads: "This photo is blurred to protect you from inappropriate content." Recipients can either block and report the image or open it anyway.

Private Detector was created specifically to tackle a plague of sexual harassment and abuse which has been streaming from dating apps for years. Especially for the safety of women, dating apps can be a dangerous feature.

A YouGov poll recently found that more than half of young women have received nude pictures online, and three quarters of images were unsolicited.

"The sharing of lewd images is a global issue of critical importance," said Andrey Andreev. "It falls upon all of us in the social media and social networking worlds to lead by example and to refuse to tolerate inappropriate behaviour on our platforms."

Andreev heads up Badoo, the network of dating apps which includes Bumble.

The organisation's bosses slammed a misogynistic "small-minded" fat-shamer in a recent open letter, and banned him from the app, according to The Sun.

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June is Pride month, in case you haven't noticed the onslaught of rainbows on every corporation's logo over the last two weeks, but we've got another matter in mind to address: Dating apps.

Most of us haven't yet realised that the most popular dating apps around are heavily tailored towards heterosexual, cisgender people.

Why not spread the love around, eh? Give queer people, gender non-binary folk, trans people, gay men and lesbians a shot at swiping right.

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We've gathered our top five best dating apps for queer people, so grab your Pride and get on the Swipe Slide. 

1. Her

Her is, without a doubt, one of the best dating apps for lesbian, bisexual and queer women.

Why? It's simple: It was made BY queer women FOR queer women, rather than just creating a heteronormative app and then tailoring it for lesbians.

We absolutely love Her's unapologetic approach to love, and their respect for intersectional inclusion for those of all races, sexes and gender-identities. 

Don't let the name fool you: The site is one of the most popular dating apps for both cisgender and non-binary people looking to meet other queer women or non-binary people.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The app allows users to create a social media-like presence through profiles and queer event suggestions, allowing you to meet people in the flesh. Love is in the air, for everyone this time.

2. Lesly

Dating apps created specifically for lesbians and bisexual+ women seem like few and far between; enter Lesly.

The site works similarly to Tinder, and uses photo-based profiles that you can swipe left or right for.

On this app, however, you'll only find queer women and no straight men looking to creep on lesbian women…Thank the Lord.

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3. Fem

Fem is a dating app geared towards lesbians and those interested in meeting lesbians. Despite the language, which appears to exclude trans people and gender-non binary folk, the app isn't only for lesbians.

Queer women of any and all sexual orientations and gender presentations use it successfully, and the app encourages users to make video profiles. There's also a group chat setting.

Making a video profile isn't compulsory, so don't worry if being in front of the camera isn't your thing. Just upload a killer selfie, and get swiping.

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4. OkCupid

While OkCupid began by focusing almost exclusively on straight people, it has now developed to become far more welcome towards the queer community.

The site have added a rake of new gender identity and sexual orientation option, and has more extensive user profiles so it's great for finding a real, romantic connection for a long-term, relationship/

They ask a huge amount of questions when you download the app, but the detailed profiles definitely pay off.

5. Hinge

Hinge sets up potential partners through their mutual friends on Facebook.

It only matches you with friends of friends, so you're never meet with someone too far outside of your social circle, rather than basing matches on location.

The site allows you to answer questions about yourself in your profile, meaning it's more in-depth than Tinder or BumbleHinge also sends you daily ‘batches’ of matches, so it's pretty good for progress.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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That sums up our top five dating apps for queer folk, but don't forget that Bumble and Tinder still work for the LGBT+ community, they just weren't initially made for them.

Grindr and Chappy are also KEY for gay men, with Grindr working incredibly successfully for hook-ups and Chappy supporting long-term gay relationships. All we can say is…YAS.

Happy Pride, folks. Find some romance, even if it's just self-love. If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love anyone else?"

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A new study by eating disorder charity Beat suggests that dating app users are “more likely to have unhealthy attitudes to weight”.

Those who use dating apps might be at a higher risk of controlling their weight through laxative use, fasting and vomiting, according to the research.

The American study is based on a survey of 1,700 adults. Beat stated that dating app users at risk of these habits needed to be offered support in order to reduce the risk of bad weight management habits developing.

Apps like OkCupid, Grindr, Tinder and Bumble have grown massively in popularity over the last couple of years, with men and women hoping to find romantic and sexual partners through swiping.

Physical appearance is one of the main attributes which dating app users evaluate when searching for a potential partner, with emphasis placed firmly on a person’s image.

The study was published in the Journal of Eating Disorders, with researchers comparing the behaviour of those who used dating apps versus those who didn’t.

Dating app users apparently have higher odds of engaging in six core unhealthy habits to control weight; vomiting, using laxatives, diet pills, using muscle-building supplements and anabolic steroids.

183 women and 209 men out of the 1,726 people surveyed claimed they used dating apps. Roughly half of men and women admitted to fasting in order to control their weight.

One-in-three men in that group and one-in-five women said they would vomit to control their calorie count. 40 percent of men and one-in-four women claimed to use laxatives…yikes.

The research also showed that men who used dating apps were more likely to use steroids and supplements to build up muscle, which isn’t surprising considering the six-packs constantly displayed on reality shows like Love Island.

The lead author of the study from Harvard TH Chan School of Public Health, Dr Alvin Tran, said they found higher rates of unhealthy behaviours among ethnic minorities, interestingly.

“While we do not know if the people in our study were already engaging in these weight control behaviours before using dating apps, we worry that the use of these image and appearance-focused services could exacerbate those behaviours.”

He continued;

“With the tremendous growth in dating app usage in the US, and an increasing number of studies linking their use to body image concerns and unhealthy weight control behaviours, there is a need to further understand how dating apps influence health behaviours and outcomes.”

Tom Quinn, director external affairs at Beat, said they welcome studies which can help to identify triggers of eating disorders.

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“Not everyone who uses unhealthy weight control behaviours will have an eating disorder, nor will they get one, but such behaviours can contribute to the development of the illnesses for people who are already vulnerable and can prevent recovery for those who are ill.”

He added; “It is important to note that this research does not prove a causal link between dating apps and unhealthy weight control behaviours.

“Nevertheless, it is important that dating app users who may be at risk of eating disorders are directed to sources of support.”

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We've heard some pretty quirky methods in our time of finding a soul-mate, but this has to be the most elitist.

A dating app in Australia named Toffee Dating is exclusively for those who went to PRIVATE SCHOOL, and you can just imagine how posh the conversations get. 

Sliding into DMs just got a lot more snobby…Tinder and Bumble clearly aren't upper class enough for these folks.

Lydia Davis, Co-creator of Toffee Dating, explained to 9Honey why the company brought the app from the UK to Australia. There's apparently a huge amount of privately educated people Down Under.

"In the UK, eight per cent of people are privately educated but in Australia that number is around 35 per cent. We felt that Australia would be the best place for us to roll out to first though as we were inundated with requests for us to launch there."

We have no words for this. Finding 'The One' is now about class, your education and economic background. Some app users must agree with the idea, seeing as it's lifted off the ground so quickly.

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The website has some fairly divisive words to promote the Toffee beliefs and framework:

"Toffee is the world's first dating app for people who were privately educated. We set it up because we know people from similar backgrounds are more likely to stick together."

"Toffee connects the right people to help them find their match with our sophisticated matching algorithm taking care of all your dating homework."

An algorithm works to generate matches based on hobbies and likes, such as adventure, sport, nightlife, city life versus country life etc.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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"The app has innovative personal interest and attributes 'sliders' where the user slides a cursor to show how much an interest in, for example, sport is important in their potential partner," the website continues.

"Secondly, whether it's a shared interest in horse racing or rugby, Toffee users can indicate which sporting and social events they are interested in or likely to attend, to further enhance the matching logic."

We're guessing it features a lot of chino-wearing polo players who love the conservative Tory party and probably got an overpaid job from their dad….

The hilarious ad for the app features ridiculously good-looking people (ugly folks don't go to private school, apparently) bonding over expensive champagne. They didn't stray too far from stereotypes, it would seem.

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Are you consistently getting ghosted on dating apps? Tired of always being left 'on read'? Completely jaded with swiping all day with nothing to show for it, and heading on disastrous dates every weekend?

Well, RTÉ Two are here to save the dating day, with their brand new show which targets young singles looking for love; Pulling With My Parents.

The show intends to follow people from all over Ireland who are stuck in a merry-go-round of bad dates and dating apps, and who are willing to go to drastic lengths to crack Cupid.

How drastic, you ask? Parental interference…that's how drastic. 

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Basically, you'd hand over the romance reins to Mum and Dad and see what happens. Sounds dangerous to us, but infinitely entertaining to watch. Sorry, not sorry.

Parents will roll up their sleeves and give their kids' dating profiles an old-fashioned overhaul, replacing those spicy selfies with something more regal in order to find them a suitable lover.

We're sure these parents will be needing a major crash course in emoji culture, and slang for social media. However, Mum and Dad will be trying some more traditional solutions to get their kids a son or daughter-in-law.

Be it a personal ad in the Farmer's Journal, good old arranged marriage or plucking a date from the local GAA club, these parents will go the extra mile to find their kids love.

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The series will no doubt be exploring the deepest corners of the generation gap, but we're expecting to be cringing the entire time watching it.

Think First Dates paired with Sun, Sea and Suspicious Parents, and that's the show you're looking at. We have to say, it sounds absolutely gas.

Does your Mum really know what's best for you? Does your Dad know how to find the man for the job? Why not apply for a chance to be on the show and track the love of your life.

Apply for the RTÉ dating app show by emaiing dating@Alleycats.tv, and change your love life today.

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Modern day dating can be a right pain in the arse.

If you're sick of swiping through endless shirtless selfies and grainy snaps that could pass for mugshots on Tinder, then you're not alone.

Which is why one woman decided to take matters of her love life into her own – magical – hands.

Kate Goth, from Devon, is not your average 30-year-old woman – she also identifies a s a witch. 

Which, it turns out, comes in handy when she's looking for a fella.

She said, ''I had suffered a few heartbreaks and so wrote down in my journal that I was off men for good. I would only accept a man whose charm and wit were the equal of my imagined vision of actor Tom Hiddleston.''

Personally I'd go for Adam Driver but whatever you're into.

BECAUSE GUESS WHAT – yep, she match with her very own Tom Hiddleston two weeks later.

She said, ''Adam worked in a furniture warehouse and was living 25 miles away in Tavistock.''

But the use of her magical abilities didn't end there, oh no. 

So Kate, determined to get together with Adam, headed into the woods to use her magical abilities to bring them closer.

She said, ''I went to this tree in the woods just outside Totnes, where I often go to perform magic rituals. I began by casting a protection spell around me and then placed down on the ground some bread and herbs as an offering along with three coins.''

Each coin represented a desire – abundance in fortune, happiness for her friends and family and abundance in love.

And it worked. 

Kate said, ''A week later Adam was made redundant from his job in Tavistock and came over to live with me in Totnes. I later told him what I had done and he was a little shocked – but that was back in May 2018 and we joke about it now!''

Right, pass us the spell book and expect to see us with a Timothee Chalamet look-a-like ASAP.

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When you get the opportunity to interview someone absolutely hilarious (and #famous), you grab it by the ladyballs.

So naturally, having a chat with the ever-hilarious (and sometimes outrageous) Charlotte Crosby was always going to be good. 

Rather than doing run-of-the-mill, boring questions, myself and my gorgeous work wife decided to go for a little quickfire round – featuring some well known faces – including a round of Taoiseach Tinder.

"Describe Ireland in three words" was our first question.

 

"Guinness, green and lucky," were Char's answers – and we can't argue to be honest. 

Moving on, we learned that if Charlotte could be any animal, she'd be a giraffe. This actually makes a lot of sense, because she's WAY taller than you'd expect.

In terms of super powers, the Char admitted that she'd love the ability to stop time (with a friend, of course) and just go about her business. 

Big yes from us on that one. 

 

Then we moved onto the good sh*t – the game of 'snog, marry, avoid.'

Now, when we told Charlotte about the game, she replaced 'snog, marry, avoid' with 'avoid, bitch about and go to Nandos with'. 

First up: Bono, Louis Walsh and Ryan Tubs. 

"I'd avoid Bono, sorry. I'd bitch about Louis because he was mean to us at X Factor one year, and I'd go on a mate date to Nando with Ryan."

Could not agree more. 

Then we went political, offering up Bertie Ahern, Brian Cowen and Enda Kenny as options – and we cried laughing at her response. 

"I'd avoid Brian, because his head is SO big it wouldn't fit through my door. I'd bitch about Enda because he just looks sly, and I'd go to Nandos with Bertie, we could get pissed together."

She pretty much hit the nail on the head there. 

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With Valentine's Day just around the corner, the ferocity at which we have been Tindering has reached a peak.

The more time we spend on the app, the more things we keep noticing about the calibre of potential love matches on the app.

Like how many lads can really play for their county? There seems to be a suspiciously large amount of them on Tinder.

And why put up a picture of you and a dog if it's not your dog and we will never get to pet it if we date you? Why toy with our emotions like that?

Here's a few other things about Irish lads on Tinder that wreck our heads. 

1. Posers beside tranquillised tigers

Whose second picture is them riding on an elephant. Or holding a sand bucket full of alcohol on beach wearing neon face paint with a flaming skipping rope in the background.

We get it, you've been to Thailand you daring adventurer you. Bonus points if their J1 was "the best three months of my life. Take me back."

2. New shirt, who's this?

As we scroll through the series of selfies and group shots, we notice a something sinister.

He's wearing the same shirt in every picture. Yes we get it, it could be his favourite, but donning the same threads every time he hits Coppers as his "night out outfit" just doesn't sit well with us. Or maybe we're too picky.

3. Group pic detective work

We really really hate when a guy only has a multitude of group pictures and, by process of elimination, we have to try figure out which guy he is.

How awkward if you swipe right thinking he's the cute GAA player and then it turns out you've matched with the bearded lothario who's definitely not your type. 

4. Holding a fish

Unless a guy is posing with a cute puppy who will be part and parcel of our first date, men holding various animals isn't all that attractive.

Especially if they're dead animals who have just been snatched out of a lake and are struggling to take their last breaths while a guy poses cheesily beside it. No thanks.

5. Beside a tractor

Irish guys love posing beside various pieces of farm machinery, and we're really not sure why.

Are you trying to tell us you have a few acres of farm land and, most importantly, road frontage? 

6. At the races

If there are damp patches on your shirt or tie from where multiple pints have been spilled during a heavy day of races boozing, we don't want to see photos of it on your Tinder.

Such drunken, laddish behaviour is rarely attractive, and no one looks their best after drinking a nagan before noon that they had to sneak onto the premises in their dress socks. 

7. The mysterious shirtless torso

Far worse than a pint splattered shirt is wearing no shirt at all.

Those lads who post shirtless pictures as all of their photo options simply scream f***boy, and ain't nobody got time for that. 

8. Your ex

Ireland, as we all know, is far too small.

You may have escaped the clutches of your ex by de-friending them on social media and deleting their number, but there's nothing to stop them popping up on your Tinder if they're in the vicinity.

Prepare to struggle with whether to swipe left or right, just to see what way they would swipe. Dangerous territory. 

9. Whose child is that?

Aw, seeing a man holding an adorable baba would melt our hearts at the best of times, but then the imminent question arises: Whose child is that? 

Kudos to the lads who tell us in their bio "there's me holding my lovely daughter," or "snap number two is of myself and my nephew," just to give us some clarity. We appreciate it. 

10. Just a car

The joke of "is he a bloddy Transformer or something?" gets thrown around a lot in this country, as some Irish lads have a special place in their boy-racer hearts for their automobiles.

It's all fine and dandy if the boy is flaunting a Ferrari for the craic, but posing beside an absolute rust bucket is never cute, no matter how proud of it he is, becasue we don't want to play second fiddle in a relationship to his Subaru. 

11. Up the GAA

As a country who holds the sport close to it's heart, it's no wonder that every second lad we swipe through is wearing a GAA jersey.

Sightly rarer are the rugby players and the hurlers, but they still appear frequently. 

12. D*** pics

If there are any lads reading this, please consider this to be a public service announcement: We do not want your unsolicited d*** picks.

We are sure there is a time and a place for that kind of carry on, but five minutes into a conversation about Stranger Things with a total stranger is not it. 

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There's something about January that makes people feel the need to search for the next love of their life, apparently.

Maybe the new year just makes us feel just a lil bit… broody? The first Sunday of the new year happens to be the most popular online dating day of the calendar year, according to Hinge.

Whether you're hungry for a new job, a new place to settle or a new gal or guy to send all of our heart emojis to, the turning of time urges us to reevaluate parts of our lives which may feel lacking in some way.

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January 6 is so popular in terms of online dating apps that it has been dubbed "Dating Sunday", and industry experts are predicting that 2019 will be bigger than ever for the online love world.

Hinge analysed activity data from 2016 until 2018, and saw a massive spike in conversations, as well as far more dates being arranged and a much higher messaging response rate. Gas.

In 2017 there was an increase of 41 percent of people who began conversations on Dating Sunday than the week before- and in 2018 that figure rose to 59 percent. Jaysis, these numbers don't lie, do they?

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62 percent more users set up dates on Dating Sunday in 2018, and Hinge also reported increased in daily user activity, with 20 percent more conversations being carried out and a 36 percent higher message response rate.

Singles who are seeking love clearly become influenced after Christmas ends and the parties simmer down, will you be swiping right today?

We might just go and update those profile pictures seeing as the competition is higher… bring on the messages, lads.

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We're ready for it. *Winks*

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If dating wasn't already hard enough – there's now ANOTHER trend to contend with.

Get ready to add this bad boy to the list as it's pretty ripe amongst daters.

Sneating is the name of the latest dating faux pas, that you need to watch out for.

The term refers to a person going on a date with the sole intention of getting a free meal.

Getting fed for free is their only agenda, and you can be sure after that bill has been paid, you won't be seeing them again – EVER.

The old phrase of dine and dash has caught up with 21st century dating and it's pretty horrendous.

However, there are 'sneaters' that are perfectly unapologetic about their behaviour. 

A serial sneater opened up to the New York Times about the trend.

"I could get used to hanging out with strangers for a decent feed. I’m hardly the first person to think of this – it even has its own dating term, ‘sneating’, which means sneakily chatting someone up solely for the purposes of a free meal – but I’m committed," she told the publication.

She continued: "I started being more strategic about the guys that I matched with on Tinder. Guys who said they were old fashioned or knew how to treat a lady were in."

"They were the ones who were likely to pay on a first date. Guys who said they were modern or into equality were out – they were clearly Dutch daters all the way."

"I started lining up one or two dates a week. Whenever the bill came, I did that lame thing where I offer to pay half but then don’t argue when he says he’ll take care of it," she added.

Right – so that's another excuse for us to stay at home in our pjs and to avoid the whole dating world – thank you, sneaters. 

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September 12 2012 completely changed the landscape of online dating, when a pair of entrepreneurs launched an app which would connect millions upon millions of potential couples. 

Facilitating hook-ups, true love, long-term relationships and the occasional unsolicited WhatsApp dick pic, the app revolutionised the prior preconceptions people had about dating online. 

Tinder brought online dating right to our phones, making it more accessible and user-friendly for the millennial generation – and on the 6th anniversary of the app's launch, we're reflecting on six tales of wow and woe when it comes to the app. 

Terror:

'I've had more horror stories than good when it comes to Tinder, but the one that almost put me off for life (almost!) was when the guy in question met me outside the restaurant and quickly explained he'd "had one or two" in the pub across the road to calm the nerves. This was fine. Dutch courage, I get that. But the whole evening was quite bizarre. He kept insisting that I looked like I wasn't having a good time and would I prefer to just go home now? I thought, up to this point, that I had been very chatty and pleasant – I was doing most of the talking! Then our food arrived. He quickly said the food wasn't great (I had recommended the restaurant, so…opps?) and then proceeded to eat the spaghetti – with his fingers. No, I'm not kidding.

Then, dessert time. I politely say I won't have another but would he like a coffee? He says I'll just order another. No, not a drink. An entire bottle of wine. Which he drank. To himself. He stumbled out the door and down the stairs (I don't know how we both didn't topple down and kill ourselves) and to the bus stop, while I wearily went to get a taxi and thought, 'Never Again.' – Anonymous

'As a single-mum taking on the dating scene, I don’t have much time to waste. Friends gave me a gentle nudge to dip my toe back into the water by trying online dating – let the hunger games begin. First off, 90 percent of men, once they found out that I birthed a child, disappeared. Secondly, I was very selective with who I chose to go on a date with, as organising a babysitter (thanks mum), and going out – is very much a luxury for me, so I wanted to make sure I would have a good night. Whilst I did have some success with it and met one incredible guy, we all know you’re here for the ugly – so let’s cut straight to it. I get asked to drinks by what seems like a relatively nice guy, we had spoken for a while and I got those good vibes.

However, the day of the date, I find his Instagram – cue 10,000 shots of him topless – okay, we get it – you’ve got abs to die for. My gut was a little worried about my find, but my brain talked myself around in still going for a scoop (BAD CHOICE). When I finally meet ab guy; the funny, charming and talkative guy online, had nothing to say for himself. I am usually quite talkative and am comfortable around people, but his silence threw me entirely – out came my word vomit and here commenced the digging of the grave for this date. I got more and more nervous to WHY ON EARTH this guy wasn’t saying a word, despite asking him a million questions. – Was it nerves? Shyness? Or was it me? After four hours straight of talking myself into several holes; he announced he was leaving. – Probably one of 30 words he said all night. – THANK THE LORD. BUT WAIT: He INSISTED on walking me to the Luas and thatten-minutee wait for the tram was torture. It’s fair to say we never spoke again, but the moral of the story is to always find their Instagram first and always pick coffee, never a drink for a first date. – That way you don’t waste as much time and you can make a faster escape. The strong and silent type might be for some, but this was unbearable.' – Sorcha 

'Tinder is great for the old ego boost but trying to get an actual IRL date locked in was harder than trying to choose a random movie to watch on Netflix. Too many choices involved and no one willing to make any kind of commitment. This date was different though. He was Brazilian and new to Ireland, and new to Tinder for that matter, so before he could know any better I suggested we meet for a drink and he suggested ‘Tomorrow?’ Sold.

The next night dressed in Penneys best, I found myself in JT Pims (a great first Tinder date bar) waiting for my potench new Latino lover to arrive. He walked in beaming from ear to ear, enveloped me in a bear hug and offered me a drink before legging it to the bar. I settled into my seat excited for what I hoped would be hours of fun and flirting.

Two hours later I was making my excuses to leave, but not before he told me that his heart was melting for me, he wanted us to travel around Ireland together, and that he could see himself falling in love with me. He bought me a rose and kissed my hands all over and up my arm and told me I was the most amazing woman he had ever met. ‘Um, I’ve got to go now’ I said edging towards the door, worried that at any moment he would propose or cling to my feet like in some over the top Disney movie. By the time I got home he had liked every single one of my Insta pics dating back five years and had sent me five messages trying to lock in another date. Block. Unmatch. Thanks but no thanks. Back to the drawing board….' – Ariana

True Love:

'Despite having very little faith in dating apps, I met my last boyfriend on Tinder. Well, not strictly speaking. I moved in to a new apartment with my best friend, and to celebrate, we decided to throw a housewarming party and invite everyone in the building. I knocked on the door of the girl who lived directly below us, and she agreed to attend our little soiree, so long as she could bring her boyfriend. 

By the time she and her man arrived, we were all already half cut, and while I thought her beau was cute I paid him little attention knowing he was spoken for, instead investing my time in the makeshift karaoke station we had set up (aka, an open laptop perched on the kitchen counter with lyrics videos playing on YouTube, using a hairbrush and a wooden spoon as mics). We had a quick, polite conversation on the balcony having a cigarette, and that was it – I promptly forgot about him after waking up the next morning with a pounding head and no voice from screeching The Kooks songs all evening. 

A few days later I was on Tinder swiping away, and got a message – 'Hey Sarah, how have you been keeping?' After a bit of confusion over the messages' familiarity, I quickly realised who it was and immediately had a crisis of conscious after he asked me for a coffee, wondering was I about to embark on a passionate, ill-fated affair with my downstairs neighbour's boyfriend. However, we went for that coffee, he informed me that they had broken up the night of the party after I presumably seduced him with my tone-deaf rendition of The Darkness'  I Believe In A Thing Called Love, and we dated for two years. Without happening upon me on Tinder, he never would have found me as he only knew my first name. We didn't work out, but I do have Tinder to thank for connecting me with my favourite ex-boyfriend.' – Sarah 

'Okay, so I moved across the world to study in the magical, Emerald Isle. But I swear my only focus was on studying and travel. There was no room in my life for a man. At least that’s what I told myself. But after a few weeks of loneliness and some late night chats with my roommate, I decided to give the Tinder app a try – for the fun of it. It was a good compromise. I told myself to go on some dates but not have to make a commitment I’d leave behind when I returned home at the end of the year. Then one day, a guy I had matched with sent me a joke out of the blue. Curious for the punchline, I messaged him back and found myself in bits at his reply. If you know me, you know that I love a good cheesy joke. Im talking pure dad-joke material. They’re my favourite. And this total goofball was full of them.

It went on like that for weeks, I think. I found myself looking forward to his texts. This guy, mind you, was shown in those carnival-sized sunglasses and a feathery boa in his profile picture. Fast forward, to a night out in town when we were talking longer than usual and discovered we were both in town at pubs right beside each other. He asked if I wanted to meet up and I agreed, after a few beers in me.'

My heart thumping to the blaring, cringe music in Dicey’s I found him looking for me. And he was wayyy hotter than that dorky picture on Tinder. He claimed Americans couldn't drink more than the Irish, and that was it. My competitive nature took over as I proved him wrong. (We still argue to this day over which one of us won). We spent all night together, talking and laughing amidst the crazy chaos in the club. And we’ve been inseparable ever since, surviving long distance and all the other stuff that came our way for two and a half years. Who knew Tinder was the modern-day Cupid?' – Anonymous

'My first Tinder date was the best one I ever had. It was with the Dutch courage of several few whiskeys in my local that I sent the simple, ''we should meet for a drink'' before he had even messaged me. After my initial disappointment that he wasn't tall, we spent the following four hours talking, drinking, flirting, smoking – it pretty much went by in a haze of tipsy splendour. 

What followed were a few months of being inseparable, but my J1 and summer in Boston were looming so we decided to split. It was a lot harder than I thought and after a goodbye letter/email/Skype, I remember sitting in a cafe down the road from my new apartment in Boston, trying to catch the shitty rays of Wifi and crying noisily into my phone to him.  We didn't make it, but I'm smiling even now as I'm writing this because it was a happy time. 

Tinder, you might seem like you're full of arseholes but occasionally, after a few whiskeys and a risky message, you come up with a good one.' – Aoife 

 

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You might be sick to the back teeth of app after app bringing out new features every other week.

However, as any dedicated Tinder user will know, numb thumb from excessive swiping is a problem that is all too real.

Another all-too-real problem is accidentally swiping past what I can only assume could have been your future spouse. 

I'm sure we all are familiar with this crushing disappointment. 

To avoid the boredom and sometimes heartbreak of continuous swiping, Tinder have come up with a solution. 

Their new feature, ''Picks'', helps to curate your choice when attempting to find potential matches.

 It sees what kind of people that you're swiping on, e.g the deep-quote-and-man-bun/the gym bunny/the constant traveller/the no-socks-with-shoes type etc.

Then Tinder ''picks'' certain people for you based on interests you have. 

That's like cutting out over half the people that you're the swiping left on. Sounds ideal, right?

Brian Norgard Chief Product Officer at Tinder spoke to Bustle about the feature. “Just like a friend who introduces you to someone special because you share common interests, Picks makes finding potential matches even simpler, more fun, and more useful.”

Before you get too excited though, there are a few little catches. 

It's only available in the U.K., Germany, Brazil, France, Canada, Turkey, Mexico, Sweden, Russia, and the Netherlands right now, but if all goes well it will be expanding to others.

It's also only available on iOS (it will be heading over to Android very soon) and you have to be a Tinder Gold Member to use it. 

Tinder Picks also vanishes after 24 hours so if you haven't swiped on them in that window, the chance is gone. 

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