Which European country is the most adulterous?

Relationships

Mar 6, 2014

4, 879 people across Italy, Spain, France, Belgium, Germany and England were asked the following question: “In your lifetime, have you ever been unfaithful, i.e. had sex with someone other than the person you were in a relationship with?”

The survey was conducted by Gleedon, a French dating website that specialises in people looking to have affairs and The French Institute of Public Opinion.

Germany came out almost equal with 43% of women saying yes and 46% of men saying the same. This rate was the highest for women who admitted cheating on their partner.

The highest rate of cheating came from men in France and Italy at 55% compared to 32% and 34% of women respectively.

The most faithful men came from England with only 42% saying yes, and faithful women from Spain at 28%.

What to do when you like someone you shouldn’t

Relationships

Mar 4, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Whether he has a girlfriend, a wife or is going out with your best friend, you can’t help but think he is lovely.

Here are some tips to ensure things don’t go too far. You don’t want to jeopardize something far more important – your integrity.

1. Don’t look into it too much
Attraction is a part of life – acting on it isn’t. Think about how many people you have been attracted to in the past and how many people you have actually loved. There is a big difference and attraction passes.

2. Don’t play into his game
Some men cheat and have no problem with it, same goes for many women. Just because it is OK with him to cheat on his other half with you is absolutely no reason for you to allow yourself become the “other woman”.

3. Don’t allow bad behaviour
A knowing glance or a cheeky brush of his hand shouldn’t be tolerated. Nip it in the bud and act in way you feel is appropriate. If you need to, take him aside and let him know firmly you will not be a part of whatever it is he is trying to do. Obviously be sure he is not just a touchy feely person anyway before you do this!

4. Allow yourself to like him
Don’t beat yourself up about it. Figure out what it is about him that you find so attractive and use it to find your next catch.

5. Don’t get into any bad situation
If the married guy and you are the last to leave a party and have been fighting off the sexual tension all night, things might go wrong. Get out of there when everybody else does. Drink and sexual tension are usually not a good mix.

6. Never meet alone
If it is outside of your regular social circle, don’t do it. Even if it is just a coffee, it looks bad.

5 common mistakes women usually make with men

Relationships

Mar 3, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Although every relationship is unique, some of the issues a couple encounters are pretty universal and a lot of the times, it’s because us women tend to get ahead of ourselves – sorry but it’s true!

Here are the 5 common mistakes women make with men:

We pursue

Don’t ever chase a man. If he wants you, he’ll chase you. If he doesn’t chase you, it means he doesn’t want you.

We’re too fast

Give him a little bit at a time.The slower things go at the beginning, the less likely he will distance himself later.

We live in a fairytale

If you’re waiting for a knight in shining armour to sweep you off your feet then you need to wake up – that only happens in movies.

We try to change them

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Either take him as he is or just forget him and move on.

We make excuses for them

Never believe someone who tells you they’re too busy. If he wants you, he’ll make it happen. If not, he’ll make excuses.

Hilarious animation explains why we act like fools in love

Relationships

Mar 1, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Who would have guessed!

5 signs you are probably leading him on

Relationships

Feb 25, 2014

by Amber Saunders

If you can identify with any of these it means your best guy friend is more than likely head over heels for you.

We know it can be handy to have someone around, but let him go and the right person will come along for both of you.

Or else figure out if you could maybe like him too? He’s obviously good enough to spend a lot of time with!

1. You come home from a terrible date and call him to come over and watch Love Actually, he does.
It’s 3am on a Saturday – you are more important than a night out with the lads. Just friends? Don’t think so!

2. He carries all your bags and shopping for you
A man doesn’t willingly go shopping with a woman without a good reason.

3. He walks you to work every morning, turning up at 8am with an extra-hot skinny Caramel Macchiato in hand.
He works on the opposite side of the city…

4. He’s your back-up plan
If that cute guy is busy or the girls are away, you turn to him.

5. His friends joke that you are a couple
Your friends know that is a ridiculous notion.

Laid-back ways to see if your crush likes you

Relationships

Feb 21, 2014

by Amber Saunders

The last thing in the world any self-respecting young woman wants to do is come across as, *whispers* desperate.

In order to move things forward, you need to find out if he likes you too and this involves adapting a few juvenile tactics. So, it’s a little Transition Year, but who cares! We have to look after number one. Here are some easy ways to get a little closer to him .

1. At work
If you work with him, tell him you are running to the coffee shop and ask if he would like anything. If he is into you and isn’t too busy he might even offer to come with you – perfect! If not, at least you have the coffee to deliver on the way back. And if he growls no and waves you out of his office, do you really want to date him anyway?

2. In your building
If you live in the same building as him, call around one Sunday and say you are baking, dropped an egg and could you maybe steal one of his. While he fetches it, have a quick scope around for girly things. If you see none then call around during the week with a replacement egg for him – cute and quirky excuse to see him again.

3. On your commute
This one is a little more tricky because you need to not come across as a stalker. As in, don’t say: “I saw your name on your work badge and you look so different in a tracksuit rather than shirt and tie in your Facebook photos”. Eek. If he is reading ask him if it’s any good and that you were recommended it before.

Our favourite romance novels

Relationships

Feb 20, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Feeling fed up and disillusioned with love? Well we want to change that!

Everyone enjoys a beautiful love story and sometimes a good book can be way better than any movie so dust these off the shelves, fill up the hot water bottle and hide under the duvet.

1. Pride and Prejudice – Jane Austen
A classic. Be prepared to fall in love with Mr. Darcy all over again and start speaking like someone from Downton Abbey.

2. The Notebook – Nicholas Sparks
You’ve seen the movie, cried over the movie and obsessed over the movie. Now read the book!

3. The Time Traveler’s Wife – Audrey Niffenegger
You’ll need a box of tissues with this one.

4. Wuthering Heights – Emily Brontë
Another classic. Catherine and Heathcliff’s passion is palpable, and heartbreaking.

5. Where Rainbows End – Cecilia Ahern
Cecilia’s second novel may not be quite as popular as her first but that doesn’t stop it from amazing. True love conquers all!

5 signs you’re in a long term relationship

Relationships

Feb 8, 2014

by Amber Saunders

1. Your friends have a collective name for you.
YOUR friends that is. His friends still tend to just go with calling you the “old doll” or “beour”.

2. You have no problem in slathering Sudocreme ALL over your face before bedtime.
He doesn’t bat an eyelid.

3. He’ll never eat one single fried egg in the bag of Haribo Supermix.
They are yours and yours alone.

4. He never attempts sex when you’re on your period – he saw it coming four days ago.
Well that saves that awkward “oh, no, er, I’m ya know….” conversation.

5. What the hell is Tinder?
Just because we have no use for it doesn’t mean there’s no point in telling us about it!

Five things single women are sick of hearing

Relationships

Feb 5, 2014

by Amber Saunders

1. Don’t worry, you’ll find someone eventually.
Will I now? Thanks so much for your input and belief in my love life, it means soooo much. They often don’t even recognise the sarcasm when you say this. Sigh.

2. There’s always sperm donors.
Why, will they go out with me?

3. What about that guy? Or how about that one?
Do you mean the one that looks like a serial killer or the one with the v-neck down to his bellybutton? Either way, we’ll pass.

4. How’s the love life?
This one is mostly heard at weddings or Christmas time and is usually uttered by older relatives who can’t seem to fathom the presence of a 26-year-old single woman.

5. You don’t need anyone.
We know.

Hollywood’s longest relationships

Relationships

Feb 3, 2014

by Amber Saunders

We love a fairytale ending.

These couples have stood the Hollywood test of time (so far!) and will hopefully live happily ever after!

1. David and Victoria Beckham
Whatever you think about the Beckhams, you can’t deny they obviously have a great love for one another, which has resulted in a beautiful family and a 15-year marriage this summer.

2. Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson
One of Hollywood’s most enduring marriages; Tom and Rita have been married since 1988 and have two sons together.

3. Jay-Z and Beyoncé
The King and Queen of music have been together for nearly 12 years, beginning their relationship in 2002 after collaborating for 03’Bonnie and Clyde. The couple are very private about their relationship and got married in 2008 followed by the birth of baby Blue Ivy in 2012.

4. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell
Goldie and Kurt have been together for over 30 years. Following unsuccessful marriages on both parts, they proved you don’t need to get married to maintain a healthy and happy relationship.

5. Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin
An unlikely couple if there ever was one, but I guess it’s true what they say about opposites attracting! Chris and Gwyneth have been together since 2002 and have two children together, Apple and Moses.

How soon is too soon?

Relationships

Feb 3, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Telling your significant other you love them for the first time can go both ways. Some couples share a magical moment, while others feel that those three words have put a whole lot of pressure on their relationship. Before taking things to the next step, here are a few things to consider:

Do you really mean it?
Don’t use those words as a way to manipulate him or because you feel you’re supposed to.

Will he say it back?
You say ‘I love you,’ he says ‘I know’ – not a very happy ending in our books.

Out of the blue or planned?
Sometimes it’s just better to let the love grow from within; this way saying those three words will come naturally.

Is it the right time?
If your other half quite likes how things are going, ‘I love you’ might throw him off a bit. Pace yourself so you’re both on the same page.

Maybe actions say more
Showing love and support is much stronger than any three words. Sometimes you just need to be there for one another.

How to keep the fire burning

Relationships

Jan 31, 2014

by Amber Saunders

When two people have been together for a long time, things can start to get a bit monotonous. You wake up together, eat together, sleep together – it just seems like the two of you do everything together, right?

While it can be perfectly normal to fall into a routine when you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s never a good idea to stay in it.

Here’s how you two can spice things up:

Plan a weekend getaway, even if you’re just going out to the countryside, a new scenery is always a good thing.
Send each other unexpected text messages during the day. It can be a cute text or a dirty one – the key is to put a smile on his face.
Take turns massaging one another. This will help the two of you unwind and allows for some bonding time.
Surprise him with breakfast in bed. This might remind him that it’s the little things that count – and he just might return the favour.