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Women's Aid have launched a new guide on safety orders for young women who are experiencing abuse in their relationships, due to new laws being introduced.

The legislation brought in at the beginning of this year allows women who are going through dating abuse to apply for Safety and Protection orders.

Women's Aid are instigating the guide on Valentine's Day as part of the #TooIntoYou campaign to emphasise the darker side of love.

RTÉ's Can't Stop Dancing presenter Bláthnaid Treacy is also urging young women and men to "know the signs of dating abuse", especially because 60 percent of abuse in relationships begins before the age of 25.

Women's Aid are a national organisation which provides vital information and support to women experiencing dating abuse and domestic violence. Their #TooIntoYou campaign aims to spread much-needed awareness on the topic.

#TooIntoYou uses social media and poster advertising to strive for the spread of information from February 14 until March 8 (International Women's Day).

New laws brought in at the start of 2019 under the Domestic Violence Act 2018 allow women to apply for important Safety and Protection laws.

However, the organisation believes that many young women are still in the dark about the change and how to get the necessary protection, which is why Women's Aid ae bringing in the 'Guide to Safety Orders in Dating Relationships' online today.

Spotting the 10 key danger signs of dating abuse and providing information to combat online stalking and digital abuse is of imperative importance for women in Ireland today.

Margaret Martin, Director of Women’s Aid says:

"1 in 5 women in Ireland experience abuse in relationships and in a national survey on domestic abuse in Ireland, almost 60 percent of those who had experienced severe abuse in intimate relationships first experienced it when they were under the age of 25."

"A stark reminder of this risk is that 1 in every 2 women, aged between 18-25, killed in Ireland since 1996 were murdered by their boyfriends or exes," Martin concluded.

The campaign is being launched on Valentine's Day to highlight the hidden reality of many young women's relationships, despite the fact that today is traditionally associated with love and romance.

Martin's goal for today, is to ask the hard questions; "We are clearly asking – what part of love is abuse?" She spoke directly to victims and survivors; “You are not alone in feeling something isn't right with your relationship."

Visit the #TooIntoYou website here for more information, or call the Women's Aid 24hr National Freephone Helpline at 1800 341 900.

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Contrary to belief, domestic and dating abuse is common – and we all know someone who has experienced an abusive relationship in some form.

Whether or not you've been directly impacted by an ex or current partner who's behaviour is unacceptable – know you aren't alone and there is help out there.

Women's Aid has launched a new campaign to highlight their services and support available to any woman experiencing domestic violence and dating abuse.

The campaign comes as a new Domestic Violence Act provision, extending eligibility to young women in dating relationships, has still not commenced.

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The woman's charity says it is continuing to support young women on its 24hr National Freephone Helpline and One to One Services who are being left unprotected and at risk because of these legal delays.

The awareness campaign #TooIntoYou aims to reach 18-25 years old women, to highlight the warning signs of abusive and controlling behaviour in their intimate relationships.

Women's aid want to get the nation talking about the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship.

In campaign, we meet eight characters, ‘Snooping Simon’, ‘Controlling Conor’, ‘Send Nudes Niall’, ‘Needy Neil’, ‘Dramatic Dan’, ’10 missed calls Ben’ and ‘Triple Text Thomas’ and ‘Why don’t you love me, Luke’.

Each of them reflects real situations we have all found ourselves in and it highlights the harmful ways that we could encounter dating abuse from our boyfriends or exes.

To get the conversation flowing about the issue of violence against women, a 70ft banner has been hung at Liberty Hall for three weeks, in the heart of Dublin. 

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Margaret Martin, Director of Women’s Aid explained why there is such a crucial need for this campaign.

“Dating abuse is a significant issue for our frontline support services and research has shown that while young women can be at even higher risk of abuse in a relationship than their older counterparts, it can be difficult for young women to see what is happening to them as abuse," she said.

"However, 39 percent of young women (aged 18-29) in Ireland have experienced emotional abuse by a boyfriend or partner and in a national survey on domestic abuse in Ireland, almost 60 percent of those who had experienced severe abuse in intimate relationships first experienced it when they were under the age of 25."

"A stark reminder of this risk is that one in every two women, aged between 18-25, killed in Ireland since 1996 were murdered by their boyfriends or exes,” she added. 

One of the leading voices behind the #TooIntoYou campaign is entrepreneur Norah Casey. Norah sees the campaign as an important measure to prevent abuse and relates her own experience of domestic violence at the hands of her first husband in her 20s.

Norah says: “This campaign is a shout out to young women everywhere about some of those early signs that a relationship might not be good for them. Help us to spread the word far and wide, every woman should know the signs."

"Prevention is far better than the consequences, tragically sometimes fatal, for women who are trapped in abusive and violent relationships.”


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Sarah Breen and Emer McLysaght, authors of Oh My God What a Complete Aisling are backing the campaign and spoke about including the issue of dating and domestic abuse in their latest book:

“While researching The Importance of Being Aisling we were shocked to discover just how prevalent dating abuse is in Ireland. No one deserves to feel unsafe or threatened in their relationship and it’s absolutely vital that women can spot the red flags early on. We fully support Women’s Aid’s #TooIntoYou campaign and hope that it will help those affected find the support they need to become safe.”

If you are anxious or worried about your relationship, Ms Martin says you aren't alone in feeling something isn't right in your relationship, and highlights some of the signs that indicates you're facing potential abuse. 

“Women in dating relationships contact Women's Aid every day because they are afraid of their boyfriends. Your boyfriend does not have the right to control and abuse you. You should not have to worry about how he will react to what you do."

"You may feel like you are 'walking on eggshells' and living in fear of his moods and temper. Dating abuse is wrong and no one deserves to be threatened, beaten or be in fear for their lives. We want women to know that they can speak to someone in confidence on our 24hr National Freephone Helpline (1800 341 900) to help make sense of what’s going on in their relationship,” she added. 


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If you're experiencing any type of abuse at the hands of your partner, there are people here to help and there is hope of getting out of the situation. 

The Women’s Aid 24 hour National Freephone Helpline 1800 341 900 is available seven days a week. 

You can find more information about the new campaign here.


This is Emily’s story of dating abuse.

He was my first boyfriend and my first love, my first sexual partner. His abusive behaviour wasn’t apparent at first, it just kind of crept in.

We dated on and off for three years while we were in college. During the first six months everything was great, then we had our first fight and that’s when his controlling behaviour started.

He was a verbal abuser, an emotional abuser, and yes there was some physical abuse too.

It started off with his manipulative and controlling behaviour, then accelerated to verbal abuse and finally physical abuse.

I started doubting myself as to whether this behaviour was acceptable or normal within a dating relationship, was it really happening or was I blowing things out of proportion. I couldn’t understand how we had gotten to this.

It’s really hard to reconcile that person you thought you were dating with this new person that you are now encountering. It was so hard to wrap my head around it, that this behaviour could be described as abuse. After all, that only happened to people who were living together, were married or had kids.

I never told anyone, not until we had completely broken up. I was too scared. There was always the threat looming – “you better not tell anyone, or else; you better not try to leave me, or else”. That was enough to deter me.

In fact, I only told my mum six months after we had broken up. I didn’t want to upset her, to worry her.

I was so young that I thought if I just stay with him and do what he wants me to do, then it’ll go back to the way that it was. Obviously I can now see that was never going to happen, but I was naive. It was a lesson that I was going to have to go through, and learn the hard way.

I escaped by moving abroad – I was in college and took the opportunity to travel for the summer and that was the end. That’s how I got out, and I never went back.

Thankfully he’d moved on too, but that was tricky as he was dating another girl in college. Was he abusing her the way he abused me? Could I be a bystander and watch history repeat itself?

He was very targeted in his abuse, he made me lose all of my confidence. He was constantly putting me down, telling me that I wasn’t good enough, that I wasn’t attractive enough.

He would often attempt to choke me, to the point where I felt I could pass out and then he would stop. He loved the power, and he would laugh afterwards, mocking me, insinuating I was stupid if I thought he was really going to hurt me. That he was just messing, just playing with me.

He was careful not leave a mark on me where someone could see. He was clever like that. He was very calculated.

We met in college and we were in some classes together. He loved power and so he would feel more powerful when he put me down, so he used to text me during class with abusive and critical messages, especially when I was delivering a class project or presentation.

He wanted to see me visibly upset and not be able to do anything about it, he liked the control, watching me squirm, he liked to put me off, to see me falter and then he would laugh at me.

He distanced me from all of my friends and family. In fact, he befriended some of my friends in college and told them lies about me so that they would think I was an unkind person, and then they were his friend and no longer mine.

He ran for Student Union president, he was popular, he wanted a career in politics. He was a bully though and some people could see through it obviously as he never won that election. He knew how to talk the talk, he was an experienced debater, so he was excellent at talking people down and pulling the wool over people’s eyes.

A few months after the relationship ended, I went to the Gardaí to make a complaint.

I wanted it to be known; to be on the record should someone else ever make a complaint about him. I had three years of text messages and emails but I had deleted them all when my relationship ended so I didn’t have the physical evidence to show the Gardaí.

So, it became a simple case of she said / he said. I would urge anyone in an abusive relationship to document everything in a diary, to keep a record of texts, emails and photos of physical abuse – you never know when you might need them, and they may ultimately save your life or the life of some other poor girl.

I was lucky, I got really good support from the police, and my college, DCU, were brilliant. One of lecturers was really supportive and he helped me to get counselling through the college services.

Now, after my experience I wanted to help others, I am passionate that other people should not be experiencing abuse within a relationship and I want to support them on their journey to safety.

I don’t think dating abuse is talked about enough, I didn’t even know it was a thing until it happened to me, and even then it was only when I left him that I realised just how wrong it was. It was only after two years of counselling that I accepted that it was abuse, I doubted myself, I questioned myself, I wondered whether I was just being a drama queen, if I was high maintenance or over-sensitive.

Both girls and boys should be spoken to about relationship etiquette in school, what’s acceptable and what is not so they can navigate their early relationships more successfully.

So, both boys and girls know where the boundaries are in a relationship, that if they are uncomfortable with any part of their relationship that they should speak up and not quietly suffer.

In particular, girls need to learn to listen to and trust their instinct and learn to assert themselves when they feel vulnerable, threatened, uncomfortable or unsafe.

This is not just about consent for sexual experiences, this is about consent as to how you allow someone to treat you, to talk to you, to control you. This is so important now more than ever, because it’s not just physical or verbal confrontation, its abuse through texts and emails, through social media – there are so many ways to get inside someone’s head now, to abuse from afar.

This should be a priority for the school curriculum and for the Government, to raise awareness of dating abuse and that it’s not OK.

Getting out is easier said than done, you love them and you don’t really believe it’s happening. I would advise anyone in this situation to talk to someone, a friend, a family member, a college tutor, an anonymous helpline like Women’s Aid.

And if you know of someone who is being abused in their relationship, let them know that you know they are having a difficult time. Don’t make accusations where they may feel embarrassed or ashamed or even want to jump to the defence of their abuser. Simply offer them unconditional support should they need it.

Let them know that you are there for them, waiting, whenever they are ready.

I stayed with him because I thought we could get back to the way we were. My heart over ruled my head. I completely lost myself in that relationship. I will never allow that to happen again.

If you know someone is experiencing emotional, psychological or physical abuse, let them know you are worried for them and that you are there for them.

Don’t judge or offer ultimatums, you could push them away and they will never open up to you. Tell them that when they are ready, you will be there for them in whatever way they want you to be.

Above all, tell them that the behaviour they are experiencing is wrong and that nobody deserves to be treated in this way.

Of all people, I know you cannot make someone leave a relationship if they are not ready to do so. But you can still be there for them and point them in the direction of support services they can use to help themselves, when they are ready.

Abusive behaviour is nearly always a pattern of getting power and control over someone else. Validating a victim’s choices and encouraging them to make their own decisions about their life can help to break this cycle of power and control.

If you are currently in an abusive relationship or fear a friend or family member is suffering in silence,  please visit www.whatwouldyoudo.ie where you will find a list of helpful services and advice for    those in an abusive relationship, those concerned for someone else or those concerned about their own behaviour. 

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Over 300,000 people in Ireland have been severely abused by a partner at some point in their lives. If you have witnessed or experienced domestic violence/abusive behaviour by a partner, or you are concerned you have abused someone, you can prevent it from happening again.

For more information, go to www.whatwouldyoudo.ie


By the time the first hit came, I was already a shell of a person. When you see the psychological signs, don’t ignore them. When it feels wrong, it is wrong.”

One in five women will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime, and unfortunately that number is on the rise. RTÉ are confronting the reality of domestic abuse in revealing new online documentary series – UPFRONT: Domestic Abuse. 

The two part documentary follows RTÉ reporter, Della Kilroy, as she talks to the women behind the statistics.

The series delves into the many forms of domestic abuse, from physical, emotional to sexual and financial. It also shows the various support option available to those who think they might be in an abusive relationship.

What's more, UPRONT: Domestic Abuse will feature an interview with a perpetrator who is currently enrolled in a rehabilitation programme.

Last year, Women's Aid received over 16,000 calls reporting domestic abuse and the charity revealed they have seen a huge increase in the amount of young women coming forward.

As well as that, a 2016 study conducted by the team here at SHEmazing revealed that dating abuse affects one in three women, with 60 per cent believing it was their fault.

Results also showed over half of the 1,000 women surveyed admitted to knowing someone in their immediate circle of friends that had been in an abusive relationship.

Any woman, regardless of age, class or occupation can find themselves in an abusive relationship and in this new online documentary we see business women, students and mothers share their own individual experiences.

Researcher and reporter for the RTÉ Player series UPFRONT, Della Kilroy said: ''You might think you don’t know someone that has been affected by domestic abuse, but research suggests you probably do. One in five women in Ireland will experience domestic abuse at some point in their lifetime.''

''This means that every day in Ireland, women are beaten, raped and even hospitalised leaving ongoing physical and mental health issues. This doesn’t just happen in the home, as evidence points to an increasing number of young women experiencing abuse in dating relationships.''

UPFRONT is available to watch now on RTÉ Player .

If you have been affected by any of the issues raised, please contact:  Women’s Aid freephone 1800 341 900 1800 341 900 or visit  www.womensaid.ie and www.2in2u.ie


As if the upcoming SHEmazing! gig wasn’t already set to be an absolute stomper of a night, we are pumped to announce that everyone’s favourite folk duo, Hudson Taylor, will also be taking to the stage on July 6.

Taking place in The Sugar Club, the gig – headlined by Róisín O – will raise awareness of an issue which affects more Irish women than anyone would like to imagine – and that issue is dating abuse.

Commenting on the worrying trend which is becoming more and more prevalent in today’s dating scene, our editor Gillian Fitzpatrick said: “Our SHEmazing.net readers are telling us that one in three girls have already experienced Dating Abuse within their own relationships, while over half of our girls know someone who is currently in an abusive or unhealthy relationship.”

“Very often the first serious relationships we start in our teens or early 20's are a whirlwind of love, romance and excitement,” she continued.

“However it is this love that can make women blind to the onset of controlling and abusive behaviour often distancing themselves from friends and family members.”

With funds for Women’s Aid support service hit by Government cuts, we’re determined to raise money for an organisation which provides help to women affected by verbal, emotional, controlling, physical or cyber abuse.

If you suspect you are in an unhealthy relationship, you can seek help from dating abuse dedicated advice site, 2iN2U.ie, which as Linda Smith of Women's Aid explains “is designed to help young women know the difference between safe and sinister behaviour in intimate relationships and offer support to those experiencing dating abuse."

Tickets to next month’s gig are available here so don’t miss out on your opportunity to do your bit for the ladies in your life.



We'll be honest, we're seriously looking forward to the next few months. It's full of gigs and festivals we just can't wait to go to.

However, this year has already been jammed packed with awesome concerts and performances – and we suffered a serious amount of FOMO.

From Adele to Mackelmore, here are the top gigs we wish we went to:


The Corrs at the 3Arena



Foals at the 3Arena



Adele at the 3Arena



Mackelmore at the 3Arena



Bruce Springsteen at Croke Park


Yep, #majorfomo… Those performances were serious craic. But, you don't have to miss anymore! 

Us gals at Shemazing! are hosting a gig in Dublin's Sugar Club to raise awareness for dating abuse, with Róisín O headlining on the night – and loads more acts to be announced – it's going to kick off July with a bang. You won't want to miss out on this one.

Just keep your eyes peeled, you have no idea what we have in store *cheeky monkey emoji*. You can get your tickets here.


In today's Ireland, dating abuse is something that's known but rarely discussed – a silence we at SHEmazing! want to shatter.

Between looking at real life examples and making women more aware of the help they can get, we want more and more girls to feel safe in their relationships and speak out if they feel that something is wrong.

Take the 2in2u relationship quiz here, to find out if his actions are actually NOT OK.

To raise awareness of the issue of dating abuse and to raise funds for Women's Aid, we have decided to host a music gig in The Sugar Club on Wednesday July 6, where Róisín O will headline, and more special guests to be announced. If you'd like to support us on the night, you can get your tickets here now.

If you have been affected by dating abuse and would like to share your story to help others please email us at hello@shemazing.ie.



In today's Ireland, dating abuse is something that's known but rarely discussed – a silence we at SHEmazing! want to shatter.

We're looking at real life examples of dating abuse, and how the victim fought to make their life safe again.

Here, we look at Cara's fight and how she overcame the control of her boyfriend:

Cara's Story:

I met Colm in our last year of college when we were both 21. We had the same circle of friends and often saw each other on nights out. One night we got talking and we had lots in common. He was great fun to be with and we hit it off straight away. I was really flattered by his attention and we starting going on dates and spending a lot of time together. He seemed to get me. He was such a charming guy and my friends all loved him.


After college, I started my new job in the bank. I was really excited to be out in the world and earning my own money. I started to make plans and thought about travelling with my best friend Sarah the following summer. It was around this time that I saw some subtle changes in Colm’s behaviour. He seemed really anxious and concerned about where I was going or who I was with particularly after work. He kept saying to me that "you can’t trust other people." He started to demand that I spend all of my spare time with him.


At first I thought that his concern was sweet but it quickly became suffocating. One time, when I wanted to go on a girls’ night out after work he would insist on meeting me first to escort me to the pub. I always said that there was no need but he pushed me to find out exactly who I would be with and if there would be other guys there. I told him lots of times that there was no need to be jealous. I was so embarrassed when Colm turned up as I left work saying that he just wanted to make sure I was safe. This happened every time I went out. He always seemed reluctant to leave me and I was beginning to find it embarrassing and harder to explain to my workmates. I tried to reassure him but he never listened.


When we were together Colm was very affectionate and he told me that I was his whole world and that we should be happy to spend all of our time only with each other. He said that I should be happy to give him all of my attention and started to hassle me about travelling with him instead of Sarah. He started to try to stop me from going out and soon his behaviour got more sinister. When I was out he started to send me text after text and he’d ring me constantly when I didn’t get back quickly enough. He’d guilt trip me when I rang him back, asking who I was with and saying how could I be having a good time without him. He demanded that I phone him when I arrived home. I was always trying to make him happy but it never seemed to work. I could never say or do the right thing.


I became overwhelmed with all of this. I felt Colm didn’t trust me. I didn’t like that he was keeping an eye on me and wanted to know my every move. I really became worried when Colm started to repeat conversations that I had with my friends. At first, when I asked him, he fobbed it off as me being paranoid or forgetful saying I had told him about the conversations. However, I became more suspicious when I had to go away with work and spent a number of days away from him. When I spoke to Colm he began to question me about information in text messages I had received and questioning me about who had I been texting. He denied that he had any opportunity to look at my phone because I was away and that he was just guessing.


That was the last straw. My gut instinct was that it was more than Colm’s guess work that allowed him to have information about my text messages. I felt more and more under his controlling, watchful eye and constant surveillance. I decided then and there that I wanted to end things with him. I told him that the relationship was over and that I didn’t want to see him again. He became very verbally abusive and threatened that if he couldn’t have me no one else would. He bombarded me with text messages and phone calls that night. I switched my phone off to try and get some sleep, but when I switched on my phone the following morning, I was bombarded again. It never stopped. I didn’t want to talk to Colm because I was frightened. I definitely didn’t want to see him again. His behaviour was too overwhelming and unpredictable and I was scared for my life. Even though he never hit me, his words and threats were like a knife. I didn’t know what I had done to deserve this and he kept telling me that it was all my fault.


When I went home to my parents’ house for the weekend I broke down and told my sister about Colm and what he was doing. She gave me a big hug and told me that she had been worried about because I hadn’t been in touch as much as usual. She had also gotten a few horrible messages on Facebook from Colm accusing her of breaking us up. She showed me the Women’s Aid website and she made me take their Helpline Freephone number in case I ever needed it. I also began to talk to my parents and friends about what was happening.


I didn’t phone Women’s Aid at first as I didn’t really know what to say. But some months later Colm began to stalk me as I went to and from work, letting me see him but not getting too close. He was still sending me threatening texts warning me not to see anyone. The texts were nasty and said that I would regret it if I started to see a new boyfriend. I didn’t feel safe and didn’t know what he was capable of doing. I started to hide away at home fobbing off invites from workmates. I was terrified of Colm now and I felt very vulnerable. When I’d least expect to see him – he was there. I became a shell of myself. I was alone, isolated from my friends and felt like I was going crazy. My life was dominated by my ex.


It was at that point that I decided to phone Women’s Aid. The woman I spoke to her was very supportive and understanding. She encouraged me to trust myself and she told me that his behaviour was not my fault. I soon saw that Colm was trying to control and have power over me and it had been working. Women’s Aid said that they would support me if I reported the incidents of stalking to the Gardaí, advising me to keep the records of his excessive text messages and phone calls. She told me that the Gardaí would be able to press charges under the ‘Non-Fatal Offences against the Person Act’, and that Women’s Aid would support me through the court process.


The Helpline supported me around contacting my mobile phone provider for support on how I might protect myself and my information from my ex-boyfriend. I told them that he possibly had remote access to my mobile phone, as he had given me the mobile phone as a present. I was advised to get a new phone.


It felt good to be back in control of my own life and to feel supported. My friends and family have been brilliant too. I continue to get support from Women’s Aid, when I feel vulnerable. They support and listen to me about my safety and reassure me that I can contact the Gardaí at any time if I feel unsafe. Most importantly, they believe and listen to me. I don’t feel alone and life is getting better, step by step. I feel safe.


*Cara’s story is based on real accounts as told to the Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline and Support Services. Specific details and circumstances have been changed in the interests of protecting identity and to preserve the confidential nature of Women's Aid services.

To raise awareness of the issue of dating abuse and to raise funds for Women's Aid, we have decided to host a music gig in The Sugar Club on Wednesday July 6, where Róisín O will headline, and more special guests to be announced. If you'd like to support us on the night, you can get your tickets here now.

If you have been affected by dating abuse and would like to share your story to help others please email us at hello@shemazing.ie.

Feature image: DWS4.ME


In today's Ireland, dating abuse is something that's known but rarely discussed – a silence we at SHEmazing! want to shatter.

Carrying out a survey on the topic with over 1,000 Irish women threw up some very frightening results, and yet they may not come as a shock to many given that 55% of those surveyed said they know someone in their inner circle of friends that has been abused in a relationship – and we are just stunned that this isn't talked about more.

The most common form of abuse experienced by 18-35 year-olds, is emotional and psychological, taking the top spot at 89%.

Following that is verbal abuse (67%), physical abuse (50%), cyber (24%), and then stalking (15%).

However, this is not being discussed at a national level, which means there is little to no legislation to protect the victims. 

With dating abuse, the victim doesn't live with their partner which means they're not entitled to protection under the current domestic violence legislation in Ireland.

And further, with incidents of stalking – online or otherwise – cases are increasingly difficult to prove under the definition of harassment in Section 10 of the Non-Fatal Offences Against the Person Act 1997.

We want Irish women to come together with us to implore the new Government to re-examine this issue and provide the young women of Ireland with legal protection and the services of support that they deserve.

Our editor, Gillian Fitzpatrick, said of the issues at hand: “Dating abuse is not being talked about therefore it is not being recognised by young women in relationships as unacceptable behaviour."

"Not only do incidents of dating abuse affect the mental health and future relationships of young women but in extreme cases it can lead to accidental or intentional death through physical abuse and suicide for those who see no way out."

"To fully protect young women from dating abuse, we are urging the new Government to recognise that dating abuse is on the increase and current legislation for domestic abuse needs to be extended to make safety orders available to these victims."

"We need to extend protection to younger women in dating relationships that are not covered by domestic violence legislation just because they have never lived with their boyfriend.”

Women who are victims of dating abuse have admitted that they have suffered from a number of long-term side effects including, anger, lowered self-esteem, depression, shame and guilt.

And further, 93% of victims have admitted that they turn to various forms of self-harm to escape their reality – practices which include, overeating (65%), alcohol (45%), cigarettes (31%) and illegal drugs (6%).

To raise awareness of the issue of dating abuse and to raise funds for Women's Aid, we have decided to host a music gig in The Sugar Club on Wednesday July 6, where Róisín O will headline, and more special guests to be announced.

Tickets go on sale TODAY, with the earlybird special price of €19. If you'd like to support us on the night, you can get your tickets here.