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We've all been there.

You're in a new job, doing your thing, when the hottie from finance walks by and leaves you a red-faced, spluttering mess. 

Workplace crushes are completely natural, and what's more, they could even be good for your health and well-being. 

Well, that's according to Jason Hughes, Founder of Leicester Centre for Psychodynamic anyway.

Speaking to Stylist, Jason explained how the butterfly feeling could actually help us feel better about ourselves. 

“We all want to feel good, crushes are our imaginative and creative way of identifying those things we prize in others, which we struggle to see in ourselves.”

He continued, “Crushes help us to feel alive, help us to feel, and help us to imagine – this is especially important when we might feel that we are trapped in a routine, stuck in a job or relationship where there is little new and vibrant.''

“Don’t ignore them, but pay careful attention to them and what they might be saying about you…”

And if you think your crushing days are behind you, think again. Those lustful feelings can reveal themselves when you least expect it, even in adulthood.

See, crushes stem from the same part of the brain believed to be responsible for drug addiction.

Imagine how many workplace romances we're missing out on while we work from home. It's quite tragic really…


There are many things we’d like to forget about our teenage years; the emo phase, the streaky tan, the concealer covered lips, the cringey duck face poses and most of all- your first crush.

Whether it was the boy who lived down the street or Disney’s ‘It Boy’ of the time Zac Efron, we all had our fair share of playground and popstar crushes.

There are many we’d like to forget, especially ones whose names will forever be scribbled in the back of our geography copies.

We develop crushes from quite a young age, the average being aged 12, but we can’t help but wonder why we feel this way.

What causes the butterflies in our stomachs, the glint in our eye when we spot them in town, the feeling of frustration when we don’t hear from them and that elation when we do?

We spoke to psychologist Rachel Tomlinson about catching feels, feeling smitten and the impact it all has on our mind.

First things first, why on earth do we fall for people? We all understand just how complicated and stressful dating and relationships can be, so why does our mind crave affection like there’s no tomorrow?

“We have these feelings because humans are social creatures and we are driven to try and form relationships with other people.

“We want relationships and crave them. These relationships keep us safe, both mentally and physically and having reciprocal and positive relationships is good for our health and stress levels,” Rachel explained.

We all want to find the Harry to our Meghan, the Miley to our Liam and the Beyoncé to our Jay-Z, but it isn’t as straightforward as we wish it was.

We fret about what to wear for that first date, we panic about coming across as too eager or whether we are making a good impression.

We beat ourselves up when they don’t respond to us, we worry about winning them over or if they’re ‘the one’.

The impact it has on our mind is pretty intense at times. 

“Having strong, mutually beneficial relationships (including romantic ones) make us feel good and give us a sense of social connection which is healthy. However, issues can arise when relationships end or crushes aren’t reciprocated.

“If people have recently become single or are experiencing overwhelming feelings of love and lust that aren’t returned it can result in stress, lowered immunity, poor physical and potentially exacerbate mental health issues,” she stressed.

We all want a significant other, crush or lover to feel the same as we do. We crave that attention, love and desire like a cup of coffee at 6 am on a Monday morning.

“Your brain responds to this attraction by signalling the release of chemicals: dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin. These are feel-good chemicals and people can experience excitement, excess physical energy (including heart racing, sweaty palms etc) and giddy/joyful feelings,” Rachel continued.

Testosterone and oestrogen are also released and we feel lust.

This combination of chemicals gives us a rush like no other, but they can become addictive. “People often find that they crave the presence of their crush to get more of those feelings, resulting in (sometimes) quite obsessive thought patterns. Having a crush can feel as though your brain and body have been hijacked by this new love (or lust).”

It’s a natural feeling that has been built into our minds for generations and generations. Your 85-year-old granny once got butterflies at a dance in the 1950s. Your mam definitely swooned over Rob Lowe during the 1980s. Your big brother definitely shed secret tears when his childhood crush went to the debs with his best friend. Your co-worker certainly worries about what to wear on that all too important first date. The guy sitting next to you on the bus no doubt gets butterflies when bumping into his college love after years apart.

It’s a feeling we’re all going to have to get used to because as Emily Dickinson once said ‘the heart want what it wants or else it does not care.'


Most of us can cast our minds back to the innocence of childhood. Even more of us can probably remember when that innocence was shattered, when we fell hopelessly in love/lust with a cartoon character.

This is a safe, non-judgemental space to air our past and present animated crushes, and it's time we curated a list of Twitter's Top 20 cartoon heart-throbs.

From obvious choices like General Li Shang, Prince Eric and Danny Phantom to more obscure preferences (*cough* Shrek *cough*)…this list will give you a good laugh, if nothing else. Try to keep your heartrate steady. 

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1. Dimitri – Anastasia 

2. Shego – AKA evil Kim Possible

3. Milo James Thatch – The Lost City of Atlantis

4.  Prince Zuko – Avatar: The Last Airbender

5. Jim Hawkins – Treasure Planet (remember the earring?)

6. Moses – The Prince of Egypt

7. Nala – The Lion King

8. Daniel Fenton – Danny Phantom

9.  General Li Shang – Mulan

10. Tarzan

11. Jack Frost – Rise of the Guardians

12. Princess Kida – The Lost City of Atlantis, and Meg from Hercules

13. Robin Hood

14. Simba – The Lion King

15. Princess Jasmine – Aladdin

16. Kovu – The Lion King 2

17. Flynn Rider – Tangled

18. Prince Naveen – The Princess and the Frog

19. Chel – The Road to El Dorado

20. Finally, Captain John Smith – Pocahontas

We're feeling some kinda way after going through these swoon-worthy cartoon characters…

It's definitely time to re-watch some of those classic films too, for research purposes of course. It seems like a hugely productive use of our valuable time, doesn't it?

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Feature image: Instagram/@general.shang 


Love can be a tricky game.

If you fancy someone, it can be difficult to know if they like you back *cue hours of stalking them online and asking your mates 'do you think I should text him?'*

Sometimes your crush may act coy or sometimes they can be genuinely shy and you just can't gauge what they're feeling.

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Well, according to new research, your eyes scan people's bodies differently depending on whether you want to be platonic or romantic with them.

The study, which was published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour, studied 100 people and asked them to look at photographs of different people.

The researchers found that those who looked at the head and chest more were "assessing potential [romantic] mates," and those who looked at the legs and feet were more interested in friends.

"Eye gaze was a valid indicator of relationship interest. For women, looking at the head corresponded to greater interest in friendship, whereas for men looking at the head corresponded to less interest in friendship," the study said.

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The study concluded by saying: "Research on attraction tends to assume there is a fixed set of characteristics that makes a person desirable.

"This new study shows that what people look for in a prospective relationship partner depends on their relational goals.

"The same person who makes a highly desirable friend may not make a good mate," it added.


Earlier this week, Niall Horan left us blushing when he revealed to Ellen DeGeneres that Ellie Goulding would be his dream date.

Granted the This Town singer was caught in a game of Who’d You Rather with the comedic host, but after a round of quick fire questions, Ellie turned out to be the One D star’s perfect match.

Since the Burn songstress briefly dated the 23-year-old singer back in 2014, fans quickly began to speculate that Niall may still have feelings for his famous ex.

Last night the Mullingar man did little to dispel that belief, as when faced with having to eat beef tongue if he refused a question from James Corden, Niall admitted he would choose to spend his last night on earth with Ellie Goulding instead of his other ex, Selena Gomez.

As part of The Late Late Show’s Spill Your Guts or Fill Your Guts segment, James posed the question: “You’ve dated both Selena Gomez and Ellie Goulding.  It’s your last night on earth.  Out of the two of them, who would you rather spend it with?”   


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After much thought – and lots of laughter from his co-stars – Niall confessed: “Because it’s the last night on earth, Ellie is a big fan of Planet Earth by David Attenborough so I would sit and watch that with her.  For that reason, Ellie Goulding.”

And just like that, we're in tears!


If you were a lucky kid that got the Disney Channel on your TV as a kid, then you probably had the same crushes as Kendall Jenner.

In a new interview with W, the reality star said that she was "more into the Disney kids" growing up. 


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So basically, Phil of the Future (remember him?), Zac Efron, and the blonde dude from Sonny with a Chance.

But two more crushes that might be the same as you are the twins from The Suite Life.

"I had a crush on Zack and Cody from Suite Life of Zack and Cody," she revealed and then also said she fancied "Bunny 'The Jet' Rodriguez from The Sandlot."


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Oh, and Justin Bieber. "Justin was like the pop star of my time. I feel like I must have had a 12-year-old crush on him."

Well, there you go. She has a long list!


From carpooling with James Cordon to running amok with Ellen DeGeneres, Britney Spears has been making some very unusual TV appearances of late.

And it seems the pop princess’ spree of televised entertainment is not over yet, as she has just confessed to crushing on Brad Pitt on Australia’s Today Show.

While taking part in a game of ‘Question Roulette’, the 34-year-old singer admitted that the Allied actor was her first celebrity crush, before quickly remarking with a smile that he is “single now”.

This isn’t the first time Britney has made her interest in Brad known, as back in 2005 she joked that he must be thinking about her after news of his divorce with Jennifer Aniston broke.

One day Britney, one day…


She’s been linked to Alex Cannon, Spencer Matthews and Mario Falcone in recent months, but it looks like Geordie Shore’s Vicky Pattison has a new guy on her mind.

Appearing on The Xtra Factor last night, the 28-year-old reality star confessed she’s developed a pretty serious crush on X Factor hopeful Christian Burrows.

“I love him me,” Vicky told hosts Rylan Clark and Matt Edmondson.  “He got us all hot down the collar in that green room.”

After reminding the Geordie of a tweet she wrote in which she claimed she wants to “marry [Christian] and kiss his face forever”, the presenters then brought the 19-year-old singer into the studio and asked Vicky if she’d like to kiss him.

According to The Sun, that’s when things got really awkward.

As the former I’m A Celebrity… winner followed Matt’s instructions to give Christian “a little peck on the check”, the young performer buried his face in his hands with embarrassment.

But that didn’t stop Vicky – who at this stage was also turning red – from hugging and snuggling the focus of her affections.

Thankfully Christian seems to be over the initial shock of being kissed on live television as after the show he tweeted: “I actually love her to bits.  She's a right sort.”


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Meghan Trainor has revealed she fancies our own Niall Horan.

The singer revealed her crush after she admitted that when she was at an event with One Direction, Niall was the only one to go over and have a conversation with her.

Not cool, guys, But, fair play to Niall.


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"One Direction, give me the blonde one!" she told Love Pop Magazine.

"All the other boys walked by and he came up to me and I got swept off my feet by his Irish charm."

"I like normal people. I like funny, normal, nice people." she said.

However, rumour has it that Niall already might have a girlfriend, so Meghan's chances might be slim!



Your driving instructor, the barista with the AH-MAZE-ING eyes, your older brother's BFF… we've all had a few inappropriate crushes over the years.

Most of the time, they're just a bit of fun, or they might even end up progressing into something more.

But what happens if you fall hard for someone who simply doesn't feel the same, or worse, who is totally off-limits? 

Unrequited love might make for a great movie plot, but when you're feeling it in real life, it can be pretty tough to bear.

If you feel like your life is being overtaken by a crush that's going nowhere, clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula says you're not alone.

"We have all had them and will likely continue to do so all of our lives," she tells Women's Health magazine.

So what to do when that crush becomes more than just a flight of fancy? Dr. Durvasula has some tips…

1. Know that it's totally normal
Crushes aren't just for tweens who want to be Mrs. Harry Styles. Falling in love – no matter how logical it is – feels amazing, and it's something our body craves. So don't beat yourself up for falling for the wrong guy. You're not the first person with an unrequited crush, and you won't be the last.

2. Don't let yourself be strung along
If the lad you fancy is leaving you waiting hours or even days for a one-word text, despite being oh-so affectionate in person, you might need to give yourself a good talking to. "Unrequited crushes may like the attention and validation," says Dr Durvasula. "While they have no intention of doing anything about it, they may string the crusher along longer."


3. Know your own worth
Yes, relationships have their ups and downs but you should never be left feeling like you're not enough. Love "should be a gentle and reciprocal process," says Dr. Durvasula. "When we fight for it, we often lose sight of whether this is even the right person." Have a think about what you want from a relationship – are you going to get it from this person?

4. Keep your distance
At a certain point you need to accept that things simply aren't going to work between you two, and at that stage Dr. Durvasula recommends cutting contact for the sake of your own sanity. Even if you work with your crush, try unfriending or blocking them on social media, and avoid events where you know you'll see them… at least for a while.

5. Focus on meeting new people
Just because John in HR is the wrong guy for you doesn't mean you'll never meet the perfect man… but you have to be open to meeting new people. Put yourself out there, says Dr. Durvasula, and don't dismiss every new person you come across.



Otherwise known as the love of your life. You could be just waltzing through your day and then… there he is. Heart palpitations, heavy sweating and emotional warfare, this is the emotional cycle of running into your crush.

1. Internal Panic Attack Upon Sighting

The one day you don’t wash your hair right? You were not expecting to see him, and yet he’s just popped up in your life today. You pause suddenly, look around at places to hide while you figure out what you are going to do next.

2. Look At Your Phone, Avoid Eye Contact

Now that you’ve attempted to hide from your crush, the natural next step is looking at your phone. Because if he does see you, he’ll think “Oh she’s looking at her phone. She’s so busy and popular. I admire her.” Or at least we hope he does.

3. What The Hell Do I Just Do?

Time is running out! Either he is going to spot you awkwardly hiding behind that plant, or he’s going to not see you and go on with his life. But you are desperate to talk to him… aren’t you?

4. Calm down! CALM DOWN!

You feel the onset of an anxiety attack. You’re dying to talk to him! But you can barely compose yourself well enough to even come out from behind that plant! WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO!? Panic, so much panic.

5. DAMN! Did He See Me?

*Heart stops*

6. Can’t Look At The Ground, Then He’ll Know I’m Awkward

I was looking at everywhere else apart from you before you looked in this direction anyway.

7. PHEW! He Didn’t See Me…

Now you can now stare at him in peace.

8. Wait. Who Is He Talking To?

Is that the girl who keeps posting on his Facebook? Are they friends or? She’s too pretty to just be friends with him. He’s beautiful… they’re probably dating.

9. Sudden Onset Of Overwhelming Heartbreak


10. HEY!

That sounds like his voice. Was that at me?

11. OH GOD is he…he's walking over!

Act cool. 


*Internal high-pitched screaming*

13. WTF I Am I Gonna Say!?!

Maybe he does love me and he just doesn’t want to tell me, yet.

14. No, No Something Else!

Maybe, not that, either…

15. Ok, Just Be Coooool

I can totally be cool. Born cool. So cool. OH GOD WE’RE SHARING THE SAME SPACE.

16. When You Go To Talk

Hold it together woman.

17. All You’re Thinking About When He’s Talking To You

He’s so pretty.

18. “Well I’ll Catch You Later, Nice Talking.”

That went ok right? Time to come down from the emotional roller-coaster and day dream about your babies together.

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It’s one thing to like someone or be attracted to them. but it’s another to be completely obsessed with them. Not only do you think about them all the time, but you always fantasize about being with them as well. You might still think that you just like them, but really at this stage it’s more than just liking them. Here are signs you’re obsessed with your crush.

1. You always have your eye on them in class/work
The first thing you do when you go into your lecture/workplace is look around to see where they are. Once you spot them you will always have a glance over to see who they’re sitting with. You know where they usually sit so you’re seat is always in a position where you have a good view of them in class. It isn’t just a coincidence that it keeps happening.

2. You always seem to be daydreaming about them
It seems like you day dream more and more and you probably don’t even realise. No matter what, you will always end up thinking about them one way or another. You might start off thinking about something random like what you’re going to have for lunch, but sooner or later your mind goes back to them.

3. The only reason you go anywhere is to see them
If you hear they'll be at the library, you go. They're going to see that gig tonight, weird, so are you!

4. You get disappointed when they’re not in
If they don’t end up going to class or call in sick to work you’re severely disappointed and you feel let down in some way. 

5. You check their Facebook an unhealthy amount of times a day
If you always find yourself on their Facebook page, then you’re clearly creeping. You always have to check in on them and see what they are up to. Of course, every status that they put up, you will  always be the first one to like it.

6. You spend more time than usual getting ready
You obviously want to make an impression so you put extra effort into looking good. It’s mainly onthe off chance that you will actually bump into them, which is probably unlikely because there is so many people in your class. There is no harm in looking good, but if you seem to put way more time into how you look you clearly have a thing for them.

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7. Anytime you hear someone say their name your ears perk up
If anyone even mentions their name you will always listen in on their conversation. It’s more of a reaction and even if they say something that slightly resembles their name you will want to listen in on it.

8. You seem to always be talking about them to your friends
Your friends know a lot about them and they haven’t even met them. You always seem to be talking about them to your friends and even when you don’t mean it, they always seem to come up in conversation somehow. 

9. You wonder if they think of you, even though you don’t know them that well
You have talked to them a couple of times, but it’s always just been small talk. Then you wonder if they think of you even though they probably have forgotten your name. If you got to know them a little better than maybe they would think of you, but at the moment they probably just vaguely remember you.

10. You start to get into the same things they do
So you have a snoop around their Facecbook page to see what kind of stuff interests them. Then you start to get into the same thing they do, so you have something in common with them. 

11. You do in-depth research on people who post on their wall
“Are they just a friend, or something more?" You have to find out. Most of the time it is just a friend or their sister, but you will go to great lengths to see if they have any romantic connections with anyone else.

12. You start to compare yourself to TV couples
Along with fantasizing about being with them, you compare yourself to couples in tv shows. Ross and Rachel, Jess and Nick or Ted and Tracy, you always compare yourself to them even though you’re not even in a relationship.

13. You get really defensive when someone else talks bad about them
They might say something as small as ” I think they used to be skinnier in school” you will come up with some excuse for them as if you know everything about them. Literally any bad thing that someone says about them is a reason for you to get hot under the collar.

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14. They could literally do anything and you would still fancy them
They could be in court for drug charges and you would find some way to spin it,  as if they’re an entrepreneur. You’re blinded by your affections for them so it doesn’t matter what they do, your opinion on them won’t change.

20 Signs You’re Obsessed With Your Celebrity Crush

15. You read way too much into what they say to you
You think that what they say to you has some hidden meaning behind it and that their true feelings are underneath. If it’s only small talk then chances are, there is nothing more to it and you are just trying to make some out of nothing.

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