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James Van Der Beek pens emotional post on Insta

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Former Dawson's Creek star James Van Der Beek has put into words what so many people need to hear when it comes to the topic of miscarriage. 

Taking to Insta, 41 year-old penned a lengthy post about miscarriage – and revealed that he and his wife Kimberley Brook had gone through three of them.

He immediately addresses the ''blame'' factor and says that, ''so let’s wipe all blame off the table before we even start.''

''In all but the most obvious, extreme cases, it has nothing to do with anything the mother did or didn't do,'' he writes.  

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Wanted to say a thing or two about miscarriages… of which we’ve had three over the years (including right before this little beauty). First off – we need a new word for it. “Mis-carriage”, in an insidious way, suggests fault for the mother – as if she dropped something, or failed to “carry.” From what I’ve learned, in all but the most obvious, extreme cases, it has nothing to do with anything the mother did or didn’t do. So let’s wipe all blame off the table before we even start. Second… it will tear you open like nothing else. It’s painful and it’s heartbreaking on levels deeper than you may have ever experienced. So don’t judge your grief, or try to rationalize your way around it. Let it flow in the waves in which it comes, and allow it it’s rightful space. And then… once you’re able… try to recognize the beauty in how you put yourself back together differently than you were before. Some changes we make proactively, some we make because the universe has smashed us, but either way, those changes can be gifts. Many couples become closer than ever before. Many parents realize a deeper desire for a child than ever before. And many, many, many couples go on to have happy, healthy, beautiful babies afterwards (and often very quickly afterwards – you’ve been warned). I’ve heard some amazing metaphysical explanations for them, mostly centering around the idea that these little souls volunteer for this short journey for the benefit of the parents… but please share whatever may have given you peace or hope along the way… Along with a new word for this experience. #miscarriage #WeNeedANewName #MoreCommonThanYouHearAbout @vanderkimberly

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James then goes onto explain why we need a new word for it, as it suggests that the fault lies in the mother, as if she could not ''carry.''
He explains the tough reality of what it is actually like to go through a miscarriage.
''It’s painful and it’s heartbreaking on levels deeper than you may have ever experienced,'' he said.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

I never looked this cool on the first day of school… *(or any day of school, technically)

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His moving post struck a chord with followers as they took to comment in their droves, with many discussing how they had suffered a miscarriage themselves.
James asked them to ''please share whatever may have given you peace or hope along the way… Along with a new word for this experience.''
One wrote about how much they were grateful to James for being so candid about miscarriage.
They said, ''I really needed this tonight. It’s been 3 months since I lost my son Alden. It’s a super surreal experience! I appreciate when people share their thoughts about it. It’s a great reminder that we’re not alone!''
Fair play to James for highlighting an important issue that many couples go through, and in such an honest way.  
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