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Online dating can be oddly addictive.

At first, you convince yourself you're just in it “for the laugh”, but before you know it, you're two hours deep in a marathon swipe session, trying to pinpoint the exact moment you lost all self-control.

Sound familiar?

If so, it might not surprise you to discover that single millennials spend a whopping 10 hours a week looking for love online.

Dating site Badoo.com surveyed its 370 million users worldwide in an effort to gain a deeper insight into today's modern dating trends – and the results were very interesting indeed.

Results showed that men spent an average of 85 minutes per day on dating apps, with each session lasting 9.7 minutes.

Whereas women spend 79 minutes a day on dating apps, typically browsing for 7.6 minutes each session to find a potential partner.

A spokesperson from Badoo.com, who commissioned the research said: “One question we get asked a lot, is how much time do people really spend swiping for ‘the one’?”

“These results give one of the first insights into how long [users] spend in pursuit of love.”

“And it will come as no surprise that time is no barrier for most people.”

According to the study, female users log on to dating apps and average of 10 times a day, while men fall just short of the top spot with and average of nine times per day.

Sure it might sound like a lot, but it could end up being worth it in the end. 

And hey, when you do eventually find 'the one' you can use that free time to go on cute, real-life dates! 


Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble may have a role to play in the increasing amount of sexually transmitted infections being reported in Ireland, according to doctors.

It's believed that the laid-back attitude associated with online dating may we changing the way we think about casual sex, thus contributing to the increased risk of exposure to STIs.

Dr Ilona Duffy believes that young people are showing less concern for things like unplanned pregnancy and infections, than the generations before them.

"We're seeing the likes of Tinder, other websites where people are hooking up purely for sex and people, young people especially, don't have the same hang ups as they had years ago – worrying about pregnancy, worrying about STIs, worrying just about their reputation," she said.

"So it is very different. While it is fine to be on Tinder etc and meeting up people for casual sex – you've got to take precautions and I think that's not out there," she said.

She also said that an improvement in Ireland's sex education system is need to decrease the prevalence of STIs in Irish society.

However, she did point out that the growing number of sexual health clinics around the county could behind the inflated figures.

To protect yourself from STIs, make sure to use condoms during every sexual encounter, and avail of free, regular STI screenings.


Searching for a date? – Well, today might just be your lucky day.

The first Sunday of January, otherwise known as 'Dating Sunday', is the busiest day of the year for online daters.

Popular sites like Match.com, Plenty of Fish and Tinder all report significant increases in user activity on the first Sunday of the New Year.

In fact, according to abc News, Match.com is predicting a massive 42 per cent increase in sign-ups today, while Tinder say that twice as many matches were made on this day last year.

So, what is it about today that makes us all so desperate for love?

Well, as the festive season comes to an end and thoughts of Valentines and summer holidays begin to take their hold, many singletons begin to search for a partner to share these romantic milestones with.

And seeing as we were busy in work all week, today is the perfect day to sit back and settle in for a marathon swipe session.

However, it's not all good news.

Not only does the new year herald the beginning of new and exciting relationships, it's also a time associated with painful break-ups and messy divorces.

The first Monday after the Christmas break has even been dubbed 'Divorce Day', with the of divorce inquiries doubling (and even tripling) in the first few days of January.



Online dating is nothing new.

People have been developing relationships via the internet ever since the first dial-up connection changed our lives forever. 

However, a few years ago, a dating app called Tinder came crashing onto scene and changed the way we saw potential partners for evermore.

Unlike most online dating platforms, Tinder would only allow two users to chat if they had both expressed an interest in one another, meaning rejection and pitty texting are a thing of the past.

No one ever has to know you've swiped right, unless they have as well – it's a beautiful thing.

However, that could all be about to change.

The dating app today announced the introduction of a feature that will allow users to view how many pending likes they have at any given time.

You can then scroll through a grid of all the people who have already expressed interest in them, or, if swiping the old-fashioned way, a gold heart will appear next to the profile of someone who has already liked you.

But, there's a catch.

This feature is only available on the app's new premium service, Tinder Gold.

It's not yet clear how much this service will cost, but according to TechCrunch, a spokesperson for the company said it will be “only a small additional fee” for those who are already Tinder Plus members (€9.99/ month).

The feature is currently being tested in Argentina, Australia, Canada and Mexico, but developers are planning for the service to be rolled out everywhere in the near future.


If you've ever spent time on a dating app, you'll know just how frustrating it can be.

It's hard enough getting to know someone through a brief text/ gif exchange, but trying to figure out what exactly your match is after is an entirely different ball game. 

No one would blame you for thinking that the vast majority of dating app users were only after one thing, but perhaps we're a little too quick too judge. 

A new study conducted by Harvard University has revealed that there may be light at the end of the 'you out tonight?' tunnel after all.

Researchers surveyed a group of US adults aged between 18 and 25 and found that the vast majority were totally single or dating just one person.

Results found that less than 5 per cent of Tinder users messaged more than five people each week and just a bit over 5 per cent would expect to sleep with someone on the first date.

The other 95 per cent either said they would be completely against getting intimate with someone on the first date, or it simply just wasn't something they were looking for.

So, contrary to what you might think, it looks like most of us serial-daters are actually searching for something more long-term.

The study reads: ‘’What we found — and what our report describes — stands in stark contrast to the common story in our culture about young people’s romantic and sexual experiences.’’

‘’Research indicates that a large majority of young people are not hooking up frequently, and our research suggests that about 85% of young people prefer other options to hooking up, such as spending time with friends or having sex in a serious relationship.’’

So, if you're after something more than a one-night-stand, don't give up hope just yet.

But knowing our luck, we'd still manage to find that 5 per cent. 


Let's face it, online dating can be a bit of a chore.

Whether you’re mulling over what picture to use, what bio to write or wasting hours swiping through some questionable profiles, the dating game can be more hassle than it’s worth.

But what if you could let someone else lay the groundwork?

Well, Wingman might just have the answer.

Wingman is a new dating app that puts the control completely in the hands or your chosen wingman or wingwoman.

Users can not create their own profiles, nor can they choose who they connect with – those privileges are reserved for the single’s trusted friend.

But don’t worry, your profile won’t go live until you’ve approved it.

If your trusted wingman or women approves of someone who is interested in you, you’ll be connected and can take the conversation form there.

While the single user cannot directly contact the people they’re interested in, they can ‘nudge’ their wingman in their direction.

App designer, Tina Wilson, told Mashable she wanted to app to mimic real life interactions.  

So, if you fancy yourself a bit of a matchmaker, or maybe you’re in need of one, Wingman will sort you out. 

Oh, and while we have you; don't forget to have your say in the inaugural SHEmazing Awards this May! It's time to vote, and you can do it right here!



Catfishing is an online modern dating phenomenon where people pretend to be someone their not to lure others into an online relationship, and the the term was popularised by MTV's hit show, Catfish.

This week, Twitter is getting up in arms over fake online profiles, and is dolling out the advice to the unsuspecting relationship seekers who are trawling the Internet for a potential partner.

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, be wary of catfish while you swipe away looking for a bae. 

10. We've all met a prince in our inbox who needs our help to get that €10,000,000 inheritance.

9. Amateur catfish mistake.

8. It's the 21st century people, we have cameras on things we don't need or want cameras on.

7. Again, 21st centuary…

6. More excuses than we have not to go to the gym on a Saturday morning.

5. Soooo many excuses.

4. Either they still live at home or they're secretly 14.

3.  How often do webcams really break?

2. So many snaps of their bedroom walls.

1. And the glaringly obvious…


Much to the dismay of my ettiquette-influenced family, I was not blessed with a naturally refined poise as a child.

A constant spilling of drinks, clattering of cutlery and general snot-nosed tomboyishness haunted my place at the dinner table every evening, and the terms "elbows off the table," "your fork is not a shovel" and "don't speak with you mouth full" became a part of the perpetual dinner time din.

Luckily, I got the hang of it somewhere around fourth class, so my friends and family are now safe from the obnoxious food chewing that persevered through my early childhood.

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Orla Brosnan, etiquette expert and founder of the Etiquette School of Ireland, aims to equip people with etiquette skills to suit the modern day.

Etiquette has a bit of a stuffy, Downton Abbey image, but realistically it all comes down to having proper manners, presentation and a few tricks up your sleeve to navigate even the most fancy af of meals. 

Etiquette covers a variety of areas, from style, fitness and social media rules to the more traditional dinner table standards, and I was able to sample them all at the Etiquette School's masterclass at the Shelbourne Hotel.

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My initial issue was "oh God, what do I wear?" A pantsuit, a pencil skirt, a 1950's fit and flare frock with white gloves and a dainty pill box hat?

I settled for plaid trousers and a black jumper and settled in to the classes, ready for my instruction on how to become a lady with notions. 

The master class featured a series of speakers, who sat at dinky little tables in one of the hotel's chandelier draped and gildedly furnished tea rooms, ready to teach the ways of the sophisticated world, speed dating style.  


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First up was learning how to politely exercise and nurture my body, and the advice was given by Annmarie Murray, who, when she isn't busy being a a Facebook famous fitness babe online, is instructing people on how their posture speaks for them before they have a chance to say a word. 

"A strong body is a strong mind. When someone is fitter and more confident in themselves, the more that's going to come across in their day to day lives," said Annmarie, who has trained Olympic athletes in the US.

"The exercise comes into play with posture. People who sit all day and then drive home and sit on the couch, their posture is hunched, the muscles are tight. Just getting out for a walk in the fresh air, doing some stretching, or pilates or yoga, who naturally sit up straighter."

"If you're able to have good eye contact, sit up straight, stand up tall and be open, then people are going to be more open to you.

*Sits up straighter in chair*

Style is a hugely important element to everyone's personality, and discovering what it says about you can be even more important, especially when it comes to things like job interviews and presentations. 

Tanya McGilligan, Ireland's leading style and image consultant, was on hand at the master class to judge us all harshly for our chipped nail varnish and handbag choices.

Actually, despite Tanya's sky-scrapingly high style standards, her advice was sound, astute and simplistic. It's all about the classics, dressing for your shape and colouring and making a professional wardrobe work for absolutely everyone.

It was like Trinny and Suzanna had been rolled into one achingly stylish advisor.

"I truly believe that you don't have to spend a lot of money to look good, you don't have to buy expensive things, it's easy to look great as long as you are dressing to your shape and colouring, there's no reason why you couldn't pick that up on the high street somewhere.You just have to spend some time on yourself to get it right."

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Online etiquette class videos show young women clip clopping across the room, wobbling in their high heels as they are instructed on how to properly wear and walk in the stilettos, but with backlash on businesses who require their female employees to wear heels happening every week, it seems like high heels could soon be an outdated formal requirement.

"No, they are not a necessity," said Tanya. "It depends on what you are looking for if you want to get a little bit of height there are petite kitten heels, a pump, or wedges look great too."

"I think it's better that people walk properly in heels, than not walking properly. It's better for them to get it right, and then it's their choice if they want to utilise the skill or not."

In regards to tattoos, piercings and eclectically coloured hair, Tanya thinks that people have moved past the negative associations of alternative style. 

"I think people have really loosened up, there's a lot of people with tattoos, a lot of people with piercings, and it's a good thing. If I decide to dye my hair black, you should have the right to do the same or wear an earring in your nose. It's a sign of individuality, it's how you want to appear. It's your body."

"When it comes to a job interview, if you feel its going to work against you, take it out. Your main aim is to get the job so if it's going to go against you then… when you get the job you can discuss it with HR."


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Of course, the talk turned to trends(what else is going to happen when two fashion obsessed women discuss style): "What's going to be big this year is fuscia and pink, stripes, preferably rainbow stripes, cropped jeans, micro mini bags, slogans instead of logos. Pink is the new camel. The camel coats? Yawn."

Next up, it was time for "netiquette", the online version of perfect table manners.

The basic rules? No phones at the table at any time, not taking calls during meals and no checking your social media in company.

"It's just not polite, it's just not the done thing. I know it's become an very important part of 21st century life but it's not the correct thing to do," said Michael Keogh, who delivers training courses in digital profile management. 

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As for the likes of social media, we have reached our saturation point for pictures of cats and babies. It is no longer acceptable to force us to coo over an adorable munchkin via the internet or make us endure a slide show of your cat's "funniest" moments. 

Hashtags are also super important: "Don't gatecrash the wrong conversation. If you're talking about the Kardashians, you don't need to share it with the rugby hashtag. So just be conscious. " advises Michael. 

Also selfie control is key for not looking slightly self obsessed: "If you have a picture of a beautiful statue, take the picture of the statue, you don't need to do a selfie of you beside that statue. It's implied that you took the photograph and you're standing right in front of the statue."

When it comes to selfies, "moderation is key."We definitely know a few people who could use this rule.

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Becoming a Tinder goddess, as it turns out, isn't actually that difficult.

"Tinder is really an interesting one. Initially it was seen as really cool, then it was seen as really lecherous, like swiping left or right how superficial can you be."

Tinder has managed to turn that reputation around (kind of) by linking in Instagram and bios to give context and depth to individual profiles.

Tip for pro tindering? Be honest about what you're looking for, "don't say you're a marathon runner if you ran the marathon in 1993 and you have been eating pies ever since."

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"Make your English teacher proud, use correct spelling and don't use text speak in your profile. Use an appropriate photo, as long as that photo is a fair and accurate representation of who you are."

Further takeaways involve never using more than three hastags on Twitter (classy),keeping your personal plans under wraps on public social media platforms (trashy) and never going more than three rounds with an online hater.

And as for online catfish? Report them. 


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Finally, it was time for me to but my childhood-honed table manners to the test as I sat down with the Ettiquette School of Ireland's founder Orla Brosnan.

As we delved into the formalities of how to use formal cutlery (work from the outside in) and why you never clink glasses at a wedding toast (its just not the done thing), Orla explained how important table manners are.

"Young people come into a business dinner with brains to burn, but can let the entire company down if they cant eat correctly." 

And when it comes to dating, Orla thinks that if you like a guy, let him pay for the meal with the intention that you will pay for the next one.

And if you don't like him? Go splits so you don't owe him another dinner. 

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Never put your hands on the table, break your bread, never cut, never go to the bathroom until the main course is cleared, and as far as palette cleansers go, if some lettuce appears, never cut it up, instead roll it up and place it in your mouth whole.

And NEVER take Instagram photos of your food in a fancy restaurant. 

You learn something new every day.

I left the Shelbourne ready to embark on my new life as the Princess of Genovia, or at least as a fully fledged lady who now knows how to use a fish knife.


Anyone who has been on Tinder will have experienced the "creepy Tinder guy" who sends them outrageous, freaky or even legitimately worrying messages. 

One Instagram page, aptly titled Tinder Nightmares, has taken to documenting the worst offenders. 

You know the ones, those matches that make us contemplate leaving the dating game forever and giving up on romance entirely.

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The page posts screen shots of some of the most offensive, ridiculous, and down right hilarious conversations out there, and with 1.7 million followers, it's doing pretty well for itself. 

Here's a few of our favourites, be prepared to give up on men entirely (or find them entirely amusing).

1. Whatever you're into hun.


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2. She said what we're all thinking.


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3. YES ADAM. It's weird.


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4. This holiday related pun was just a step too far for us. 


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5. At least this guy knows that he failed spectacularly.


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6. This classic example of casual ignorant piggery. 


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7. Steve really knows how to present himself.


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8. We have no words…


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9. This one knows too much! Silence him!


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10. Why world, why.


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Online dating is a huge phenomenon, and January is the busiest time to sign up to a site.

Tinder is officially mainstream, and admitting that you met your bae online is a normality rather than a novelty nowadays.

While we all have a few online dating horror stories about creepers and catfish, making true love a reality for 2017 could actually be a click away. 


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Things get pretty busy on online dating sites, as singletons flock to find their true love (or tonight's love) to kick off a new year. 

"January 1 can signify a new start, so this year in particular we may see more singles than ever getting head starts on their resolutions. With many people ready to recommit themselves to finding someone special after the holidays, it's a great time to be looking for love," Shannon Smith, Communications Manager at PlentyOfFish, told Bustle.

15 percent of adults used online dating sites or mobile dating apps last year, according to findings by the Pew Research Center. 


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For the 18- to 24-year-old set, the percentage has nearly tripled from 10 percent in 2013 to 27 percent today.

This year, Match foresees 8:49 P.M. on January 8 as being the busiest time for online dating, when they predict that 42 percent more people than usual will join.

PlentyOfFish predicted that January 1 would break records, with a 48 percent increase in sign-ups.

Tinder also saw a 60 percent increase in super-likes during the week of Christmas, from people looking for a festive date. 

The time frame between Christmas and Valentine's Day is peak season for first dates, so if finding love is one of your New Year's resolutions, now may be the time to get swiping. 


We're still not quite recovered, frankly.

Tinder users were dealt a swift kick right in the stomach last night when the app went down unexpectedly, taking with it all details of former matches.

That lad you were counting on for a cheeky shift on Paddy's night? Gone. The possibly-maybe-could-be-a-thing match you'd been flirting with for weeks? Gone. The one ridiculously inapproporiate chat you always look back over when you need a belly laugh? GONE.

Yup, the online dating app went down for a full five hours last night, and people were not coping very well at all. While the outage seemed to be worldwide, the time of day meant that users in Ireland, the UK and Europe really felt it most.

Thankfully, service was back up by midnight, but if you still can't see your matches, the folks at Tinder recommend logging out and logging back in.

Order was restored.

Never leave us again, Tinder. 


Would you date a stranger – who happened to be a much older man – in secret, if it meant you'd have an endless supply of disposable income, new clothes and all the cosmetics your heart desired?

While for some this might be an immediate no-no, for other women the prospect is quite appealing indeed. So much so, in fact, that the website SeekingArrangement.com has seen a 14% increase in both male and female Irish users since 2014.

Relationships initiated on the website generally involve exchanging money, travel and gifts for "companionship." In some instances sex comes as part of that package. The process is called “sugaring”.

The average Irish user of the service is a typical "Sugar Daddy", in his early forties, based in Dublin and earning in excess of €250,000.

As for the women, TV3's Ireland AM spoke to two of Ireland's 23,000 "Sugar Babies", both college-age women who have used the service as a way to make some extra cash and keep themselves in a glamourous lifestyle.

One such woman, Natasha, a 19-year-old with two part-time sugar daddies and one full-time one, explained the arrangement that she has going on.

"I see him twice a month," she said of one of the relationships. 

"Once we either go for a drink or we have dinner, and the second date we have is a shopping date where I pick out what I like and he buys it for me… I get an allowance as well."

Siobhán [name changed], a 20-year-old Irish college student, said she had been treated to new Louboutin heels, clothes and make-up on her first date with a sugar daddy based in the UK.

"He’s giving me €500 a month," she said, adding that her sugar daddy has flown her to the UK ten times during the relationship.

"We go for dinner, go for drinks and then just spend the night together. If I’m looking for new clothes for college or a night out with the girls, or I need to go on holidays with the girls, he’ll give me that aswell."

As for sex, Siobhán said it is part of the arrangement and that it was discussed before the pair met in person.

"With him, we discussed it [sex] before I went over [to the UK], to see if we were interested in each other as I was going to stay the night with him in his house anyway.

"We had discussed it before I went over. Sex was fine. It was no problem."

Natasha adds that she enjoys the sugar baby lifestyle as it gives her an element of control in her life.

"It makes me feel glamorous, it makes me feel sexy, it makes me feel powerful and it makes me feel like I’m in charge of my life and makes me have that power.”

Watch the full interview, which aired on Ireland AM today, here: