The wrong reasons to be in a relationship


For every great relationship you see, there are a dozen bad ones, and it's usually because someone hasn't honest with themselves about what they want. If you’re having doubts about your relationship, make sure you’re not in it for the wrong reasons.

You don’t want to be alone

One of the most important steps to loving yourself is to love your own company. If you can’t stand spending time by yourself you need to examine why. Do you really love him or are you using him to drown out your inner monologue?

You’ve already been together for years

This is what’s known as the 'sunk cost fallacy'. It doesn’t matter that you’ve been together one, two or five years. That time is gone, and it shouldn’t affect your decision. You should only consider the future in a relationship. What do you want for the next five years? Don’t stay with someone just because it’s easier.

You want a relationship

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a boyfriend, but make sure it’s not clouding your judgement. Ask yourself, are you together because you really want to be with this person, or because you just want to be with someone?

All your friends are in relationships.

Ah, our old friend peer pressure. As you get older, you’ll notice your friends start to pair off and fade away from the social scene. When you find yourself the only single person in your group, it can be tempting to find someone just to be part of the club. It is a waste of your time though. Find yourself more friends, not a placeholder boyfriend.