Wedding guest ABUSED for what she wore asks was it her own fault?


It’s well known that wedding guests are generally not supposed to wear white to the occasion, but are there other major no-nos when it comes to how guests dress?  And do other guests have the right to enforce those restrictions?

These are questions being asked by a New Zealand woman this week after she was abused by other guests at a wedding she attended for wearing a short peach-coloured bandage dress.

In a post which was shared on radio station The Breeze Waikato’s Facebook page, a friend of the woman explained: “A friend wore this dress to a wedding in the weekend and got targeted big time.”

“She got treated rudely by other women at the wedding who saw her as a target for wearing this dress.”

“A woman came up behind her and slapped her on the bum and said it was on a dare from a group of other women who were watching and snickering.”

“Someone else seemingly purposely spilt a beer on her.”

“She's amazed that grown women could be so immature and such bullies.”

“She wants to know – Did she bring ANY of this on herself by wearing this dress to a wedding?  Your thoughts?”

As anyone who’s familiar with the web’s infamous comment sections would expect, the post received a mixed response, with some people praising the woman’s confidence, while others suggesting she should have covered up.

One Facebook-user wrote: “The other women are just jealous. Personally I'd never wear a dress like that, simply because I don't have the figure for it and definitely don't have the confidence to wear it. But if she's got it, why not be proud of it. Least she's not wearing white and trying to upstage the bride!”

But another said: “Too slutty for a wedding… that sort of dress is ok on a date night or for the bedroom but NOT for a wedding. Its bad form to outshine the bride."

While it's never okay to abuse someone for what they wear, are there limits to what wedding guests should wear?