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Game of Thrones and Dark Phoenix actress Sophie Turner has credited her new hubby Joe Jonas with helping her to break free of her mental health struggles.

In an interview with the Sunday Timesthe 23-year-old actress said she was “going through this phase of being very mentally unwell” when she met 29-year-old Joe Jonas.

Jonas is known for being one-third of the Jonas Brothers and lead singer of the band DNCE.  Turner, who plays Sansa Stark on the HBO series, spoke out about how hard it was to grow up in front of the world.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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“Having your adolescence being displayed in public, that’s something I really wish hadn’t happened,” Turner said.

"Being in the age of social media when that’s happening, I think I would be a much saner person if I hadn’t been documented from 13- your most awkward, uncomfortable, unsure-of-yourself years.”

Over the entire decade of filming, Turner claims her body changed and she was subjected to cruel online remarks. She started "calorie counting" and missing periods, and eventually went to therapy.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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“Suddenly, everyone’s metabolism slows down at 17, 18 and then that’s documented,” she told the outlet. “My skin and everything. People commenting on it. I was too aware of my body at a young age. And it just kind of took over my mind, it was all I would think about. Calorie counting, everything. Oh, I’ll just eat nuts today.”

The Dark Phoenix star continued to reference the dangers she was inflicting on her body, “I stopped having my period for a year- that’s when I decided to have therapy.”

When Turner was “going through this phase of being very mentally unwell,” she net Jonas at the age of 20, and he changed her life forever by encouraging her to love herself as much as she loved him.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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“He was, like, ‘I can’t be with you until you love yourself, I can’t see you love me more than you love yourself.’ That was something, him doing that,” she continued. “I think he kind of saved my life, in a way.”

The couple also broke up for 24 hours, which the actress recalled as "the worst day of our lives" to the Times. “For a second we both had cold feet, then 24 hours later we were both, like, ‘Never mind.’"

The GOT actress opened up about her struggles with mental health on Dr Phil McGraw's show, speaking out about her history of depression, and also got candid in a Marie Claire Australia interview last June.

“My metabolism suddenly decided to fall to the depths of the ocean and I started to get spotty and gain weight, and all of this was happening to me on camera,” Turner said.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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“Everyone needs a therapist, especially when people are constantly telling you you’re not good enough and you don’t look good enough. I think it’s necessary to have someone to talk to, and to help you through that.”

Turner wed Jonas in a Las Vegas ceremony earlier in May after the Billboard Music Awards. Previously, she spoke about the comments she received about her weight while playing Sansa Stark as a teenager.

“You see 10 great comments and you ignore them, but one negative comment and it just like, throws you off. It was just a lot of weight comments. Or I would have spotty skin because I was a teenager and that’s normal, but I used to get a lot of comments about my skin and my weight and how I wasn’t a good actress.”

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Jonas helped her realise that being in a relationship with someone functions better when you can love yourself as much as them.

“I feel much better. I’ve been doing therapy at CAST centres, actually. I’m on medication,” she said. “I love myself now, or more than I used to, I think. I don’t think I loved myself at all. But I’m now with someone that makes me realise that I do have some redeeming qualities, I suppose."

"When someone tells you they love you every day, it makes you really think about why that is and I think it makes you love yourself a bit more. So yeah, I love myself.” YES GURL.

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Mindfulness is defined as ''a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.'' 

In this insanely busy world that we live in, life goes by fast.

Between social media meaning that we always have to be ''on'', the working day stretching into the evening, it's like we're in a permanent state of exhaustion.

So, it's more important than ever to take a few moments a day to gather your thoughts. 

To just be.

And that's where mindfulness comes in – so here are a few easy ways to grab a quiet moment and centre yourself before all the madness starts again. 

1. Essential Oils

Essential oils are amazing for a range of things. 

Not only do they smell delicious but they can help soothe the mind more than you think. 

So how do they help bring about a sense of instant calm when you're in a chaotic day?

Apply one to your wrists, temples, behind the ears and the soles of your feet. Enjoy the relaxing smell; breathe in and out slowly and deeply.

Notice your breathing and your posture. Be aware of your body and any thoughts just let them flow by you for a few minutes. 

2.Tea

Nothing beats a cuppa tea.

And now you can try a mindful tea-drinking ritual that will remind you to be conscious in the now.

Pour a cup of your choice and find a quiet place to sip it – and make sure to just sip it.

Taste each mouthful and close your eyes, challenging all your energy into you, sitting in the chair, enjoying how it tastes and smells.

Be aware of your sensations and if you have a thought, let it enter into and then pass through your mind without following it.

3. A Bath 

A bath is a pace of privacy, serenity, and relaxation – what better place to practice mindfulness?

make sure that you won't be interrupted, before filling the bath with bubble bath or salts.

Again, let go of all other thoughts and try to focus on the sensations you feel in your body – the warmth of the water on your skin, the bath against your back.

You won't want to get back to the real world – but when you do, you will feel reinvigorated and full of energy. 

4. Yoga

Some people adore yoga while others think it isn't for them.

To get a few moments of peaceful mindfulness, it is an ideal thing to try.

When sat on a mat, forget about wanting to be more flexible or losing weight and just take a deep breath in and out. 

Focus on every part of your body while you are doing each pose – empty your mind of anything but how your body is positioned and how the feelings in each muscle.

5. Breathe

Try this one technique known as The Stimulating Breath – it raises energy and increases alertness.

Inhale and exhale quickly through your nose, keeping your mouth closed. Your breaths in and out should as short as possible. 

Try three in-and-out breath cycles per second – this produces a quick movement of the diaphragm.

Breathe normally after each cycle and don't do for more than 15 seconds on your first try. 

6. Eat Lunch

It might sound stupid, but taking time to zone in on what you're actually doing can shift your whole mindset. 

With a small portion, take a minute or two to appreciate the healthy food on your plate. 

Then, while taking small bites, bring all of your sense to the meal.

Chew thoroughly and try to identify all of the flavours and seasonings. 

Eat your food slowly and you might find that you're enjoying the meal a lot more than you normally would…because you're present in the moment.  

7. Walk 

A breath of fresh air is always good for the mind – but you can actually go for a 10-15-minute stroll and practice mindfulness the whole way through. 

When you're out,  pay attention to each step you take – to the lifting and falling of your foot.

Notice movement in your legs, how your arms swing, how your back feels. 

We know our mind wanders, so try to bring it back to the present moment when it does. 

Shift your attention to the sounds around you – a bird crowing, someone mowing their grass.

Also, tune into the smells as you walk – flowers blooming, etc.

As you finish your stroll, bring your mind back to your body and the sensations in each part.  

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It is Mental Health Awareness Week and we reached out to our readers to have a frank and honest chat about mental health and the workplace.

If you’re suffering with mental health issues like depression or an anxiety disorder, then you know all too well that there are days when going into the office feels completely and utterly impossible.

You may be too anxious to get on your train or maybe your depression is so severe you can’t even manage to get yourself out of bed.

They are real and valid issues, but why are we so afraid to talk about them?

52 percent of SHEmazing readers said they have taken a ‘mental health’ day from work, but more often than not we give our boss a different reason for our absence.

There are so many incredible people working hard to break the stigma surrounding mental health disorders, but we still live in fear of telling someone that ‘I can’t go to work this morning because I’ve had a massive panic attack.’

We can often feel ashamed or embarrassed when opening up about our mental health issues, but why is this?

A fear of not being taken seriously is one of the biggest reasons. When asked if they felt comfortable talking to their boss about their mental health issues, a striking 83 percent of our readers said no.

So, what can workplaces do to help their employees when it comes to their mental health because saying ‘it is okay not to be okay’ simply isn’t enough anymore.

With suicide rates increasing, we need to provide proper services and support for those suffering.

Our readers had some incredible recommendations about what can be done to support mental health in the workplace.

One reader said: “There should be a liaison officer in your workplace that you can speak to that will keep your anonymity and help you.”

“Allow employees to take a mental health day,” was one of the biggest recommendations.

Others said meditation classes, yoga, flexi-time and regular reminders about self-care would also help.

However, the recommendation that stood out the most was to simply treat it like any other illness. You wouldn’t expect an employee with a flu or broken leg to trek into the office so why should those with crippling depression or a panic disorder feel pressured to show up on days when they feel as low as can be?

Support the See Change campaign this week by wearing a green ribbon and showing those who are suffering that they are never alone.

It is time to put an end to mental health stigma.

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Love Island bosses have apparently decided to not pay an on-air tribute to reality star Mike Thalassitis at the beginning of season five.

The former contestant, who took part on the 2017 series alongside Chris Hughes, Kem Cetinay and Olivia Attwood, was found dead in the woods near North London in March.

It is believed that the 26-year-old tragically took his own life after his experience with mental health issues. The inquest into his death is scheduled for this month, so more information is incoming.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The Love Island producers have decided to honour Mike in a tribute on ITV’s on-demand service, which plays the 2017 series and will soon be available as a box-set.

An insider told The Sun: "It felt more appropriate to do it there." It was recently claimed that contestants will have to pass STI tests and mental health screenings to gain acceptance to the new series following Mike's death.

“Bosses want stars to be safe mentally and physically. Their biggest nightmare would be someone contracting an STI, so potential contestants must have several rounds of medical tests," the source continued.

"Advance sessions with counsellors and psychologists have been ramped up to ensure that everyone can handle the fame.They are prepared to cut potentially strong personalities from the line-up if there is any hint of mental instability."

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The hugely popular TV dating show returns the first weekend of June with a brand new crop of hopefuls seeking love and fame.

The suicide of 2016 contestant Sophie Gradon last year has led to a major shake-up for the 2019 series, with safeguards to look after contestants being introduced.

Participants will now be given social media training and financial management advice as well.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The creative director of ITV Studios wrote in a statement on the new initiatives: “When something so awful happens we naturally enter a period of soul searching and ask whether anything could have been done."

“This review has led us to extend our support processes to offer therapy to all Islanders and not only those that reach out to us," he continued. Social media, mental health and reality tv appear to go hand-in-hand.

Richard Cowles insisted Mike's death had nothing to do with the show, but improvements had to be made: "The key focus will be for us to no longer be reliant on the Islanders asking us for support but for us to proactively check in with them on a regular basis.”

Dame Carolyn McCall,  ITV’s chief executive, insisted it would be ‘extremely tenuous’ to link the show to his passing; "I don’t think anybody has made a direct link between what happened to Mike and ‘Love Island’ and that is very important to say."

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Summer has arrived and for many of us, it means different things.

Longer, brighter evenings, beer gardens, a chance to get on a plane and lie by a pool…

We're halfway through the year and our New Years good intentions are more than likely waning fast – we've given up on the gym tbh. 

Thankfully, we have TV presenter and journalist Elaine Crowley is in the same boat as us and she knew she needed help in certain areas of her health – which is why she is the ambassador for Lloyd's Pharmacy Change Your Health Direction program.

The program aims to improve your health during the next eight weeks – from quitting smoking to helping you get on top of your exercise and nutrition. 

Sign us UP. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Elaine can't praise the program enough, as she has been suffering from ''shocking insomnia'' and Llyod's have helped her find a cure – magnesium supplements.

She said, ''It's making a huge difference. I've tried sleeping tablets for years but this is helping – and zinc as well. I'm 41 now and I think your health priorities change a bit – it's not about what you look like, it's about the whole body creaking a little. I don't think we're getting everything out of the foods we're eating unfortunately so I'd take a few supplements every day.''

When it comes to other health niggles that she wants to nip in the bud, getting enough kip is the strong foundation she wants to build upon.

She said, ''It's well documented that I have depression, so if I don't get enough sleep everything psychically and mentally collapses. Tiny things like getting out for half an hour at lunch can make a huge difference.''

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Ok, so what about us who have fallen off the bandwagon? 

Elaine's advice is, ''Baby steps. Do something achievable. Like having one meal that isn't processed three times a week or only having meat once a day – tiny, tiny things.''

Sounds doable to us. 

While taking care of your health on a physical level is important, we mustn't neglect taking care our minds as well as Elaine understands.

She is managing her depression but says that the fact Lloyds' door is open for a chat is a great starter if you don't quite know how to tackle your mental health.

Something that doesn't help our mental health is the pressured environment of today's world and the ''having it all'' mentality.

Elaine is having NONE of it when we mention it and makes some great points. 

She revealed, ''You'll exhaust yourself if you keep chasing something that is unattainable. At one point last year all my hair was falling out from stress – you can't have it all.''

She continued, ''Be kind to yourself. Don't be looking at Instagram and television thinking, ''Oh my God their life is perfect'' – nobodies life is perfect.''

Her parting words of wisdom were, ''Having it all doesn't mean having the perfect job, house, and husband. Having it all means whatever makes you happy. Being happy in yourself is as much as anyone should expect you to have and be.''

And to that, we say hear hear. 

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Maisie Williams, AKA the legend that plays the single most badass woman on television, has opened up about her mental health in an interview with Fearne Cotton.

After emerging in the acting scene at an early age through her Game of Thrones role as Arya Stark, Williams has had to face a barrage of negative comments on social media since her fame originated.

Speaking to Cotton on her Happy Place podcast, the actress said that it became “impossible to turn a blind eye” to the ruthlessly mean comments. 

“It gets to a point where you're almost craving something negative so you can sit in a hole of sadness,” she added. “It's really bizarre the way that it starts to consume you."

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Her co-star, Sophie Turner, recently made an appearance on the Dr Phil show to discuss her own struggles with depression, citing social media as the cause. Hateful comments about her weight, acting abilities and skin were posted online, when she was just a teenager.

Maisie explained that she finds herself experiencing life-altering feelings of self-hatred, which must be incredibly difficult to overcome. “It's something I'm really trying to break free from at the moment," she said.

"I went through a huge period of my life where I'd tell myself every day that I hated myself. It got to a point where I'd be in a conversation with my friends and my mind would running and running, and I'd be thinking about all the stupid things I've said in my life and it would just race and race.

"We'd be talking and I'd be like 'I hate myself'.”

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Williams began attempting to discover why exactly these emotions were haunting her, and turned to her past for answers;

"So many of these problems are really linked to things in your past,” she explained, “as soon as you start digging and start asking yourself bigger questions than: Why do I hate myself? It's more: Why do you make yourself feel this way?"

The star confirmed that, at the moment, mental health is something she is “really working on”. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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“One thing I learnt is that everyone is a little bit sad and it was really eye-opening to me to understand that I think," she continued. "The more we talk and the more we help one another, I think that’s really important.”

Well, we applaud Arya for opening up to the public. While it's not her responsibility, she's a huge role model for young women and we ADORE her.

As well as her stunning boyfriend, Reuben Selby, even though he said Jon Snow should have killed the Night King. IT WAS ARYA'S DESTINY, OKAY?

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Pieta and Electric Ireland recently unveiled the ‘Wall of Hope’ – a public work of art created to officially launch Darkness into Light 2019 – the major charity fundraiser that is expected to attract over 250,000 participants this May 11, 2019.

In 2018, Darkness into Light was hosted in over 200 venues across 19 countries and 5 continents. This year, Pieta and Electric Ireland have increased capacity, with additional volunteers and over a quarter of a million people are expected to walk, from darkness into light, on May 11 at 4:15 am. Registration for the walk is now open at www.darknessintolight.ie.

About the Wall of Hope

Located on Dublin’s Camden Row, The Wall of Hope is a larger-than-life mural, created by Subset, a group of artists responsible for some of Ireland’s most provocative street art. The work signifies the Hope that Darkness Into Light spreads across the globe every year. Using #DIL2019 and #ThePowerOfHope, Pieta are encouraging people to share their messages of Hope in the lead up to the walk on Saturday 11 May and beyond.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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About Darkness Into Light

Darkness into Light is organised by Pieta and proudly supported by Electric Ireland since 2013. It is a global movement dedicated to ending suicide and supporting those who engage in self-harm. By walking from Darkness Into Light, participants play an important role in removing the stigma around suicide and self-harm as well as raising vital funds to fight suicide.

The unique event is symbolic of the journey from despair to hope. It begins, in darkness, at 4.15am and continues for 5 kilometers through to dawn. Funds raised from Darkness Into Light help keep Pieta’s counselling services free of charge and freely accessible to those in suicidal crisis, people who engage in self-harm, and to those bereaved by suicide; last year, participants  raised a massive €6 million through the event.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Pieta has supported over 40,000 people with face to face therapy. Since opening its doors 13 years ago, Pieta has heard painful truths from thousands of people who have come to the organisation at the point of suicidal crisis or actively engaging in self-harm. In 2017, one person a day died by suicide in Ireland and worldwide close to 800,000 people die by suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds.

Darkness Into Light is vital for fundraising, for raising awareness and for bringing people together in a spirit of solidarity, comfort and hope. To find your nearest venue and for registration, visit  www.darknessintolight.ie

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Pop idol Britney Spears is clearing up rumours about her mental health and well-being on her social media, confirming: "All is well".

37-year-old Toxic singer checked into a mental health facility earlier in April to cope with the stress of her father's ongoing illness.

Rumours were swirling that there was more going on beneath the surface of Spears' visit, but she shared a video on Instagram on April 23 to dispel the myth.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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"Hi guys, just checking in with all of you who are concerned about me," Britney said in the video, referring to her father Jamie, who she is very close with.

"My family has been going through a lot of stress and anxiety lately, so I just needed time to deal. But don't worry, I'll be back very soon," she continued.

Her fans were deeply concerned about her treatment and suspected that her family had forced her to enter the facility.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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A group of protesters gathered outside City Hall on Monday in LA to demand her release from the facility after claims about her mental health went viral.

Britney's caption disputes the "out of control" things which fans online have said, and even alluded to shocking death threats made to her family and team;

"I am trying to take a moment for myself, but everything that's happening is just making it harder for me," Britney wrote. "Don't believe everything you read and hear."

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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She wrote a detailed and emotional Instagram post about her dad's health back in early January;

"A couple of months ago, my father was hospitalised and almost died. We’re all so grateful that he came out of it alive, but he still has a long road ahead of him. I had to make the difficult decision to put my full focus and energy on my family at this time."

Britney also spoke out against her former manager, Sam Lutfi, who she claimed wrote fake emails in her name to communicate with her team; "My situation is unique, but I promise I'm doing what's best at this moment," she said.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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"You may not know this about me, but I am strong, and stand up for what I want!" Britney continued in the social media video.

"Your love and dedication is amazing, but what I need right now is a little bit of privacy to deal with all the hard things that life is throwing my way. If you could do that, I would be forever grateful."

We wish her well and hope her father makes a speedy and full recovery. We need Brit back to her best.

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Mental health is an important subject and it's fantastic that more celebrities are opening up about their struggles with it.

Little Mix's Perrie Edwards has gotten candid on Instagram about how she's been battling not only anxiety but also bad panic attacks.

The 25-year-old took to the social media platform to reveal what it was like going through these terrifying ordeals. 

She said, ''When I first started to feel the effects of anxiety I thought I was losing my mind and it terrified me. I felt so alone and like I was the first person in the world to ever experience it."

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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She continued, ''The first panic attack was so intense and overwhelming I felt like I was having a heart attack, I was so scared and confused and had no idea what was happening to me. I’m not sure what triggered that first one but it soon spiralled & I found myself in a really dark place, feeling alone and scared.''

She added, ''I had people around me but I couldn’t explain to them what was happening to me or why. It affected me so badly that I didn’t even want to leave the house.''

The singer confessed that it took over my life for a while but that she is in a better place now.

She revealed, ''I’m happy to say that the physical attacks have stopped but unfortunately, the anxiety still lives on. The reality is it probably always will.''

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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She added, ''It feels like the most unnatural thing in the world but the thing that helped me the most was discovering I’m not alone. As soon as I realised I wasn’t going insane I felt more eager to beat it.''

Perrie went on to say that she has sought therapy and is now feeling the positive effects of it – and she also reminded her fans that if they are suffering from anxiety, they are not alone. 

Her followers showered her with messages of love and support.

One said, ''I'm not sure you realise just how important you are, but we all do, and we are so grateful for you.''

While another wrote, ''Such a brave and inspirational post. I know you’ll be helping so many in the same situation.''

Well done Perrie for speaking out about a topic that should be spoken about openly. 

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That famous first day of college is so unbearably nerve-wracking. Many of us can agree that walking into the giant lecture hall of your new college is quite possibly one of the most intimidating experiences of the college experience. You hesitate as you open the door, stomach full of nerves and a head full of worries.

You’re surrounded by hundreds of new faces, new voices and new personalities, yet despite the huge crowds, you can be left feeling incredibly alone.

You try your best to make awkward chit-chat with the girl sitting next to you about where you’re from and how stressful public transport is (the 46a at 8 am is a true nightmare.) You laugh at your lecturer’s jokes that they no doubt repeat at the beginning of every college year. And breathe a sigh of relief after making it through that overwhelming first class.

As the weeks go by, you start to settle in. You make friends, you get into a groove with your coursework and revel in the entire college experience. However, this isn’t the case for everyone.

College can be an intense and isolating time for many people, especially when you’re attending somewhere like Trinity or UCD which feel like their own little towns themselves.

Some may find it hard to socialise, others may feel too nervous to get involved in clubs and meeting new people may just be too daunting for other people.

I felt so disheartened when I read a tweet by UCD student Niamh Murphy about something that happened in the Dublin college this week.

Niamh revealed that she had overheard a few girls mocking a guy for sitting alone eating lunch in the college.

“I don't know him or them but UCD can be a very lonely, isolating and anxiety-inducing place for many and a smile would go a whole lot further than mockery and shaming okay thanks,” she tweeted.

What that group of girls did angered so many people. We all know just how terrifying college can be and to have people sneer at you is the last thing you need.

Their secondary school mindset should have been left behind when they started college. The desire to be popular is something that we all need to give up on. Isn’t being valued and loved far more important than being surrounded by dozens of people as you eat an overpriced sandwich from the campus coffee shop?

Spending time on your own is an empowering and mature thing to do. There is no shame in simply wanting to be by yourself.

Embracing your own company is one of the greatest things you can do for your self-confidence. It takes a lot of courage and strength to do it, especially in a place like UCD that can be awfully alienating.

It’s 2019, it is about time we let go of that childish notion that being popular is the be all and end all of life.

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By Laura Lynch

It’s no big secret that we have all become phone, screen and social media addicts. It seems we are rarely present in the moment these days, as we always feel the need to capture all the big (and small) events in our lives, on our phones. Whether it’s at a concert, at the gym, on holiday, or even just at the dinner table… why is it so hard for us to put our phones away for a few hours?

This addiction to our phones and the online world was certainly something I had become accustomed to over the past five or so years, and it puzzled me, why was I so hooked to my phone?

What good was this constant scrolling, checking for notifications and need to keep up with the Kardashians' daily lives actually bringing to my life?  

After discovering a video online, about a girl who quit social media for one month, I decided to challenge myself and try to do the same. I deleted all social media apps from my phone (Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook).

The first week was WEIRD. I was finding myself feeling quite bored at little gaps throughout the day, such as on my commute.

While everyone else was staring at their phones, I had nothing to look at. I wondered if I might be missing out on some big celebrity news that may have come out online. I kept going to click into apps on my phone, even though they weren’t there anymore.  

The second week was NICE. I was already noticing lots of positive changes at this point, in myself and in my life and I found it was easier to continue the detox from this point on.

The first month came and passed and I never even for a second considered going back online at that point. I had come so far, I was enjoying the freedom and my new outlook too much to go back.

Five months later, I was still offline and living a completely new, happier life. I felt different, it was like a weight had been lifted and I was so motivated to share my story. I was finally beginning to understand the importance of self-care and started seeing everything in a new light.

Here are the important things I noticed during my Social Media Detox:

  • During the first two weeks of my social-media-free life, I noticed just how often I glanced down at my phone, without even thinking, and it was staggering.

  • I was sleeping much better and for longer – the less grumpy and less stressed version of me began to appear.

  • My anxiety reduced by 90 percent – this was by far the most significant change I noticed and loved about this whole experiment.  

  • JOMO – the joy of missing out has actually become a thing. It was lovely just doing my own thing and not knowing, or worrying about what everyone else was up to. When I wanted to hang out with my friends, I just messaged or called them, and this worked perfectly. I didn’t have a fear of missing out on anything (FOMO), which is something I worried I would experience, before the detox.

  • I just stopped caring about the crazy things we do for social media, like taking photos of our food whenever we go out to eat and sending it to everyone.

  • I didn’t feel any pressure to get that perfect Instagram photo or Snapchat story everywhere I went. I went to an outdoor concert and felt there was no pressure on me now to look perfect and get lots of amazing photos to post online. I felt I enjoyed the whole experience much more than I would have in the past.

  • I read books on my commute instead of staring aimlessly at influencers or celebrities, who I once compared myself to not realising how toxic these comparisons were.

  • I felt like there were more hours in the day and there was. I was amazed by how much more free time I had when I took social media out of my life.

  • I genuinely felt happier, more confident and less stressed out.

After my detox, I did return to the online world, but in a totally different way. I felt it was really important to share my story with others and encourage people to try this Social Media Detox Challenge for themselves and see the impact it could have on their lives. I decided to start writing my thoughts and ideas down. This led to me starting up my own blog on Mental Health & Wellness, called ondayslikethis.com.  

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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I have returned to Instagram and Facebook but don’t have the apps on my phone anymore as I feel that constant scrolling throughout the day can be toxic for our mental health and body image. I have created a new Instagram page called ondayslikethisblog, where I share only motivating posts, news and information about my blog.

I have also only chosen to follow pages that uplift and inspire me and this most definitely makes a huge difference.

I never returned to Snapchat and still don’t miss it, which is crazy as this is the app I would have used the most before my detox.

With all the above said, I would encourage everyone to detox from social media for a few weeks. I promise you will definitely notice so many nice changes in your life.

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It's always refreshing when a celeb speaks candidly about what they're going through – because life isn't all sunshine and rainbows as we know.

Justin Bieber has been vocal about his struggles with mental health problems and he took to Instagram to reveal how he's been feeling lately.

And it's seriously relatable.

The 25-year-old posted a snap of him alongside his manager Scooter Braun and  Kanye West, and he got brutally honest about the shit time he's been having lately. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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He captioned it, ''Just wanted to keep you guys updated a little bit hopefully what I’m going through will resonate with you guys. Been struggling a lot. Just feeling super disconnected and weird…''

He continued, ''I always bounce back so I’m not worried just wanted to reach out and ask for your guys to pray for me. God is faithful and ur prayers really work thanks…the most human season I’ve ever been in facing my stuff head on…'

His fans were obviously worried about the singer but also penned messages of support. 

One said, ''Honesty is sexy bro! Good to share our struggles with such a powerful medium like Instagram!''

While another wrote, ''Justin, thanks for reaching out. It's okay to not be okay. It is not a sign of weakness, it is being HUMAN.''

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Justin opened up about mental health before when he told NME how fame has affected him.

He said, ''I’m struggling to get through the days. I think a lot of people are.''

He continued, ''You get lonely, you know, when you’re on the road. People see the glam and the amazing stuff, but they don’t know the other side.”

We applaud Justin for being so transparent about his struggles and making us feel a little less alone because, as we all know, life ain't easy.

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