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Seriously, sometimes we just LOVE the internet.

Two days ago, a man uploaded footage to YouTube of his wife breakin' it down to Salt n Pepa and it is everything you could want.

She's got sass, she's got attitude and she's got no idea she's being filmed.

Letting out a horrified yelp when she realises she's been caught on camera, her obviously smitten husband can't hide his delight. 

Commenting on his wife's performance, the man said: "My wife is THE most beautiful human being I know and I absolutely adore the moments I get to watch her being herself."

The forty second clip has gotten over five and a half million views since the initial upload.

Major feel-good factor.
 

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If you've managed to enjoy a cringe-free sex life, then spare a moment for the rest of us mere mortals who often have to suffer through embarrassing noises, awkward mishaps and unpleasant sensations in a bid to reach The Big O.

If any of the above cringers sound familiar, congratulations! You have a normal sex life.

Let's face it, it's not like the movies and it's never going to be, so that's why laughing off all those sexy time bloopers is VITAL if you want to actually enjoy the no-pants-dance with your other half.

Sounds
We don't need to go into specifics here. We all know what we're talking about when we say sex can be rife with noises more akin to a whoopie cushion convention than a romantic boudoir, but what can you do? These noises are unavoidable and if neither you nor your partner can handle hearing them, then best just abstain from sex from now on! Nah, we didn't think so.

Laugh it off (really loudly, incase there's any more on the way), make a joke and remind yourself that those sounds pale in comparison to the more joyful noises you're both making!

Logistics
Every single time you're about to get down to it, your boyfriend acts like he's never encountered a bra clasp. He wrestles with it, scratching your back in the process while you sigh and slowly feel the mood go off you.

Yes, it's frustrating, but either laugh and help the poor guy out or focus your attention elsewhere while he gets to grip with the rubik's cube he's certain is attached to your bra clasp. Getting irritated will only put an end to proceedings and is it really worth missing out?

Female issues
We've all been there. Your period makes a surprise appearance and all of a sudden the passion is dulled by bodily functions, gasps of horror and flashbacks of that infamous PE class in second year. White shorts, thanks coach.

No matter how close you and your partner are, you can still feel embarrassed and juvenile when something like that happens, but look, it all comes as part of the package and if you don't make a big deal of it, then chances are neither will he. If your boyfriend can't handle womanly issues, then maybe he's in the wrong type of relationship!

At the end of the day girls, you're naked, sweaty and gasping to begin with, so really, what else can happen that's more embarrassing or can't be laughed off?

Use the most awkward of moments as a bonding tool or a future in-joke, you'd be surprised how much more relaxing and enjoyable sex can be when you stop sweating the small stuff.

 

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Ok so, nothing has changed, as such. There aren’t any arguments, you’re still really happy to see each other, but maybe you think that the little bit of sparkle which previously made you The Most Glorious Couple On The Planet has somehow disappeared. We've all been there.

Here are just five ways to get it back!

Be appreciative
Remember the way he’d text you a ‘good morning’ message every day or how he’d put a hot water bottle on your side of the bed and your heart would swell?

If he still does all those sweet things, then chances are you’re starting to take them for granted. Don’t. Make a conscious effort to appreciate them and watch your relationship improve.

Get each other small treats
We know there’s a lot of present buying in relationships between Christmas, birthdays, Valentine’s and anniversaries, but we’re not talking about bringing out the big guns.

What about stationary for his desk in work because he can’t stand that Alan from Accounts constantly nicks his stuff? Inexpensive, but thoughtful gifts or notes which show you listen to each other will go a long way towards strengthening your bond.

Spend time together, TV and internet- free
When was the last time you sat down together without the distraction of TV’s, laptops or iPhones? Make an effort to chill out without the aid of technology and remind yourself why you’re together in the first place.

Can anyone else make him laugh so hard he almost falls off the couch? Isn’t he the only person that realises doing impressions of his work mates while massaging your feet is the perfect combo?

Communicate
If you acknowledge that you have a habit of stewing over an argument or miscommunication instead of just getting it out in the open, then you’re well on the way to improving your relationship. Once you’ve established that honest communication is the key to a happy relationship, life will be a lot easier.

Encourage your boyfriend to do the same. Agreeing to leave past arguments in the past, where they belong, will give your relationship a major boost.

Allow each other ‘me time’
If you’re seeing too much of each other, then chances are the relationship may be turning a little sour. It’s not a reflection on the quality of your relationship because even the most devoted couple need some time apart. Our grandmothers were right when they told us that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Choosing to spend just ONE night together at the weekend, or if you’re already living together, deciding to have a girls or lad’s night once a week will do wonders for you both. After a night out with your respective crews, you’ll be only dying for an evening together to share the latest.

 

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No matter how well we think we know our other half, we sometimes have to remind ourselves that they had an entire life before they met us and we can’t possibly know everything. Really girls, would we even want to?! There ARE times however when an insight into your boyfriend’s past, no matter how old or trivial, is really welcome and can actually strengthen your bond.

We don’t suggest sitting his friends down and demanding to know the ins and outs of his life, pre-you, but just listen up when bromantic anecdotes and titbits are being shared. His mates mightn’t even realise it, but they’re basically giving you a front row seat to the story of the boy that became your boyfriend.

His school days
We think we have this pretty much covered, don’t we? We know he fancied Amanda in 6th year and he got rat-arsed when he missed out on his first CAO choice by five points, but what about his day-to-day school persona? His school friends are a great source of cute and heartwarming stories.

Did you hear about the time he nursed a sparrow back to health after finding it in the school yard? No, no we did not. *Heart surge.*

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His love life
Boys have a habit of either playing down their past hook-ups or bigging them up so much, you’re not quite sure whether you’re dating Donal or The Hef. For a genuine insight, his best mate is the man to listen to.

While a big group of lads in classic banter-form have no bother pretending (and probably believing *sigh) that they were the college studs, his bessie will have the REAL story. Yes, he was heartbroken when his girlfriend dumped him in first year, but he was falling all over himself when he first started dating you. PSYCH!

His family
Families are tricky. You may not have even met them yet, so there might be a small air of mystery surrounding the whole clan, so do keep your ear to the ground. Chatting with him and his mates about potential Christmas presents can give you an insight into your boyfriend’s relationship with his family.

Thoughtful presents and a lot of preparation in the past suggests he has a close bond with his; always nice to hear, right?

Don’t be disappointed that he hasn't shared certain stories and experiences with you, there’s hundreds of things you haven’t shared with him, but there’s no malice behind it, right?
Maybe he’d feel like he was boasting if he told you he gave his Happy Meal to a wailing toddler in Maccy D’s or won the Iron Stomach competition in his final year of college, so just accept that, but DO make the most of his friend’s loose lips. 

You know, he probably does the same with your mates too. Prime them quick!

 

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You may find 'The One' straight away (lucky you!) or, like so many of us, you will have to endure the following charmers before you meet Prince Charming himself!

1. The Bad Boy
Every girl loves a bad boy. Is it the thrill of the chase or the just the danger he exudes. Does he smoke, does he drink, does he walk around with that “I don’t care attitude”…whatever it is it can be an eye opener for certain girls. Do you become a full on Bonnie and Clyde or nip it in the bud for something a bit more stable?

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2. The Unfaithful
Everybody has been cheated on and it's never a nice feeling. OK, well maybe not everyone gets cheated on, but a lot do sadly! It’s usually not long before he becomes ‘unfaithfully departed’ and the relationship hits a ‘rest in peace’ kind of thing! Live and learn but don’t let it make you bitter. There are good guys too.

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3. The Looker
Oh gawd….he's a model! You spend the entire relationship wondering how you bagged him before you realise there's no actual chemistry there. 

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4. The Figment of your Imagination
Whether its a special someone made out different elements of celebrities, guys you’ve been with or Disney princes you watched as a girl, this guy will never exist. It’s your perfect guy…but the one you will never have. Unfortunately.

5. The Sexaholic
The sex is brilliant, but there’s no emotional connection. But it’s still the best sex you’ve ever had…this will usually filter out into the fact that one of you wants something more. You will gauge all future sex life from this relationship, even though for one of you it may not have been a relationship, more a convenient understanding.

6. The Nearly There
It's love – no doubt about that. But for some reason or another it doesn't last. 

via our content partner CT

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In every relationship, there’s the good days and the bad. Bad outweighs the good because when they’re bad, they’re Tyson bad.  It’s always the boy’s fault.  Even if it’s not, it is. Girls sniff them out, searching for the next row, the next wrong word or wrong look. Here is a breakdown of the top fights gals start with their boyfriends and the silliest boy answers:

1.  Were you looking at that girl?

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“No, what the hell.  I was looking at that building, I didn’t even see her.” Oh he saw her alright. 

2.  Why are you still friends with your ex-girlfriend on Facebook?

“I’ve never even been on her page.  Makes no difference to me what she’s at.” 

3.  Ah right, you’re going out with your friends tonight then?

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“Yeah, we’re only going out for a few.  Nothing crazy, quiet enough night.” Um, wasn't tonight supposed to be date night? Nice…

4.  Why do you never wear that t-shirt I got you?

“I have worn that t-shirt soo many times.  You just haven’t seen me those days.” It's all lies. Why doesn't he just say he hates it? So annoying. 

5.  Why do you always have to drive?

“Because I’m a better driver.” All women know this to be false. 

6. You’re not romantic at all…

“I’m not a big woman.”  Would it kill him to pick a daisy from the garden? Just SOMETHING?! We're not asking for a handwritten poem or anything like. 

7. You didn’t even get me a card?!

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“I thought it was tomorrow.” Men need to learn birthdays are important to most girls, as are anniversaries and Valentine's Day. Deal with it and act accordingly. 

via our content partner CT

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Prepare to have all of your pre-teen dreams crush around you as it has been revealed that Bow Wow is enagaged to girlfriend of six months, Erica Mena.

Bow Wow, whose real name is Shad Moss, shares a stunning image of the ring he presented to Erica, alongside his diamond encrusted Rolex (because, obviously).

Erica previously confirmed their engagement at this weekend’s BET Awards when asked by an E! News reader if they were officially a couple, she replied: “Uhh…he’s actually my fiancée.”

Congratulations to the couple on this happy news, but we prefer to remember Bow Wow like this – so adorable!

 

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It seems like it was all so easy in our grandparents’ time. Meet “The One,” be courted for a while, get married, have kids ASAP, live happily ever after. Okay, I’m sure it wasn’t quite so clean-cut as that, but there’s certainly something to be said for the simplicity of love back then.

We have much more freedom these days when it comes to finding our Mr. Right – and if someone isn’t perfect for us, we can just move on. But I’ve a feeling that if my grandparents looked at the dating scene today, they’d say that we’re all too picky, that we don’t try hard enough, that we’ll never find the right one if we keep hoping that something better is just around the corner.

Maybe the problem lies in how we initiate our relationships. If we’re meeting someone on a drunken night in Coppers, or with a quick swipe-right on Tinder, is that really a solid foundation to base a future on? Sure, you might exchange numbers but in most cases it never leads to anything more than a random hook-up. Ah, true love.

Even with the most devoted of couples, the advent of smartphones and on-demand TV means there’s not really a huge need to ever engage in conversation with your other half. We now consciously need to set aside time to talk to one another and to resist the temptation of sitting side-by-side on the couch and scrolling through Facebook.

Constant access to the virtual world means that we can never really devote our total, undivided attention to the person sitting next to us… and with that can come a huge breakdown in communication.

So the next time you’re chilling out after work with your significant other, put your iPhone away and force yourselves to chat, or at least to just appreciate and enjoy each other’s company. Take time to do thoughtful things for one another. Put the same effort into your relationship as you do with your Instagram profile.

If you’re single and finding that you keep hitting dead ends with a string of random one-nighters, consider trying to meet new people in an environment that’s not online or fuelled by alcohol. If that guy next to you in the queue for coffee looks cute, make a comment about the weather, or how much you love this café, anything to strike up a chat. It’s easier than you’d think – and I reckon our grandparents would definitely approve.

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Society is not what it used to be. While many of our parents were married with children by the time they turned 22, our generation are just graduating from college. As for finding someone you want to marry? Well, that’s not exactly a priority.

However, do we really have ten years more than our parents to experiment and learn from our relationship mistakes?

We spoke to Counselling Psychologist Susan Eustace, the clinical director of the Centre for Professional Therapy, about the best way to navigate your twenties in terms of relationships, and how to reach that 30th birthday without going into panic mode.

“For young women the situation is complex. Our bodies are designed to have children in our twenties. So if a young woman enters university at 18 and completes a couple of degrees, then travels for a year or two, she will be in her mid to late 20s when she gets her first real job and into her thirties before she is in anyway financially stable. If in that time she hasn't given attention to forming and maintaining romantic relationships she may find she has a lot to learn in a short space of time.”

This pressure may cause us to make bad choices in terms of partners, but Susan says that you should always listen to your gut feeling:

“I encourage my clients to listen to their gut feelings, their intuition. Often people are amazed at just how accurate their gut feelings have been over the years and wonder what might have been had they paid attention to them.”

And if you’ve found you’ve gone from one bad relationship to another in your 20s, it’s time to take a step back:

“It can be very useful to take a step back and try to see what is similar about the men with whom we have been unsuccessfully involved. I encourage everyone to reflect on how they would like their life to be, who they would like to share it with and why.  It can also be very useful to look for exceptions. Were there any relationships that worked better?

“Successfully negotiating our twenties involves quite a balancing act. On the one hand we need to try out different ways of being, to experiment and get to know ourselves, on the other hand we need to keep one eye on our biological clock. Although society has changed and from that perspective 30 may be the new 20, our bodies are very slow to change and so there are certain important life choices that simply cannot be postponed.”

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It’s true – you WILL kiss a lot of frogs before you find Prince Charming, and you’ll fall in love with a few too. If you’re anything like us (or Taylor Swift), there are five distinct types of guys you will somehow become obsessed with before eventually finding ‘the one’, and here they are:

The popular guy
As much as we may deny it, that popular guy in school, or college, or work has romanced us countless times – In our dreams. Taylor Swift actually got him in the form of Harry Styles, but it wasn’t long before she found out that dating Mr. Popular wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. We still wish we’d gotten the chance though….

The stoner
Everyone loves a stoner, until they realise that smelling like smoke all the time isn’t actually cool. And sitting in their darkened bedroom every night because they haven’t got any money isn’t fun. It’s time to move on to…

The musician
Are you a sucker for a guy with a guitar? Yeah, us too. Until we realised that every girl fancies him, and he’s quite fond of the attention too. Also, the fifth time he asks you for a lend of a tenner, it gets kind of old.

The bad boy
We blame Grease. Sandy D made us all believe that we could transform any bad boy into a hopeless romantic who would fall in love with us once we strutted our stuff in a pair of leather pants. Sadly, more often than not, this isn’t the case. While dating this guy may be fun for a while, you’ll soon grow tired of his excuses (and bailing him out of jail). Lesson learnt.  

The ‘timing was wrong’ guy
The most heart-breaking of all. This guy seems perfect – except for the fact that he has a one way ticket to Australia, leaving in a month. Or a girlfriend. Or some other reason which stops him from being ‘The One’. Don’t worry though, what’s meant to be will be, and once you get through all these guys, you will be well equipped to spot ‘The One’ when you see him!

 

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Watching your Facebook timeline fill up with status updates about how great your friend’s new boyfriend is, or photos of their matching slippers as they have a “cosy night in!” may make your stomach turn, but new research has shown that it can reveal a lot more than their cheesiness.

According to Albright College, people whose confidence depends on their relationship status are more likely to overshare on social media. The experts call this ‘relationship-contingent self-esteem’.

They surveyed a group of volunteers, with couples who had been together for just a month, all the way up to 30 years, and asked them about their satisfaction and relationship-related Facebook habits. They also surveyed them separately and asked them about ‘The Big 5’: extroversion, neuroticism, openness, agreeableness, and conscientiousness.

What they found was that people with high relationship-contingent-self-esteem (RCSE) have lower overall self-esteem and higher social anxiety. One of the authors of the study, Gwendolyn Seidman, explains: “There is positive correlation between your self-esteem being contingent on relationships and it being contingent on other things external to you (e.g., others' approval).

“Those high in RCSE feel the need to show others, their partners and perhaps themselves that their relationship is ‘OK,’ and thus, they are OK.”

Apparently introverts are more inclined to show off their relationship on Facebook, aswell as keeping tabs on their partner’s online activity:

“Introverted individuals [can] feel more comfortable expressing hidden aspects of the self online, so maybe they would be more comfortable expressing affection online or using [Facebook] as a way to seek out information about their partner by monitoring their activity.”

However, while this may give the cynics among us satisfaction, as it sounds like these people aren’t REALLY happy in their relationship and it’s all just for show, this isn’t necessarily the case: “I think they’d be surprised to hear that it is associated with being genuinely happy in their relationships.”

So they’re not overcompensating for their terrible relationship by posting a photo of the breakfast their boyfriend made them – now we’re REALLY jealous!

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No one wants to admit to turning into the kind of person who prefers a cosy night in with their other half rather than a wild night out on the tiles. What a snorefest! But, seriously, when you meet that guy, it is one heck of a slippery slope…

First, you find him.
He’s ok, but you’re happy being single. You don’t want a boyfriend. He did have nice eyes though. And he’s a Virgo. But no. You’re not getting your hopes up. Anyway, you have such a hectic social life you simply don't have the time for a boyfriend.

Then you start texting.
Big deal, ye know? It doesn’t mean anything. Sure doesn't he text his mam aswell? He probably doesn't ask his mam out for a few drinks though. And if he did, she probably wouldn't do a happy dance around her bedroom like you just did, young lady!

Then you meet up, during the DAY.
After a couple of night time dates, one of you suggests meeting up during the day. What does it mean? Not that you care, you’re still happy being single, seriously. This is just a bit of fun. You have NO expectations. Still, a day time date hints that he wants to see you when he’s sober. Is he a crazy person, or could it be something else? 

Then you make it official.
Yay! It’s official! He’s your boyfriend. And he’s lovely. God – how true is it that the second you stop looking they come crawling out of the woodwork, eh? Typical! It’s good though. You’re very happy. Not that you weren’t happy before – you were. VERY happy. But now you’re different happy. 

Then it’s his birthday.
Sorry girls, you won’t be out this weekend. It’s your boyfriend’s birthday and you have something special planned. No, you’re not turning into one of those girls who ditch their friends when they get a boyfriend, it’s just ‘cause it’s his birthday. And last weekend he had planned that thing for you. The weekend before? Well, you were just busy! You’ll be out next weekend though, promise.

Then you go on a girls’ night out.
You are VERY excited and spend hours getting ready. But after a couple of hours you start to look forward to being able to go home for a cuddle. You keep it to yourself though, because you haven’t, and never will, turn into one of THOSE people.

Then you upload a loved up photo to Facebook.
It’s not too mushy, just an innocent photo of the pair of you at the beach watching the sunset. What? It was a nice sunset, that’s all!

Then your single friends give you ‘the look’.
You meet up with the girls for lunch, and you can’t wait to tell them about how funny your boyfriend was last night. Guess what he said? Guess what he did? Isn’t he great? Cue: the ‘you’ve changed’ look. Brush it off and keep the rest of your cute boyfriend tales for your equally loved up friends.

Then you do a quick search for wedding dresses on Etsy.
You were just bored. It doesn’t mean anything – sure you used to do this when you were FIVE, for Christ’s sake. You delete your internet history, all the same.

Then he does something that really gets on your nerves.
You always swore you wouldn’t go out with someone who wore his jeans up around his nipples, but when he does it, it’s not a deal breaker. This is the ultimate sign that you have absolutely entered coupledom. You call your friends and organise an emergency girls’ night out – things just got serious!

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