Sometimes all you want to do is binge-watch Stranger Things and eat pizza with your beau. We can often feel guilty for not doing enough, but it turns out that being boring is really good for your relationship.
According to author Mark Manson relationships should “be as boring as possible.”
He told Business Insider, “That sounds really weird to people but if you think about it, a really happy 80-year-old couple that’s been together for 60 years, the reason that they’ve been together for 60 years, it isn’t because they took all these private jets and they had these crazy vacations and “Oh my God, look at their pictures.”
“It’s because they were able to be boring together.”
Apparently, the happiest couples aren’t the ones who jet off to New Zealand or South Africa at the drop of a hat.
The happiest couples are the ones who enjoy simple, quiet lifestyles. There’s a lot to be said for being in a comfortable relationship, with both people at ease with each other. It’s not all about endless excitement that’s not sustainable. Nor is it about disagreeing and on every single thing. These types are relationships can often be the ones that end in divorce.
Mark explained: “A lot of people…don’t want to be a boring person, like we really want to be interesting people and have interesting lives but the problem is that, that conflicts with what makes a relationship good in a lot of cases.”