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That famous first day of college is so unbearably nerve-wracking. Many of us can agree that walking into the giant lecture hall of your new college is quite possibly one of the most intimidating experiences of the college experience. You hesitate as you open the door, stomach full of nerves and a head full of worries.

You’re surrounded by hundreds of new faces, new voices and new personalities, yet despite the huge crowds, you can be left feeling incredibly alone.

You try your best to make awkward chit-chat with the girl sitting next to you about where you’re from and how stressful public transport is (the 46a at 8 am is a true nightmare.) You laugh at your lecturer’s jokes that they no doubt repeat at the beginning of every college year. And breathe a sigh of relief after making it through that overwhelming first class.

As the weeks go by, you start to settle in. You make friends, you get into a groove with your coursework and revel in the entire college experience. However, this isn’t the case for everyone.

College can be an intense and isolating time for many people, especially when you’re attending somewhere like Trinity or UCD which feel like their own little towns themselves.

Some may find it hard to socialise, others may feel too nervous to get involved in clubs and meeting new people may just be too daunting for other people.

I felt so disheartened when I read a tweet by UCD student Niamh Murphy about something that happened in the Dublin college this week.

Niamh revealed that she had overheard a few girls mocking a guy for sitting alone eating lunch in the college.

“I don't know him or them but UCD can be a very lonely, isolating and anxiety-inducing place for many and a smile would go a whole lot further than mockery and shaming okay thanks,” she tweeted.

What that group of girls did angered so many people. We all know just how terrifying college can be and to have people sneer at you is the last thing you need.

Their secondary school mindset should have been left behind when they started college. The desire to be popular is something that we all need to give up on. Isn’t being valued and loved far more important than being surrounded by dozens of people as you eat an overpriced sandwich from the campus coffee shop?

Spending time on your own is an empowering and mature thing to do. There is no shame in simply wanting to be by yourself.

Embracing your own company is one of the greatest things you can do for your self-confidence. It takes a lot of courage and strength to do it, especially in a place like UCD that can be awfully alienating.

It’s 2019, it is about time we let go of that childish notion that being popular is the be all and end all of life.

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Nicki Minaj has come out in support of Ariana Grande after her argument with Grammy producer led to her cancelling her performance and appearance at the awards.

Minaj has blasted producer Ken Ehrlich for "bullying her for seven years" just days after the Thank U, Next singer called him out for "lying" about her.

The Queen rapper's comments come after she pulled out of a BET Experience performance when the network made fun of her for losing out to Cardi B at the awards.

She wrote on Twitter; "I pissed off the same man Ariana just called out for lying. Grammy producer Ken. I was bullied into staying quiet for seven years out of fear, but I’ll tell my fans the real on the next episode of #QueenRadio, they deserve the truth."

The Good Form rapper has not won a Grammy in her 16-year music career, which is a big surprise considering how successful she's been as a female rapper in a typically male business.

Sex and relationship blogger, Oloni, questioned her lack of accolades, saying; "Nicki Minaj has been at the top of her game for way too long to not have had a Grammy. I don’t know what white man from the boards she pissed off."

Minaj responded by thanking her fans: "Whether I read it or not, I felt it. From the bottom of my heart. I love you so much. So so so so much. Stay tuned."

Ariana also put Ehrlich on blast last week after there was a disagreement over her song choice. On Thursday the star spoke out about the situation, calling out Ehrlich for "lying" about her to the Associated Press.

He said; “As it turned out when we finally got the point where we thought maybe it would work, she felt it was too late for her to pull something together for sure. And it’s too bad. She’s a great artist. And I’d love to get her in the show this year.”

Ari wasn't too pleased:

She called bullsh*t on his statements, responding on Twitter;

"I offered three different songs. It’s about collaboration. It’s about feeling supported. It’s about art and honesty. Not politics. Mot doing favours or playing games. It’'s just a game."

"I’m sorry but that’s not what music is to me," she concluded, basically saying Thank U, Next. "Passed a Grammy’s bus with my face on it typing those." SASS KWEEN.

She later posted; "Hope that helps everyone understand my decision. ‘I am still grateful for the acknowledgement this year." She went on to win Best Pop Vocal Album for Sweetener.

Nicki is 100 percent team Ariana, that's for sure.

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Sarah Hyland has left social media following the bullying she experienced online in the aftermath of her cousin's tragic death.

Her 14-year-old relative lost her life in a heart-breaking car accident over the weekend.

The actress uploaded a Go Fund Me page to her Twitter, stating that a man named Jeffrey Eggerling was the driver who hit her uncle's car, and he tried to run from the scene.

"Jeffrey Eggerling is a murderer. May he rot in hell."

She also asked if her fans could donate to the page to help pay for funeral expenses of her 14-year-old cousin, which backfired.

The backlash came when Twitter users angrily stated that she could afford to pay for the funeral from her own salary, and that there was no need to ask others to contribute.

In a series of tweets, the Modern Family star explained the sense of grief and pain which her cousin's death brought, which was exacerbated by online trolls;

She continued; saying "your horrible negative ignorant words have broken me. Happy? Staying offline for a while."

She presumably has contractual obligations to promote her TV show, so the exception to her social media hiatus is for this purpose only.

Some Twitter users declared that because her net worth is roughly $9 million, she should pay for the funeral herself rather than asking her fans for money which they may not have;

Others claimed that we don't actually know what her assets are, and presumably she has already contributed to the funeral costs, which is no one's business.

Many fans rallied behind her during this tough time, and we agree that when someone is mourning a great loss, attacking their net worth is just a low blow.

We hope she can get through this difficult period in her life, and offer condolences for her cousin's death. 

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This year Strictly is deffo not short on dramz.

Fresh off the heels off the Seann Walshe/Katya Jones kiss, we now have actor Danny John Jules facing reports of bullying his dance partner, Amy Dowden.

The 58-year-old has come under fire over claims of abusive behaviour, with reports of angry outbursts taking place in the training room that had left Amy in tears. 

However, now Danny has taken to social media to suggest that it is the BBC themselves that are guilty of intimidating behaviour.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Slick Samba moves from Danny John Jules

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Reports emerged last week that the actor had been swearing and shouting a lot at Amy during rehearsals.

Strictly bosses told Danny they would not tolerate any more bad behaviour in recent meetings.

The pair appeared on spin-off show It Takes Two to address the claims.

Amy said, ''things did get a little bit intense the other day in rehearsals. But you know what, we took a half an hour break and get back straight to it.''

She continued, ''I’ve never felt bullied or threatened by Danny I really want to get this man to Blackpool and then to the final.''

What did Danny have to say?

''I would never bite the hand that feeds me, it’s the best dance we have done in the past couple of days since we have been on the show. And I’m just happy to go along with it. She’s the boss, she wears the pants. Why would I argue with a Welsh woman?''

However, now he has hit back at the BBC, tweeting, ''#FakeNews is in the mouth of the beholder’” along with a face palming emoji.

Fans were quick to comment, some defending Danny.

One wrote, ''she said she never felt threatened by him. So how does that equate to bullying? Don’t exaggerate things! Drama queen.'

His wife, Petula, has hit out at the bullying claims, tweeting, ''wow BBCstrictlyPR and BBCstrictly are really throwing Danny John Jules under that bus…I'm in shock…why are you trying to destroy him?''

Strictly Come Dancing: The Results continues at 7:50pm tonight onn BBC One.

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Lili Reinhart is so DONE with online bullies right now. 

She has always been vocal about the huge amount of attention that has come her way since she joined the Riverdale cast, and not all of it is positive.

Some of her fans seem to have trouble realising that both Lili and her co-star and real-life boyfriend Cole Sprouse, who plays Jughead Jones, are not actually their characters.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Since Shannon Purser shared an on-screen kiss with Jughead, all of the #Bughead army have been sending MASSIVE amounts of hate poor Shannon's way.

Shannon Purser has never been one to shy away from defending herself, like the true queen she is, and LIli Reinhart has her back.

The former Stranger Things star plays the character of Ethel on the hit Netflix show Riverdale, Wednesday's episode had fans up in arms about a plot-line that was totally out of the actress' hands.

Ethel told Jughead that he had to kiss her in order to get the “scripture” for G&G, so Jughead gave her a quick smooch and they both moved on. Sounds simple, doesn't it? Nope.

Twitter trolls proceeded to attack Shannon, calling her "fat" and "ugly" simply because her FICTIONAL character kissed Jughead. *Sighs*

The Sierra Burgess is a Loser actress allegedly posted a Spongebob meme accompanying the phrase: "All the stans who finally feel comfortable calling me fat/ugly now that Ethel has interfered with their ship.”

She then went on to add, "I’m not stressed about it, trust me. I just wonder what these people will think in like 10 yrs when they remember their twitter and realize they insulted and attacked real human beings for their character on a tv show…"

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The Riverdale fanbase is passionate, to say the least, especially regarding relationships. At the end of the day, the show is fictional.

While Lili Reinhart and Cole Sprouse date IRL, what happens to their characters onscreen is totally unrelated, but some viewers are still angry AF. 

Here's a lil video that the Riverdale cast made to teach 'Safe Shipping'. Watching characters fall in love and desperately wanting them to get together can be a draining process, but the actors themselves are here to teach you.. enjoy gals.

Feature image: Instagram/@Lilireinhart

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Kylie Jenner may seem like she has the world at her feet, with a new baby and a makeup empire that is estimated to soon make her a billionaire. 

However, in a personal Snapchat video, Kylie shared that she has not always been treated well by her peers – or the public. 

'Half of you guys think I'm weird. And the other half think I'm funny,' she said, in a video shared by older sister Kendall.

'But I've been bullied since I've been 9. From the whole world it feels like sometimes.'

Kylie went on to say that the video was not to be taken as a 'pity party' for her, but as a reminder to everyone out there who faces bullies that they are not alone, and not to change their unique way of being because of the negativity of others. 

'I think I've done a really great job in handling all of this. But there're bullies everywhere. So this just a little like Snapchat to tell whoever with their own bullies that the only opinion that really matters is yours and to never change.'

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Previously, Kylie has used her platform to start anti-bullying movements. 

Taking to her website, she wrote: 'Growing up in the public eye made me the target of bullying. When I was younger, it went on at school and even though I've graduated, now it still happens online.'

'Yes, it hurts, but I've learned to fight it. Fighting it sometimes means ignoring it, which can be really hard to do. For me the key has always been to surround myself with love, support and positivity.'

'I've also learned that if you feel confident, it doesn't matter what someone else thinks. Everyone's got an opinion, but I challenge you to be more than it.'

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Online influencers are a huge part of people's online lives these days. 

You follow the women you look up to, whether it's for their style, makeup routines or business savvy. 

As the influencer industry has grown to become a multi-million dollar concept, the competition to attract follows has too. 

 

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It's safe to say that living your life in front of anything from 20,000 to 400,000 online eyes comes with a certain amount of pressure to maintain an advertiser-friendly facade. 

For some, authenticity is the cornerstone of their business. 

For others, the pressure to appear perfect has led to accusations of photoshopping, alleged secret surgery and heavy editing. 

 

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Now, there is nothing wrong with throwing a good filter over a photo and maybe whitening your teeth if they were a little wine-stained on that particular night – most people now have a mini perfecting app on their smart phones. 

However, some influencers have been accused of having a very close relationship with the airbrush filter, which has spawned hundreds of blogs, forums, twitter, facebook and instagram pages and groups who discuss the various aspects of the influencers' photography. 

Some argue that as these influencers sell makeup, skincare and fitness products to their audience, it is deceptive of the influencers to then heavily edit their photos to make their hair, skin or physique look different. 

Image: Snapchat / rosie x

This heavy scrutiny has been labelled as bullying by some of Ireland's biggest influencers. 

Rosie Connolly, who has received massive praise for being honest about her skin issues in recent months, took to Snapchat to discuss her thoughts on the forums. 

'Have I had my lips done? Yes. Have I ever lied about it? No.'

Do I hate the way I looked? No. Still the same me, just with better brows, makeup and someone found me a hair toner.'

Image: Snapchat / themakeupfairy

She then uploaded a snap of her from her teenage years, side by side with a recent image.  

The Makeup Fairy has also been a topic of discussion on these forums, on which she has been accused of editing her physique.

The woman behind the brand Joanne Larby took to her social media to share times where she has felt insecure about her appearance, and relayed that she has both 'great angles and horrendous ones.'

 

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The makeup mogul also compared her situation to that of Mila Kunis, saying that celebrities have always been the target of criticism.

'I am the edited and unedited version,' the fitness model wrote. 

The specific type of anti-bullying campaign that the bloggers intend to conduct has yet to be revealed, but we can only commend them for addressing the criticism and for using their influence to positively impact their online communities. 

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Long before his wedding to Kim Kardashian and the arrival of their two children, Kanye West was in a long-term relationship with Amber Rose.

And following the demise of that union in 2010, Kanye chose to degrade his former girlfriend through song lyrics in a move which Amber today admits left her feeling suicidal.

In the same year that the pair parted ways, Kanye released two tracks, Blame Game and Hell of Life which detailed his time with the model and businesswoman.

However, given Amber's relatively low profile when compared to Kanye's, she reveals that his decision to slam her in public had a far-reaching effect.

"At that point, I have no voice at all. I have a couple followers on Twitter, maybe, at that point. That’s an extreme form of bullying as well," she told Complex Magazine's Everyday Struggle.

"To have such a huge voice to put out an album to say whatever the f*ck you want. It’s a great part of history and hip-hop, and I’m happy to be a part of it, but during that time, it was not a great time for me. "

"I’m famous and I’m broke, I don’t have any money, we weren’t married, he didn’t owe me sh*t, and I had to figure out what I was gonna do with the fame and with my life at the time."

Reflecting on the time that followed their split, Amber, who admitted she was utterly heartbroken by the break-up, continued: "If I was going to kill myself, I would have done it during those times."

Amber went on to admit that Kanye's decision to mock Wiz Khalifa, the father of her son Sebastian, in recent years left her reeling, saying: "You don't say nothing about my baby."

"I was quiet for so long. I could have got a reality show just off the fact that I was his girlfriend," she argued.

Refusing to cash in on a relationship which caused her such heartache, Amber insisted: "I could have wrote a book just off the fact that I was his girlfriend. I said, 'You know what? I'm a real a** b***h'.

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Cara Delevigne has been enjoying a slightly quieter life since she hung up her model it-girl boots to focus on her acting career. 

With nine movies and countless modelling gigs under her belt, no one could ever accuse the star of being afraid of hard work.

Unless you're a troll on Twitter, that is.

Now celebrities don't usually respond to online haters, but Cara decided that one troll in particular had gone too far. 

On a tweet where Cara expressed her excitement at her volunteering position in Uganda, a hater commented that the model "can't cash in on her eyebrows forever," and advised her to seek a "real job."

Cara clapped back, telling the troll that her volunteer work had absolutely nothing to do with her looks. 

"You are just a another thirsty man who puts people down for attention on twitter and who thinks that looks are all that's important," retorted the model.

"I have no time no another man trying to tear down a woman for being successful."

*mic drop*

Cara also responded to him personally in a series of reply tweets, in which the hater asked Cara: "Do you not know who I am? I've had a very successful career I think I know what I'm talking about."

Errrrr, okay, if you say so. Cara explained that she didn't know who he was and that his unsolicited advice was less than appreciated. 

"Well I am very famous so maybe you should update yourself on celeb culture. Anyway, I tried to help. Whatever," said the troll, who has 11,000 followers compared to Cara's 7.47 million.

The hater, named Brad "the Lad" Long, who claims to be a "media personality and showbiz journalist "who is "most famous for telling it like it is," did not relent his criticisms. 

Cara then proceeded to ignore him while tweeting images of her volunteering experiences in Uganda.

You go girl. 

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Another day; another set of snaps of a certain teenage reality TV personality and social media star.

This time, she’s on a beach in Mexico looking perfectly happy with her boyfriend of a couple years, rapper Tyga.

Kylie Jenner: whether we like it or not – and plenty of people don’t – the world knows her name.

 

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Don’t forget, she’s still just 19: an age when most of were grappling with our first real forays into makeup, romance, college courses, and part-time jobs.

But far from battling spots and teenage insecurity, Kylie is every-imaginable-angle picture-perfect. Considering her stream of flawless photos and videos garner millions of reactions on Snapchat and Instagram, it is little wonder that she has to be.

And yet there is a particularly loathsome, venomous response whenever Ms Jenner crops up on celebrity-heavy websites.

 

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“Frankenstein's monster, a fear-inducing but empty shell built by mad scientists for money,” sneered one observer this week upon reading the detail of Kylie and Tyga’s romantic beach getaway.

“Long live the new self absorbed plastic, sex object Queen,” wrote another – referring to the self-imposed social media demise of Kylie’s elder half-sister, Kim Kardashian.

A third comment read as such: “She's so nasty, pretty sure I got herpes just looking at these.”

 

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Ouch.

The comments went on: “I just threw up in my mouth a little. Please make it stop.” And on: “So sick of seeing this deformed teenager half naked.” AND ON: “Per usual, she's disgusting…”

Tyga – a 27-year-old with a four-year-old son from a previous relationship with Blac Chyna – hardly came out unscathed himself.

Many noted his ‘scrawny’ appearance and bemoaned his fondness for the tattoos which generously cover his skin.

 

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Still, there is no doubt that Ms Jenner – a member of the pop culture Kardashian-Jenner mega-dynasty – receives the brunt of the hatred.

Let's remember that this is a young woman who from the age of ten was put in front of millions via Keeping Up With The Kardashians.

A young woman who says she felt compelled to alter her lips when a boy in school commented on how ‘thin’ her natural ones were.

A young woman who has, in fact, admitted to being brutally bullied for years.

“Since the show started, there’s been so much bullying towards me,” Kylie told INTERVIEW magazine a year ago. “Every single day I see something negative about me.

“It’s just completely torn me apart.”

During a similar 2016 interview with Wonderland, Ms Jenner furthermore admitted: “Growing up, I’ve heard the worst things anyone could ever say about me and bullying was such a big part of my life, with the whole entire world judging me.”

And yet that bullying continues still.

People, it seems, don’t like that Kylie Jenner has had surgery; it appears that (although this is not confirmed) she has enhanced her breasts and her bum.

“Too young; too vain; too grotesque,” cries the online mob, with no acknowledgement that Ms Jenner – before all those changes in appearance – was happily referred to as KUWTK's ‘ugly sister’.   

Look, there’s no attempt to pontificate from any high horse here: we all know how the keyboard can lead otherwise fairly reasonable folk to say and do things they never would in ‘real-life’.

But the criticism en masse of Kylie Jenner is vile. 

It has evolved into a shamefully sustained, full-blown, and personal attack – and one that few of Kylie's fellow celebrities endure. 

So let’s instead give this incredible teen a hearty pat on the back: in the spotlight for half of her childhood, she has emerged out on the other side. Not on drugs or half-sloshed and ranting at the maid by noon – but building her multi-million dollar brand.

And that’s cause enough to celebrate. 

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It's not a good time for RTÉ at the moment as the station is dealing with several bullying and harassment complaints.

The allegations were made to the Humans Resources department in 2013 and 2014, but an inside source said that it has taken 16 MONTHS for the claims to be addressed.

Tensions are high in the station as it is, with many employees facing cutbacks, as well as having to face a €20 million loss in the past year.

According to a Freedom of Information response which was obtained by the Irish Sun, the bullying claims concern, "issues relating to behaviour and interaction, complaints about colleagues or managers, and issues/grievances with colleagues or managers.

The insider said, "There's a bit of a bad atmosphere in here lately – the financials are bad, a new director general is in, people are worried."

A spokesperson from RTÉ has now come out and said, "RTÉ believes that all staff have a responsibility to treat their colleagues with dignity and respect to ensure the workplace is kept free of harassment and bullying.

"RTÉ management is strongly committed to this and RTÉ strives to maintain a healthy, safe and productive work environment."

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Louis Walsh was interviewed during the week and had a few nasty comments to make about Jedward.

The Mayo man was talking to Woman's Own magazine and was asked what was the most embarrassing moment of his career.

Louis replied: "Working with Jedward and putting them through on The X Factor.

"I'm definitely not in touch with them anymore," he added.

However, John and Edward were at the launch of the Diana Award Anti-Bullying campaign yesterday, and they told Goss.ie that they had "survived" bullying in the past from a certain "ex-manager."

"I think me and John out of anybody, we're like survivors from negative press or bullying or ex-managers," Edward said.

"We are always striving forward, he'll be in the old people's home soon so it's all good."

Buuuurn!

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