When we sleep, our subconscious minds take over. Because of this, the body language we use with a partner while we snooze can be a remarkably precise way to gauge what’s going on in our relationships.
Many other experts and psychologists agree with this idea, including Patti Wood, author of Success Signals, A Guide to Reading Body Language.
“Even if you can’t or don’t articulate those things while you’re awake,” Patti says, how we sleep can show how we're really feeling.
Many experts have conducted studies in and written books on the subject and they have uncovered the most popular couple sleeping positions and the secrets they have found about each is VERY intriguing…
According to a study done by relationship psychologist Corrine Sweet, the position is only adopted by a fifth (or 18 percent) of couples and demonstrates a dynamic in which, “ One partner takes a protective stance over the other.”
And even though it's sweet, it can also mean you have a good sex life.
“It’s a very vulnerable position that’s sexual, but says, ‘I trust you.’”
The Loose Spoon
New couples tend to have the most physical contact in bed, but once the relationship matures, the novelty of sharing a mattress wears off.
The loose spoon is typically what a couples that are a fans of spooning eventually do once their relationship matures and each individual wants to revert to a position that produces the best quality sleep.
This is like spooning, but it’s when one person is in pursuit of the other. One person has drifted to the other side of the bed, and the other one is “chasing” them.
This can mean two things. One that the person who is being chased wants to be pursued, or is playing hard to get.
This extremely intimate position is even more rare than the Spoon. It tends to happen when there is either intense emotions at play (like after lovemaking) or at the start of a romantic relationship.
But if your relationship is mature, and you're still doing the tangle, it could be a sign that you're a little bit too co-dependant on your partner.
The Unravelling Knot
Believe it or not, this position is a sign of a stronger relationship than The Tangle. Yet only eight percent of couples adopt this two-part position. Dr. Sweet said it’s, “A compromise between intimacy and independence, allowing for the best of both worlds.”
The Space Hog
If a partner takes the “starfish position,” one in which they sprawl out and hog the bed, this means that they tend to be selfish — especially if they begin to push the other partner so they’re hanging off the bed.
If this is happening in your relationship, it’s time to have an honest conversation.