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New research suggests that social media is becoming a "common problem" in Irish marriages, according to The Independent.

Over 3,000 clients took part in a survey in Maynooth over two years which discovered that both men and women find social media and technology "behaviour" causes difficulties in marriages and relationships.

Accord Catholic Marriage Care Service maintains that constant access to technology and phones has taken away the "cooling off" period following an argument.

The Accord has commented that it will alter it's service to accommodate the issue following couples' feedback.

Bishop Denis Nulty, president of Accord and Bishop of Kildare & Leighlin, said: "Social media is a huge issue. Pope Francis spoke about this at Croke Park and we need to be digitally conscious."

He elaborated on why the results are vital for the organisation; "We're dictated by gadgets so being clued-in is important."

On the removal of the "cooling-off" period he said: "When you send a text, a tweet or a Whatsapp message, there's no way of pulling it back, and it causes huge heartache for everyone involved."

"As we shape our marriage preparation courses in the future, we'll be taking this into consideration," Bishop Nulty mused.

"We have a low divorce rate in Ireland, and I would like to keep it low. I have no doubt people in Ireland still take marriage very seriously."

16,048 individuals attended the Accord's marriage preparation courses across the nation in 2018, which was down almost 800 from 2017

Accord counsellors separately provided 24,180 counselling sessions to individuals and couples during 2018 throughout the whole island of Ireland, which was less than that of 2017.

The bishop attributes some of the drop in figures to couples attending different private counselling services.

Other "problem areas" included unresolved arguments, inappropriate behaviour during arguments and dissatisfaction with their sexual relationship.

75 per cent of clients who saw data reviewed claim that their relationship improved following counselling.



No matter how rock-solid your relationship is, there are certain events that will always be a bit, shall we say, challenging.

If you and your other half have almost called it quits over an ill-fated trip to IKEA or "someone" forgetting to pack your passports for that long-awaited holiday, don't worry, you're not alone.

Here are some of the many, many everyday incidents that are bound to get tempers flaring…

1. Trying to decide what takeaway to order from
'Which one?' 'Ah, I don't mind.' 'So will we go for Domino's?' 'Nah, not in the mood.' 


2. Picking a film on Netflix
Too much choice is sometimes a bad thing. The WORST thing, in fact.


3. Meeting your other half's parents for the first time
You're tense, he's tense, they're probably tense… it's a recipe for disaster.


4. The first time he tags along on a girls' night (or vice versa)
So, one of the girls was meant to bring her BF too and now he can't come… roll on cocktail night with the gals (plus one boy).


5. The first time you two do a food shop together
"No, I only eat Heinz Beans." "Well I only eat Batchelor's." The ultimate showdown.


6. That "casual" game of Monopoly
An hour ago you were pals, now he's just made you go bankrupt and you're seething.


7. Your first holiday together
It'll be grand when you get there, you just need to navigate the airport queues, the long-haul flight, driving on the wrong side of the road, a new currency…


8. The morning after a drunken fight
"Well, see, you wouldn't listen to me when I said Dustin WAS in the Eurovision that one time…"


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