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We've all been there.

You're in a new job, doing your thing, when the hottie from finance walks by and leaves you a red-faced, spluttering mess. 

Workplace crushes are completely natural, and what's more, they good even be good for your health and well-being. 

Well, that's according to Jason Hughes, Founder of Leicester Centre for Psychodynamic anyway.

Speaking to Stylist, Jason explained how the butterfly feeling could actually help us feel better about ourselves. 

“We all want to feel good, crushes are our imaginative and creative way of identifying those things we prize in others, which we struggle to see in ourselves.”

He continued, “Crushes help us to feel alive, help us to feel, and help us to imagine – this is especially important when we might feel that we are trapped in a routine, stuck in a job or relationship where there is little new and vibrant.''

“Don’t ignore them, but pay careful attention to them and what they might be saying about you…”

And if you think your crushing days are behind you, think again. Those lustful feelings can reveal themselves when you least expect it, even in adulthood.

See, crushes stem from the same part of the brain believed to be responsible for drug addiction.

We really are simple creatures. 

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There are many things we’d like to forget about our teenage years; the emo phase, the streaky tan, the concealer covered lips, the cringey duck face poses and most of all- your first crush.

Whether it was the boy who lived down the street or Disney’s ‘It Boy’ of the time Zac Efron, we all had our fair share of playground and popstar crushes.

There are many we’d like to forget, especially ones whose names will forever be scribbled in the back of our geography copies.

We develop crushes from quite a young age, the average being aged 12, but we can’t help but wonder why we feel this way.

What causes the butterflies in our stomachs, the glint in our eye when we spot them in town, the feeling of frustration when we don’t hear from them and that elation when we do?

We spoke to psychologist Rachel Tomlinson about catching feels, feeling smitten and the impact it all has on our mind.

First things first, why on earth do we fall for people? We all understand just how complicated and stressful dating and relationships can be, so why does our mind crave affection like there’s no tomorrow?

“We have these feelings because humans are social creatures and we are driven to try and form relationships with other people.

“We want relationships and crave them. These relationships keep us safe, both mentally and physically and having reciprocal and positive relationships is good for our health and stress levels,” Rachel explained.

We all want to find the Harry to our Meghan, the Miley to our Liam and the Beyoncé to our Jay-Z, but it isn’t as straightforward as we wish it was.

We fret about what to wear for that first date, we panic about coming across as too eager or whether we are making a good impression.

We beat ourselves up when they don’t respond to us, we worry about winning them over or if they’re ‘the one’.

The impact it has on our mind is pretty intense at times. 

“Having strong, mutually beneficial relationships (including romantic ones) make us feel good and give us a sense of social connection which is healthy. However, issues can arise when relationships end or crushes aren’t reciprocated.

“If people have recently become single or are experiencing overwhelming feelings of love and lust that aren’t returned it can result in stress, lowered immunity, poor physical and potentially exacerbate mental health issues,” she stressed.

We all want a significant other, crush or lover to feel the same as we do. We crave that attention, love and desire like a cup of coffee at 6 am on a Monday morning.

“Your brain responds to this attraction by signalling the release of chemicals: dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. These are feel-good chemicals and people can experience excitement, excess physical energy (including heart racing, sweaty palms etc) and giddy/joyful feelings,” Rachel continued.

Testosterone and oestrogen are also released and we feel lust.

This combination of chemicals gives us a rush like no other, but they can become addictive. “People often find that they crave the presence of their crush to get more of those feelings, resulting in (sometimes) quite obsessive thought patterns. Having a crush can feel as though your brain and body have been hijacked by this new love (or lust).”

It’s a natural feeling that has been built into our minds for generations and generations. Your 85-year-old granny once got butterflies at a dance in the 1950s. Your mam definitely swooned over Rob Lowe during the 1980s. Your big brother definitely shed secret tears when his childhood crush went to the debs with his best friend. Your co-worker certainly worries about what to wear on that all too important first date. The guy sitting next to you on the bus no doubt gets butterflies when bumping into his college love after years apart.

It’s a feeling we’re all going to have to get used to because as Emily Dickinson once said ‘the heart want what it wants or else it does not care.'

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Joanna Chimonides has posted a tearful video online after watching Michael Griffiths admit his feelings for Amber Gill on last night's Love Island.

The ex-Islander was dumped from the show on Monday, and reacted to the firefighter confessing that he can't get his former flame out of his head.

Drama ensued after Michael recoupled with Joanna Chimonides following Amber's stint on Casa Amor, where she remained loyal to him. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Amber was heartbroken after the blow was dealt, and had to experience him treating her like dirt over the next few days while cuddling up to new partner Joanna. 

Michael stayed in the villa after Joanna was sent home, which left both the Islanders and viewers confused. Joanna didn't hesitate to call him a "snake" as she walked out the door, without him in tow.

The Essex native took to Instagram Stories to reveal that the episode was "hard to watch".

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The firefighter spoke to Joanna's close friend Belle last night about how Joanna was "stand-offish" to him. Belle told Michael that Joanna won't waste her time waiting for him at home, rightfully so.

It's the same trend where as soon as the woman is gone, Michael starts bitching about them behind their backs and acts as if it's totally their fault that the relationship has problems.

Michael later decided to tell Amber how he feels, interrupting new Limerick lad Greg O'Shea's chat with her. The rugby player and solicitor also has his eye on Amber.

As the 27-year-old walks over to tell the Newcastle beauty how he feels, Joanna says;

"So obviously I've had to just pause the TV purely because for me being stand-offish is more me having respect for those in in the villa because someone else is hurting in there," Joanna told her followers during the show, referencing Amber's heartbreak.

"It's hard for me to watch this right now I'm not gonna lie." 

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Apparently, Love Island star and newly crowned villa villain Michael Griffiths has EVENTUALLY confessed that he still has feelings for Amber Gill.

This random U-turn is pretty chaldish to us, not to mention manipulative. The lad dumped her savagely for Joanna Chimonides after bitching about Amber behind her back, treated her like dirt, blamed her for Joanna leaving and made her cry.

Why is he choosing now to admit he was wrong? Ever since he made his decision to stay in the villa, there have been rumours flying that he couldn't let his ex-flame Amber go.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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In tonight's show, Michael finally admits he still likes Amber during a chat with a stunned Curtis, Ovie and Jordan. Ovie called Michael out for telling Amber to "sit down" rudely the other night, because he's a KING.

He says: "Now Joanna's gone I've had time to think about things and I do actually like Amber."

The change of heart comes just days after Joanna's exit, where she called him (rightfully so) a 'snake'. Perhaps he's jealous now that Amber has a hot date with Limerick lad Greg?

Michael replies: "I didn't want to hurt you, I take out all my frustrations on you. I didn't mean to hurt you." He never explained WHY he took his frustrations out on her, though. Suspish.

Michael is later seen pulling Amber for a chat, telling her he got jealous seeing her spending time with the new boy. It remains to be seen whether the 21-year-old beautician gives him another chance.

The pair had a tearful chat in last night's show, with Amber saying to him: "I really have got over the whole situation. I did feel sorry for you after the whole thing and I decided to be civil and nice."

We all remember poor Amber's face when she returned from Casa Amor without a new boy to discover that Michael has recoupled, and had plenty of rude things to say about her.

More recently, she confessed that she still has feelings for the 27-year-old, Lord know how, and he rejected her twice more. Will she take him back? We certainly hope not.

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Ever wonder what flavour your favourite song is? Yep, neither have we – and that's why we're a tad confused by this new machine.

Japanese company NOMLAB has invented a juicer, aptly named Squeeze Music, that turns your favourite song into a drink.

The machine analyses the emotional content of the tune, and then transforms it into liquid.

Each feeling has a specific genre:

  • Happy = Sweet

  • Excited = Sour

  • Romantic = Astringent

  • Sentimental = Salty

  • Sad = Bitter

And while music genres produce many more feelings that those five, NOMLAB is looking into incorporating five more feelings into the machines very soon.

According to Indy100, the developers of Squeeze Music said: "At a music festival for example, you can enjoy the experience to have a drink blended according to a song while listening to it at a gig.

"Moreover, we can mix alcohol so it could be served as cocktails in a bar if people want to try that out."

The introduction of alcohol has made it much more appealing to us… but is this just total millennial notions?

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Ah, the dreaded CAO form.

It was an absolute pain in the a*se back in the day, and as young adults, it put the fear in everyone.

Filling out the CAO form meant you were finally leaving behind secondary school (hurrah!), but with that, came the unknown. And that was hella scary.

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Where will you be next year? Will you be living at home? Will you be in the same college as your mates? Will you get your first choice…?

Here are six things we all went through when filling that rotten thing out:

1. It was SO important

You literally thought that this form was the most important thing you'll ever do in your life. Never mind studying… the CAO form was your future.

Three years later you realise it had very little to do with your future…

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2. It went on FOREVER… and ever… and ever

And ever. It might as well have been 768 pages long, and starting it seemed like the most daunting task on earth.

Even more daunting that finishing the rainbow course on Mario Cart.

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3. PRESSURE

You felt pressure from every angle imaginable. Your parents, your teachers, your guidance councellor, your friends. 

And when the pressure hits, it feels like you just can't make a good decision…

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4. Friends first? No?

Even though we were all warned against it, and told it was stupid, we all maybe, might have put down a university that our mates put down.  Just in case… 

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5. People telling you what to do was frustrating AF

'Don't do that course, you'll never get a job', 'Don't put that college down, it's too far away', 'Mary down the road did that course and made no friends…'

Sorry, can I make up my OWN mind, please and thank you?

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6. The relief

After all was said and done, you had a feeling of pure joy when it was all finished and filled out.

And you never wanted to hear the letters 'C, A,O', muttered ever again…

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Excuse you but there is a new Disney princess in town and she also a personal friend of Queen Elsa of the smash-hit Frozen.

Kristen Bell, who was the voice of Anna in the animated success left a dream-come-true voicemail for one Frozen fan. Avery Huffman, 6, was diagnosed with diffuse intrinsic pontine glioma (DIPG), last month. This means Avery has a brain tumour which cannot be operated on.

Kristen got into full Princess of Arendale mode to speak with her young fan. She congratulated her for being “so brave” as she continues to fight her illness.

She also let Avery know that her sister Queen Elsa would love to make her an honorary princess.

You can watch the full video below- but be prepared to experience some very intense feels.

Avery’s parents are also chronicling their daughter’s battle with cancer by using the hashtag #AveryStrong where hundreds of Twitter users have been leaving their messages of support. 

 

 

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The age old idea that ‘men don’t have feelings, they have muscles’ can finally be done away with.

A new study has revealed that while men reported feeling less emotional than women when presented with heart-warming content, the science proved that they actually felt MORE emotion than their female counter parts.

Mindlab founder Dr. David Lewis said that our media consumption has led to these gender stereotypes:

“Gender stereotypes about men being stoic and women being emotional are reinforced by our day-to-day consumption of media and our social interactions.

“We tend to oversimplify and exaggerate the perceived differences between men and women and are more likely to focus on evidence that supports our existing gender stereotypes.

“This study suggests that men feel emotion just as much as women, sometimes more strongly, but are less willing to express these emotions openly due to expectations put on them by society.”

A survey of 2,000 men was conducted to support the study, and it found that 67% thought they were more emotional than they appeared. 40% of 18-24 year-olds said they had cried in the last week, and 64% of men surveyed said they were surprised at how much emotion they felt when their child was born.

At last, some science to prove what we had always suspected!

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