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Condoms have been around for decades, and now you can even buy all types of styles- ribbed, flavoured, heated, extra-thin etc.

It can slip everyone's mind that they help prevent unwanted STIs and pregnancy, particularly when you're about to get frisky with someone and they decline the condom offer.

We've heard the excuses before; "I'm too big to wear a condom", "It doesn't feel good", "It just falls off", "I can't orgasm while wearing one".

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Blah, blah blah; the contraceptives available for women can cause long-term health issues, changes their entire hormonal system, often induces anxiety, migraine, dizziness or causes spotted bleeding.

The list of side effects goes on, but men often say no to a simple condom. The excuses often aren't valid, so tell your boy to wrap it up stat. Luckily for him, we've got a hack to help ease any discomfort.

Cosmopolitan's sex researcher Maureen Miller, PhD, offered some advice;

“Add a few drops of water-based lube to the inside of your condom before you put it on. Men report being amazed at how much better it feels.” SO SIMPLE.

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Many condoms come with lubrication on the outside, adding just one or two drops into the tip of the condom before putting it on and rolling it down can make the world of difference for a guy's comfort.

If lube feels unreal for you, we're fairly sure it'll feel great for him too. You only need to add a little bit of lube, however. Too much will make the condom more susceptible to falling off.

Anti-baby note to remember: Oil-based lube can break the condom or thin the walls, so if you're not on any other contraceptive, make sure it's water-based lubricant. We recommend the YES brand.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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“Condoms are mighty hard to break, although not impossible. The number one reason for condom breakage is that the condom was not put on properly," Miller says. 

"The tip must be squeezed as the condom is being rolled down the penis so that there is room for ejaculate. Otherwise, the condom can burst," she adds. Remember: Safe sex is hot as f*ck.

There are plenty of ways to make putting on condoms super sexy; “Using your mouth, tongue, and hands, make the project of putting on a condom really erotic." Damn, we need to try this.

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Dress it up whatever way you like, but giving head takes skill. Effort. Time.

It's not something that you can do half-arsed and it deffo ain't something you can do in matter of minutes.

Or so we thought. 

When it comes to  how long one spends going down on their guy, opinions differ. 

According to this study, which surveyed 1,000 women and men, us ladies belive that blowjobs should last longer than men do.

Yep, you read that right – looks like we're just too generous. 

Hey, as long as it's reciprocated. 

Breaking it down, American women round it up to 11 minutes whereas Europeans gave the grand total as 9 minutes, 14 seconds.

Precise, ladies.

So lets delve deeper into the world of oral sex for guys – what are their thoughts on swallowing?

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More than half of men don’t care if their partner swallows after oral sex and still report extremely satisfied with the blowjobs they’ve received.

Hardly shocking tbh. 

It also seems that most lads don't even have to ask for it, with 60% of European and American women initiating blowjobs. 

Perhaps unsurprisingly, when it comes to getting head or having sex, a lot of fellas would opt for the latter – 30% to be precise.

So what you can take away from this, is that next time you're getting intimate with your guy, just follow the rhythm rather than watching the minutes tick by on the clock.

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We've all been absolutely addicted to Love Island over the last four weeks, and it's reminding us how tricky the single life can be.

Especially when seemingly angelic boys like Michael and Curtis stab you in the BACK at a moment's notice. We're not over it yet, it will take time. To distract us, why not attend this gas single's event?

McGowans of Phibsborough host a single's party on the first Friday of every month from 10pm, and it's becoming a huge success for the pub. 

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Their next party is on Friday, July 12, and it could be the ideal spot to meet your perfect match and put a ring on it. Or just a great night out to have a few drinks, join in the games or just mingle with the DJ.

The pub have had so many enquiries that they've even added an extra date to due high demand, seeing as people evidently want to find that spark with someone during the summer time.

Whether you're just looking for lust or love, the party looks like unreal craic. They've got icebreakers in case you came alone, and games for you and your best wingman/wingwoman. 

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Summer can be a tricky time when you're single, or it can be the perfect season to have some fun with strangers. This event is definitely more of a relaxed environment, and you'll 100 percent have fun.

Entry is free of charge, you begin the night with a playing card and a free glass of Prosecco. If you can find the card's match then you get a complimentary drink.

Basically it's encouraging socialising through the handy means of alcohol. It gives you plenty of excuses to chat up the lad or lass you've been eyeing up the entire night…

McGowans do plenty on the night to calm your nerves and allow you to embrace the chilled out and fun atmosphere in the pub.

Register for free on Eventbrite for McGowan's Singles Party on July 12, and drag a mate along if you must.

You'll either find a lifelong lover or just a hilarious disaster dating story to tell the grand-kids. Either way, there's booze and banter to enjoy, so throw caution to the wind.

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The popular dating app Bumble has finally created a new tool to fight back against unsolicited d*ck pics being sent and received by its users.

An AI named 'Private Detector' will be able to scan images sent in chats for signs of X-rated imagery and blur them out as well as assigning a warning.

55 million people use the app, which is claiming that it can separate out the lewd pictures with 98 percent accuracy.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The firm said: "With our revolutionary AI, we're able to detect potentially inappropriate content and warn you about the image before you open it."

"We're committed to keeping you protected from unsolicited photos so you can have a safer experience meeting new people on Bumble," the company stated.

Bumble is one of Tinder's major competitors, but works by only allowing women to initiate a chat with their matches. The app is one of the few that allows its users to trade images.

In June, the AI technology trained to spot nudes will start flagging possible rude images as soon as they land in your inbox.

The pic will be blurred and will also involve a message underneath that reads: "This photo is blurred to protect you from inappropriate content." Recipients can either block and report the image or open it anyway.

Private Detector was created specifically to tackle a plague of sexual harassment and abuse which has been streaming from dating apps for years. Especially for the safety of women, dating apps can be a dangerous feature.

A YouGov poll recently found that more than half of young women have received nude pictures online, and three quarters of images were unsolicited.

"The sharing of lewd images is a global issue of critical importance," said Andrey Andreev. "It falls upon all of us in the social media and social networking worlds to lead by example and to refuse to tolerate inappropriate behaviour on our platforms."

Andreev heads up Badoo, the network of dating apps which includes Bumble.

The organisation's bosses slammed a misogynistic "small-minded" fat-shamer in a recent open letter, and banned him from the app, according to The Sun.

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Worrying new figures from the Health Protection Surveillance Centre have revealed rising rates of young people being diagnosed as HIV positive in Ireland.

An expert described how sixteen people were diagnosed last week with the illness, and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases is at an "alarming" rate.

The age group of 20-year-olds until the age of 29 are the age group at high risk of getting an infection.

Concern’s team leader for health and HIV Breda Gahan said:

“I’m thinking of those 16 people who got that big blow of news last week and how it will affect them in terms of travelling, future job prospects, stigma and treatment.

“I would say unfortunately the stigma has increased both in Ireland and globally. On top of that, who are you going to tell? Are you going to tell your partner or your ex partners or family? No one wants to carry the burden alone," Breda continued.

“I don’t want to frighten people or say if you have sex you’re going to get HIV that’s not the case. But people don’t realise a lot of the cases of HIV are home grown.”

Even though there is access to free treatment for AIDS in Ireland, Gahan feels that the Government need to do more to raise awareness about the disease.

“HIV prevention is failing, it just hasn’t been invested in despite the increasing number of infections. The Government should get those who have the skills to travel to primary schools to work with those who are age appropriate."

Gahan added;

“Education is the social vaccine. Girls and boys need to understand how to protect themselves from life-threatening infections. There is a serious lack of accurate information, there’s a lot of myths and misconceptions.

“We also need to make services more adolescent and user friendly. No one wants to go to an STI clinic.”

Recent figures from the HPSC report show that 239 cases of HIV have been reported so far this year.  4,193 people have contracted chlamydia, 1,341 have gonorrhoea, and 793 have herpes.

In comparison to last year, Ireland has seen an increase of almost 1,200 infections.

Breda Gahan explained the reason for the apparent lack of concern among youth:

“There’s an increase in STIs among young people because of complacency and people aren’t dying so there’s less fear. Young people don’t really care if they get an STI because it’s treatable.”

The expert says that we need to start educating children in primary school aged 10 to 12; 

“As a nurse, I would go as far to say that it’s too late to educate kids at secondary school level. Hormones are hopping at that age.

“It’s alarming and concerning to see the increase of numbers. No sex can be totally safe – there’s always some risk, for example a condom breaking. But there needs to be education about safer sex.”

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We all have our favourite ways to enhance our experience between-the-sheets but can our own personality type play a role in our sex life?

A  study looked at 16 personality types and compared feedback from 1,000 people to see how our personalities impact how we are in bed.

Ready to see the results?

Extroverted personalities including ENTP, ENTJ, and ENFP are the most willing to try new sexual scenarios including anal, bondage, or same-sex encounters.

Unsurprising.

Sex positions like doggystyle and reverse cowgirl were popular among extroverts while introverts like ISFPs prefer 69 and ISTJs like spooning.

Also, extroverts are 11% more likely to be satisfied in bed than introverts with ESTJs being the most easily satisfied (81%) and INFPs being the hardest to satisfy (60%)

When it came to being vocal in the bedroom, people who identified as ISTJ (the Logistician) were the least likely to vocalise what they waned in bed.

According to the study, extroverts were 10 percent more adventurous than introverts in bed.

Getting to know what turns your partner in the bedroom is an important part of a relationship and can make your sex lives together so much better. 

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Pornhub claims that there are countless insane search terms on their website, but the latest popularity data of certain fetishes have taken us by surprise.

If we open up an incognito window and log on to your favourite (ethical, we hope) porn site, you'd expect to see videos of threesomes, BDSM, girl-on-girl etc but what you may not expect to see is a footjob.

According to the site, foot fetish porn is hugely popular, with 'footjob' being the 140th most popular search term on Pornhub. It's no small…feat, they say.

Some other popular foot-themed searches feature foot worship, foot fetish, lesbian feet, milk feet, foot slave, tickling feet, giantess feet, foot domination and feet licking. Jesus H. Christ.

Pornhub mentions that those searching for foot fetish porn were likely to search for femdom, ballbusting, facesitting, cuckold, bondage and gangbang porn in the same viewing session.

It comes as no surprise to anyone that young men are 55 percent more likely to watch footjob porn than women. Visitors aged 18 to 24 are the biggest fans, and then 25 to 34-year-olds.

Interestingly, footjob popularity decreases with age. Visitors over 65-years-old were the least likely to watch the genre. High heels and stockings are the most popular foot job porn.

However, a 2018 Pornhub report noted that sneaker porn was becoming more watched by the year. Men were also 55 percent more likely to search for sneaker porn.

Pornhub Gay page users were 1124 percent more likely to search for sneaker porn, which is most popular with 35 to 44-year-olds.

Some consistent search terms were; sneaker worship, sneaker sex and sneaker fetish, as well as known trainer brands (Converse is the most searched). 

Nike was most popular with those on Pornhub's gay pages.

Foot fetishes generally seem pretty common, with a 2007 study from online fetish discussion groups finding that “feet and objects associated with feet were the most common target of preferences.”

In fact, almost half (47 percent) of fetishists in the study were into feet. Famous faces like Tyga, Ricky Martin, and Quentin Tarantino are known to be open about their penchant for feet,

"A lot of people wonder if they are weird or perverted for having a foot fetish, but I can tell you it's actually quite common," Goddess Aviva, a lifestyle and professional dominatrix, told Refinery29. "It's also a lot of fun."

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Moving in together is a big step.

Yeah, it's exciting and the thoughts of having your own place with the person you're mad about sounds fab but think of it realistically.

All privacy is gone and you no longer even have your own personal space, your own bedroom. 

So what about…separate rooms?

It might not be as horrifying as it sounds as a survey of 2,000 couples suggests that sleeping apart could lead to better quality sex.

The research found that four in ten couples sleep apart most nights, and that of these, 34% claim they have better quality sex and more of it, while 38% say that sleeping apart improved their relationship.

Sounds great to us.

So what were the reasons for not sleeping together? 

They included different sleep cycles, their partner moving around too much in bed, having different shift patterns, and snoring. 

A good night’s sleep can help our sex lives, as it increases sexual desire and pleasure so separate beds might do the trick. 

Now it can reduce opportunities for intimacy – 24% of those who slept separately said they had sex less frequently as a result.

So to ensure sexy time stay near the top of the list, schedule sex or just making time for skin-to-skin contact during the day to replace the late-night spooning.

Mind coach Anna Williamson told Metro, ''If your partner is restless in the night, perhaps they snore or breathe heavily, and as a result, keep you awake or disturb you throughout the night, it can be a good idea to sleep apart from your partner in order to catch up on some much-needed sleep.''

She continued, ''Physical contact is essential in keeping a relationship connected. Touching each other releases feel good, love endorphins, and often being in bed can be the best time of the day to communicate effectively with each other. Pillow talk is a really emotionally positive thing to do and it can help you feel safe and secure as you both hopefully drop off to sleep together.''

So why not try it out and see if it works for you and your partner?

Yo never know, it could be the spark to lit both your fires…

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Female masturbation has long faced stigma, yet male masturbation is socially accepted as normal, and even healthy. Yet the advantages and benefits of self-pleasure for women can be easily overlooked.

A new study by TENGA took a dive into the world of self-lovin', and highlighted the impacts it has on everyone around the globe. 

The sex toy company surveyed 10,000 people from nine different countries worldwide to investigate how much masturbation has impacted their lives. The result? It's pretty damn important to people.

According to the results, 91 percent of people in the United Kingdom indulge in masturbation, or have at one point or another. That's around 60 million people, which is impressive.

Unfortunately the survey didn't use Irish people as participants, but we reckon the UK is close enough of an indicator.

When the surveyed population were asked why they masturbate, they responded with three dominant reasons; to satisfy their horniness, to achieve sexual pleasure or to relax/relieve stress.

Other reasons were boredom, to help them sleep, to give them body confidence, to become a better sexual partner or because their partner didn't want to have sex with them at the time.

Other research showed that British men and LGBTQ+ are more likely than other group to masturbate, and men and younger generations tend to start younger – around the age of 13.

93 percent of men said that they had masturbated before, while 88 percent of women claimed to have indulged themselves in self-pleasure before. Women tended to start at the later age of 15.

The stereotype is that women don't masturbate as much as men, but science has disproved this on multiple occasions. Girls love self-love, face the pleasurable facts.

Women who currently use a sex toy were found to be more satisfied with almost every aspect of their sex lives than women who don’t – especially when it comes to quality of masturbation and frequency of orgasm.

When asked how often they masturbate, 61 percent of British participants confirmed they do it at least weekly – a greater share than in almost every other country surveyed. 

Those UK people surveyed said that they are horniest in the month of July (summer lovin'), touch themselves most between 7:30 – 11:30 p.m. and, normally take to their bedrooms to do it.

Sexual therapists and health experts agree that masturbation has many benefits, including letting go of sexual shame, better sex, improved body image and a stronger libido. It also releases stress-reducing endorphins in women. 

64 percent of Brits surveyed consider masturbation to be a form of self care or therapy, and 52 percent think it impacts wellness or state-of-mind.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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While men tend to orgasm all or most of the time, women are significantly less likely to orgasm as frequently.

Nearly 80-90 percent of people find masturbation to have a positive effect across most aspects of their lives, including their mood, health, energy and productivity levels, and their relationships.

Among the 41 percent of Brits who have regular masturbation routines, men usually watch porn but women prefer to use their imaginations. Interestingly, British fantasise about previous partners more often than their current one. Hmm…

Finally, when asked what celebrities were fantasised about, the most common answers were Jennifer Lawrence, Tom Hardy, Mia Khalifa, Christian Grey, Johnny Depp and Emma Watson.

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Porn is something that people watch, be it when they're single or in a relationship.

And while many admit to using it to satisfy their urges, how damaging is it to people's sex lives? 

Can you watch it without consequences?

This recent survey spoke to more than 1,200 men and women to analyze how porn plays into their sex lives. 

The findings were…surprising, to say the least. 

It seems that 1-in-4 men would rather be having sex with the people they see in porn, and this is compared to just 7% of women.

Shocking or duh?

As well as that, even when lacking arousal for their partner, 37% of women will only watch porn once-a-week; however, 39% of men that share those feelings watch porn every day. 

Worrying figures show that more than half of women have an easier time achieving orgasm while watching porn than they do while having sex –  what is going on guys?!

The ease of access to porn is a cause for concern.

What about couples watching it together – does it help or hinder their action between the sheets? 

Sixty percent said that they do, but a quarter of men said they'd rather have sex with the individuals in the porn they viewed than their real-life partners.

What's strange about it all is that the more men watched porn, the less likely to be turned on by their partners they were and the more frequently women watched porn, the more likely they were to feel aroused by their partners.

It seems that consuming porn is a slippery slope – maybe more of us should give our partners the time and attention they deserve in the bedroom, and leave watching sex on the screen altogether. 

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AWe all know how wrecked you feel after a long day at the office. 

All you want is to take your bar off and get into bed to watch Netflix.

Some people adore their sleep – but what if you love sex too?

Could you give up your snoozing for getting it on? 

A study was carried out by Mattress Advisor, who surveyed people about their sleep and sex habits.

And what did they say?

Single people get more shut-eye and those in relationships have sex nearly 3 times more per month. 

People were ok with giving up 54.3 minutes of sleep to have sex.

And even after a tiring day, 84% of people would give up z's for a night-time romp. 

People in relationships were intimate an average of 8.7 days per month and they had an average of 7.7 hours of sleep per month. 

Single people slept 7.1 hours per night and had sex 6.2 days per month. 

It might seem like only 12 more minutes of sleep, that adds up to almost an hour and a half of sleep during the week. 

So it seems the better the sex life, the better quality of sleep people get – like we needed an excuse, right?

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Well, ladies and gentlemen, we've got some wonderful news for those who adore mingling in other countries with singletons. Surrounded by wine. 

According to CNN Business, the dating app Bumble is planning to open a cafe in Soho, a trendy New York City neighbourhood. The cafe will then transform into a wine bar when the sun sets.

Think Cinderella but probably without the prince. The app clearly wants to allow its users to mingle in real life, as opposed to on a screen. 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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The venue will be called Bumble Bew, and the space may serve as a meeting ground for dating app users who are looking for love, a new friend or a business colleague.

Bumble was first launched in 2014, and has since expanded to Bumble BFF for finding pals and Bumble Bizz for networking to the max. It garnered fame for allowing women to make the first move.

Their NYC spot will be Bumble Brew's first permanent location, after pop-ups happened in London, Los Angeles and Toronto.

The pop-ups were used for far more than just hooking up, and we're seriously impressed at how rapidly the company has been expanding and diversifying.

A print magazine in collaboration with Hearst Magazines has also been announced.

The company was founded by Whitney Wolfe Herd, formerly of Tinder, and is almost entirely owned  by Russian billionaire Andrey Andreev.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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He's pretty busy, after also founding Badoo, which is a parent company to Lumen (users over 50) and Chappy for gay men.

The female-friendly app has also launched in the most dangerous country in the world to be a woman (India) and has seen over a million registrants there.

Bumble claims to have enough profits to focus on brand extensions, like Bumble Fund, which backs early-stage startups led by women-of-colour. Werk.

Would you head to the Bumble cafe during the day or wine bar at night for some company? We would…

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