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If the New Year has the wheels in motion for a brand new you – you may want to consider Thalia Heffernan's thoughts on the whole idea.

The Irish model expressed her feelings about New Year's resolutions on social media and it's massively refreshing.

As everyone larks on about their plans for the New Year and everything they're going to change – you might be feeling the pressure.

We are all guilty of trying to stick to resolutions but social media tends to put additional emphasis on succeeding to achieve a new, perfect you.


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Cutting into the bullsh*t of the tradition, Thalia reminds everyone that in the grand scheme of things, it's just another day.

"I know I’m technically a day, or two, late.. yet despite this being inadvertent (or so I thought) I now think that there’s a good reason for it. The New Year is, of course, a good place to ‘Start’.. a grander version of the Monday so to speak.."

"But with this little box and small space, I want to share some of my truth- instead of filling you with the weight of the aspirations and resolutions that are being thrown around… It’s just another day," she wrote.


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That doesn't mean that she is discouraging you from wanting to reach your goals, but she puts the notion of resolutions into perspective and issues a reminder not to pressurise yourself in attempting to achieve the better version of yourself.

"Now, I mean that in the most inspirational way possible! Every single day you wake up is a blessing in itself. However, please don’t put yourself under strain because of a date in a calendar, a benchmark set by society, because you are more than that," she explained.

"I know I struggle with the concept of being a ‘new me’ due to an annual change, and I also know that I shouldn’t. So I guess I’m just saying that a New Year, or a Monday, or because your sister, cousin or best friend is doing something doesn’t mean that it’s right for you," she added.


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Wrapping up the inspiring caption, Thalia dished up some good ole self-love and encouragement.

"And a day in the year certainly shouldn’t demand you to be a ‘better’ version of yourself. You be whatever and whoever the hell you want to be and love every second," she said.

We honestly couldn't agree more, we just wished that more people on social media would adopt this idea, instead of cashing-in on the tradition.



Social media stars are what it's all about lately. 

Gone are the days of bowing down to the celebs – now, we have 'real' people to tell us how it is. Tell us what beauty trick to use, what clothes to wear and what weight-loss methods work best.

However, we know ourselves, that everything on the Internet is not always what it seems.

We envy the 'perfection' that some people carry, yet recently, more and more social influencers and bloggers are owning up to what's really going on behind the filter.

Fashion, beauty and lifestyle blogger Tiffany Brien regularly posts jaw-dropping snaps of holidays and her bangin' bod, but she recently came clean.

The self-confessed peanut butter lover shared a split picture of her body on her Facebook page; one side showing her toned, tanned tummy, and on the other side, her bloated and sore stomach.

"These two photos are 12 hours apart," she writes, after opening the FB status with, "reality check."

"We are not all what we seem on social media. I thought I would share a bad day with you to show you nobody is 'perfect' and it is ok to have an off day where your body just decides to not play ball."

She continues to say that the substantial change is down to a "delightful cocktail of lack of sleep, hormones and food intolerances. A mixture for a whole lotta bloat."

However, what she writes next is something I think we can all relate to – mainly because it makes us feel so down – "It seems to happen at incredibly inconvenient times."

YES. Whether it be date night, girls night, our best friend's wedding or on holiday, the bloat always manages to surface when we least expect.. and least want it.

"I suddenly feel uncomfortable and now really unattractive with a big bloated belly," she pens before writing what lessons have sprouted from it.

"I have learnt a lot over the last few years through my own research into my own problems once I noticed my body playing up when I did certain things and ate certain foods.

"It was really frustrating because I couldn't work out what was triggering it.

"This photo is a bad day, a day I cannot tell you exactly what I ate that made me blow up. I have gone over everything I ate and I was relatively clean so it could be something I think is 'healthy' that my body now thinks naaa no likely.

"Sometimes your body becomes intolerable to something you've always eaten, you just have to work it out."

The fashion, fitness, beauty and lifestyle bloggers we all look up to now are stepping away from the impeccable lifestyle – because it's not real. It's ideal on social media, but when you're running on little sleep, crazy-ass hormones and a whole lotta stress, that sought-after lifestyle just doesn't work out, and Tiffany is saying that it's OK to not be that way.

"I am in no way perfect. In fact I am miles away from being a role model when it comes to looking after myself fully in this sense.

"We all have our areas of weakness. I know what I am doing wrong and I know how to fix it but it is actually implementing it into your lifestyle that's the tough bit." Here, here!

"Yes it gets me down when this happens. No there's nothing I can immediately do about it. But I can aid it and eventually overcome it.

"It'll be ok, you're not alone. Promise."

To read Tiffany's full Facebook post, check it out here.

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