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If you’ve ever broken up with someone that you really liked, you will know that it sucks. Sometimes, it sucks so much that you could swear you are actually feeling physical pain – but how could this be? Here are some reasons why!

It’s your brain’s fault
Apparently, when there’s something we really need or want, the oldest part of our brain (sometimes referred to as the lizard or reptile brain) makes it so that we can’t concentrate on anything else. Which, we suppose, was a good thing back in the cave-man days, because it meant they were forced to go find food rather than doing something else. This instinct however, is not so good when you’re trying to forget your ex.

Rejection = death sentence (at least in your head!)
Once again, the cave-men are to blame. Back then, if you were rejected from a tribe, it was unlikely that you would survive on your own. Even though things are very different today, your brain hasn’t quite caught up. A study from the University of Amsterdam found that when people were rejected their heart rate actually slowed down and took longer than usual to get back to business.

Because you were addicted to love
One study compared the brains of cocaine addicts going through withdrawal symptoms with people who recently lost someone they loved, and there were actually several similarities. This explains why people who’ve been rejected often act in unpredictable ways as well.

Hopefully by understanding the science behind why love hurts so much, you’ll be able to deal with the break-up a bit better. It’s never easy, but you’ll get there! And who knows, your very own Ryan Gosling could be just around the corner!

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Ah, the blind date. People in relationships LOVE to fill their single friends full of wine and then trick them into agreeing to go out with ‘this guy they work with’, do they not? Here are some tips on how to get through it in one piece!

Keep your expectations low
You need to keep your expectations REALLY low, ok? Like, down in the gutter low. Well, at least in terms of your romantic prospects with this guy. The best thing is not to think of it as a date at all. It’s just a regular night out, with someone new. How fun! No? Still not convinced? Read on, so….

DO Facebook stalk them beforehand
Yeah, yeah, yeah, Facebook stalking is bad, we know. But it’s better to have SOME idea of who you’re going to meet before you walk into the bar. It’ll help you think of things to talk about as well – just look through the pages they’ve liked and try to think of some conversations in that area. Don’t try and find their ex-girlfriend though. There’s no point comparing yourself to his past!

Quiz your friend
Well, this is all their fault after all, isn’t it? The least they can do is answer a few questions. Good questions to ask include:

  • Does he get around much?
  • Can he drive?
  • How much does he love his mammy?
  • Is he a serial relationship guy?
  • Has he ever done a stint in jail?
  • Has he got road frontage? (for country guys)

Setting up the date
He’ll probably send you an awkward text introducing himself and asking where you’d like to meet. It is vital – VITAL – that you meet somewhere that doesn’t force you to spend more than like, one hour with the guy. The cinema is kind of the exception to the rule because at least you won’t have to talk to him, but if he hints at a romantic five course meal, do NOT agree.

When you’re on the date
Some basic tips for any date really:

  • Don’t get too personal
  • Don’t talk about your ex
  • Don’t leave it up to him to make all the conversation
  • Make sure to offer to pay, you don’t want him thinking you’re a cheapskate

Saying goodbye
If it went well, this will be easy. Whether or not you want to go in for a kiss is up to you, but do make it clear that you enjoyed yourself. But if you didn’t enjoy yourself, the best thing is just to thank him for his time (in a less formal way, obvs) and make no mention of meeting, or texting again. If it was that bad he’ll probably have an inkling himself anyway. Good luck!

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Research has shown that people who are trying to find love online, are actually staying single for longer.

Psychologist Emma Kenny said that one reason for this could be that people are becoming too dependent on communicating online, and are losing their ability to approach people in real life:

“The problem is, online dating breeds impatience and insecurity. You're suddenly inundated with so many potential love interests that you stop investing the same amount of effort into meeting actual people offline.

“Of course, it's going to be harder to take the plunge to start up a conversation with a stranger in a bar than sending an anonymous message to a man with a witty dating profile – especially because you can just log off if it gets uncomfortable, rather than finding yourself trapped in an awkward conversation.

“But online dating was designed to enhance your love life – not replace it altogether.”

It’s easy to fall into the trap of investing all your romantic efforts into online dating, but remember, there’s a big bad world out there, full of eligible men. And they don’t all have smartphones!

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Whether they’ve been together for months or years, we all know couples who have had their fair share of trials but still manage to get through it all stronger than ever.How do they do it? Well, here is what you need to do to be one of these cute forever couples:

Ask about their day
Simple niceties can go a long in a relationship.

Accept that you will fight
You won’t agree on everything but that doesn’t mean that every fight will be the be all and end all of your relationship.

Compromises
Relationships are partnerships and like many partnerships you will have to reach compromises on many things. Sometimes that means allowing him to watch a football match while your favourite programme is on, but hey, that’s what the record button is for.

Honesty
Honesty is key to ensuring a long lasting relationship, because despite what you think those fibs will come back to haunt you eventually.

Love each other unconditionally
Cheesy but true, sometimes it’s really that simple.

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We’ve seen our fair share of unusual but sweet proposals – however, Donnie McGilvray’s is definitely our favourite by far.

Donnie decided to pop the question to his long-time girlfriend, Eloise by using his fridge and conveniently lined up bottles of coke.

When Eloise opened the fridge, six bottles of coke spelt out Donnie’s sweet marriage proposal: “Beautiful Eloise will you marry me.”

Eloise of course accepted, and Donnie went on to share the proposal snap on the Coco Cola Facebook page. The post has since gained over 170,000 likes.

Congrats to the happy couple!

 

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Love isn’t easy, and despite the good times a relationships can bring, there are the inevitable heartbreaks too.

You broke their heart
At some point you will break someone’s heart. It’s never easy ending a relationship, and it can feel ten times worse if you’re the one doing the heart-breaking. Break-ups are hard, and hurting someone you care about is even harder.

The one that got away
There’s always one. Despite the years that pass, you can’t help but wonder what he’s doing now. Inevitable Facebook stalking and self-pitying tears will occur.

Wrong time
Wrong place, wrong time, wrong everything. Some things are just not meant to be, but it doesn’t stop them from hurting any less when they do occur. You still can’t help but wonder what could’ve been.

The one who broke your heart
Definitely the worst on the list. Usually this is the one that comes back to haunt you when you least expect it. You’ll never understand it, and you’ll cry yourself to sleep about it, even though you know he’s not worth it. Oh, heartbreak is definitely the worst.

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Finding love isn’t easy, and no one knows better about this than Dan Perino. Dan decided to take his search for a new girlfriend to the streets with a usual poster campaign.

So, instead of hitting the clubs, or trying online dating – Dan decided to place flyers all around the centre of New York City.

The poster includes a picture of himself and reassurance that he’s on a serious mission for love.

“I’m really looking for a girlfriend. This is not a joke. Just tired of the singles scene and hoping to meet the right person. I am a professional artist and creative person. You know who you are. To me each and every person is beautiful. Open to the possibility of the relationship morphing into something more profound”.

Dan said that he has put up over 500 flyers over the course of four days, in an effort to find a new beau. However, it seems to have worked as he’s already received over 400 calls as of last Friday. Sadly, despite the huge amount of interest, Dan still hasn’t found The One.

Don’t give up Dan, she’s out there!

 

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We're always open to learning a few new tips n' tricks to try out in the bedroom, who isn't? The good people over at Buzzfeed have made this funny little video, which features some genuinely insightful (and downright handy) tips for a better romp between the sheets. Who knew socks were actually a turn ON?! Watch the video above to see for yourself – it's interesting stuff!

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Well this bride won’t forget her wedding anytime soon, especially thanks to this hilarious photo.

Bride-to-be, Karen sent out a group text inviting all of her friends to a wedding photo-shoot and barbeque.

But what Karen didn’t realise she had actually sent the message to a wrong number – and when the bride-to-be explained it was accident, the receiver of the text was still determined to come.

Of course true to their word, he arrived with a group of friends but the bride and groom were good sports and allowed the lads to become a part of their group wedding photo.

Since then the texts and hilarious wedding photo has become a viral hit. One thing is for sure we’ll be double checking our numbers in future.

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Relationships are never easy and from time to time we can fall out with our partners. While confrontation is unavoidable, here are some things you can avoid when entering a new relationship:

Criticising your partner
There’s a key difference from airing an occasional grievance to constantly criticising him. It’s not fair and will only drive a wedge between you both.

Avoiding confrontation
We all like to bury our heads in the sand, but avoiding confrontation will only make things worse in the long run.

Not paying attention
It can be easy to get wrapped up with work and other things, that we can sometimes forget to make time for our loved ones. Try to plan a fun night with your partner to catch up, it will make all the difference.

Keeping score
Some healthy competition is fine, but keeping score on each other, especially when it comes to your confrontations, will not help. Instead of trying to prove whose right or wrong, try to collaborate on what caused the disagreement in the first place.

Lashing out
We’ve all had bad days but try not to take it out on your partner. Instead – try to explain what caused you to be so upset. More communication will bring you closer, while lashing out will set you apart.

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We’re all familiar with the hilarious but smart app, Siri, but sometimes Siri can be a little too right, or wrong, when it comes to our personal lives.

Reddit user, Tarty2000, posted a picture of his girlfriend’s screenshot after she asked her iPhone to ring her boyfriend.

But instead of automatically calling her boyfriend “John” it quizzed her on which boyfriend she would like to contact: her ex-boyfriend or her current partner.

Tarty2000 captioned the shot:

“My girlfriend decided to show me this ‘awesome thing Siri can do!’”

But in fairness his girlfriend did try to remove “Craig” as her boyfriend on the phone, but Siri wouldn’t let her.

“My girlfriend asked Siri to “remove Craig as my boyfriend. I’m sorry, I cannot do that.” So turns out Siri can make relationships but not break them. LOL.”

Perhaps it’s better to rely on the old fashioned way of contacting your boyfriend and not on Siri.

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Donegal bride and groom, Gráinne and Jamie Corry wanted to make their wedding ceremony memorable and what better way than by staging this brilliant wedding entrance.

Guests were left a little confused last Saturday, when the newlyweds didn’t arrive at their reception for their entrance, but were instead treated to a hilarious video.

The video shows the couple having their pictures taken in the woods with some unusual poses, and then go on to have hilarious adventure of their own, before supposedly arriving at the Sliver Taisse Hotel and Spa for their wedding reception.

Gráinne’s brother Paul Doherty explained that it was all the bride’s idea to stage the unusual but funny entrance and took two days to film.

“It was all Gráinne’s idea! She thought it up and we all came together to kind of script it. It was so much fun to do and no one expected it. It took about two days to film everything. It was really hard to keep hard to keep it quiet in a small place like Kilmacrennan, but we did it!”

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