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So, I'm sure we can all agree that sleeping with a housemate is (for the most part) a bad idea. 

It's messy, it's awkward, and it's more hassle than it's worth. 

But, that's not stopping us. 

A new study conducted by Web Blinds, which looked at the reasons why housemates split up, found that over 20 per cent of people admitted to having a sexual encounter with a house mate. 

They surveyed almost 3000 UK adults who had previously lived in shared accommodation and found that one in five had gotten frisky with a living partner at one stage or another. 

What's more, over half of those admitted that either themselves or their house mate had been in a relationship with someone else when the encounter took place.

According to Marie Claire, less than 25 per cent of these 'housemate-with-benefits' relationships led to an actual romance, and were actually noted as the second most popular reason a house share didn't work out.  

Unrequited love was another big one with one in ten participants admitting they had fallen for a house mate who didn't feel the same way. 

Check out top ten reason why housemates split below. 

1. My ex-housemate(s) were unhygienic /messy 

2. I had a sexual encounter with an ex-housemate that made living together awkward 

3. I argued/fell out with my ex-housemate(s)

4. My ex-housemate(s) were bad with money and didn’t keep up to date with rent/bills

5. My ex-housemate(s) were too loud/noisy 

6. I didn’t like my ex-housemate(s) friends/partner 

7. I began to develop unreciprocated romantic feelings for a housemate 

8. My ex-housemate(s) invaded my privacy too often 

9. My ex-housemate(s) stole from me 

10.My ex-housemate(s) got a pet I couldn’t live with 

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The words: “sure it’s only a bit of craic” spring to mind. You possibly had intended it being an isolated shift, but suddenly one text message turns into three and before you know it you are leaving a toothbrush in their bathroom and spooning them every second night. The accusations are flying and you’re friends look like this when they are talking about both of you:

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But how do you know when you have reached couplesville? Well, here is the litmus test – signs that prove that you are no longer a single pringle and, in fact, have a boyfriend you didn’t really know about:

 1. You wear his clothes

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That hoodie is possibly the comfiest ever. Yoink!

 2. You spend actual time with each other

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Both of you do stuff together that does not revolve around sex. Cinema dates, going for coffee or just binge watching your favourite TV show mean that there is quite possibly more happening than just friends with benefits. And you like it.

 3. You have no idea when you were on Tinder last

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And you don’t exactly miss it…

 4. The text messages are less dirty and more sentimental

Are these feelings….real life feelings of love? Uh oh!

5. You sleep together without actually ‘sleeping together’

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Sometimes a cuddle is nice.

 6. You can’t remember the last person you shifted that wasn’t them

It definitely wasn’t that good anyway, so no harm.

 7. You have your own side in his bed

By the wall, cosy and comfy.

 8. You can kiss each other without presuming it will lead somewhere else

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If you kiss him before you say goodbye, you are in a relationship my friend.

I hoped that helped the penny drop.

Welcome to relationship-ville. Population: You.

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You possibly intended for it to be an isolated shift but suddenly one text message turns into three and before you know it you are leaving a toothbrush in their bathroom and spooning them every second night.

As far as you’re concerned it is an unofficial thing that is only a bit of fun, but there is a line and when it is crossed you are heading for one place and one place only. Couplesville. How do you know you are in such a place? Here are some signs that prove you are no longer a single pringle and in fact have a boyfriend/girlfriend you didn’t really know about.

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1: You wear his clothes.

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We don’t mean in a ‘walk of shame’ way – it’s okay if you borrow  his jumper then. Irish weather and a ten minute walk home justifies wearing his Jack Wills hoodie, but sitting around in his bedroom wearing his hoodie even though you have your own clothes may elude to the fact that this dude is more than a friend.

2: You spend actual time with each other

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Both of you do stuff together that does not revolve around sex. Cinema dates, going for coffee or just binge watching your favourite TV show highlight that there is quite possibly more happening than just friends with benefits.

3: You have no idea when you were last on Tinder

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Quite frankly you couldn’t care less who you’re matched with or what creepy message they have left in your inbox. Guess why? Because you already have your match (for now anyway) so Tinder is rendered useless.

4: The text messages are less dirty and more sentimental

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If you are physically attracted to someone but emotionally not attached then the likelihood is that your messages will be of the sexting genre. However as soon as the messages come  filled with care and concern about how your day went or that assignment you had to hand up then it is time to accept that you are on your way to attachment city.

 5: You sleep together without actually ‘sleeping together’

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Yes, you stay over sometimes. Yes, you spoon each other and no, you don’t always have to have sex. Sounds like a healthy R E L A T I O N S H I P to us.

6: You can’t remember the last person you shifted who wasn’t them

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Was it that dude from Coppers, was it  that girl at that weird New Year’s Eve party you went to? Either way, apart from the chance of getting with Johnny Depp or his female equivalent on your next night out, you are both pretty content shifting each other. Nawwww.

 7: You have your own side in his bed.

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Not only do you have your own side in his bed, but also a spare toothbrush in bathroom, and some makeup removal stuff. Two words: domestic bliss.

8: You can kiss each other without presuming it will lead somewhere else

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If you are kissing someone to be affectionate while watching the latest episode of Game of Thrones then you have entered another ball game completely.

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Don’t stay the night
Whether it’s three in the morning or three in the afternoon, make sure you get out of there. Lazing around whispering sweet nothings into each others ears can only do detrimental damage to any hopes of keeping things strictly s.e.x..so get out of there. Leg it if you have to…

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Maintain Respect
It’s a pretty sweet situation to be in if you can, in fact, maintain the no-strings attachment; therefore an element of respect will be required at all times. No one should be taking advantage of anyone as you are both giving each other the best present ever!

No Dates
Yet another ‘routine’ that can see you headed for relationshipville. Don’t even order room service if you  end up in a hotel! This is a strictly ‘benefits only’ deal, so keep touching base with your ‘friend’ to see if you’re both still on the same page, but no dates, no cinema….no, no, no.

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Act Out Fantasies
It’s just about sex right?! Well then take it further than the boring missionary. Explore some karma sutra magic or try out something you never thought you would. Nurse uniform? Check! Hi vis and hard hat? Check…another hard hat…check.

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Stay focused.
This is only about sex, you need to keep telling yourself that. If it changes and you start feeling emotions then you need to either stop doing it or speak up. Either way if emotions start to creep in someone will get hurt.

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Having a ‘no strings attached’ relationship is quite handy when you have a busy life. You get the cherry on top of the cake without having to put in the effort – what more could you ask for, right?

Unfortunately, not everyone can handle what one of these relationships requires so before you jump into bed with one of your good friends, look at the pros and cons of a friends with benefits relationship.

Pros

  • You can satisfy your needs without any ‘relationship’ responsibilities.
  • You don’t have to commit to anyone.
  • It can be a fun and stress-free experience.

Cons

  • If you get attached easily, you could end up hurt.
  • Your ‘friend’ could be sleeping with other people as well.
  • Things could get awkward when out in public.

Ultimately, the decision to have a ‘no strings attached’ relationship lies with you. But remember, these relationships aren’t the safest.

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