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For some parents, their little ones wait a long time to leave the nest. A very long time.

A judge ruled on May 22 that 30-year-old Michael Rotondo has to leave his parents' home in the Syracuse, New York area after their efforts over the last several months to have him move out.

Mark and Christina Rotondo had given their son five written notices regarding the matter, CNN affiliate WSTM reports. They'd even offered him money to help him in his accommodation search.

The first, dated February 2, read, "After a discussion with your Mother, we have decided you must leave this house immediately. You have 14 days to vacate. You will not be allowed to return. We will take whatever actions are necessary to enforce this decision."

A second note, dated February 13, said the 30-year-old was 'hereby evicted' and had to move out by March 15.

Five days later, Michael's parents wrote him a note offering him $1,100 to help him find a new home, as well as advice for moving out and raising the funds for his new place.

The fourth notice, from March 5, observed that 'So far we have seen no indication that you are preparing to leave'.

"Be aware that we will take any appropriate actions necessary to make sure you leave the house as demanded," the note continued.

The fifth note dated March 30 offered some solutions for a problem pertaining to Michael's car, which was left at his mum and dad's home.

Christina and Mark were told that because Michael is a relative, they could only evict him through ejectment proceeding, according to filings by the couple.

The 30-year-old asked for his parents' request to be dismissed, claiming that he 'has never been expected to contribute to household expenses, or assisted with chores and the maintenance of the premises, and claims that this is simply a component of his living agreement'.

Michael also said that he should have been given six-months notice. The judge ordered in his parents' favour, though, saying that Michael must move out of his parents' house. 

Of course, we are aware that there are many reasons why grown children would live at home with their parents, from the rising cost of housing to mental or physical disabilities. It's not uncommon for adults to stay in the family home these days.

For Christina and Mark, though, it seems they are ready to be empty-nesters, and the court agrees.

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“My title for that period of my life would be, ‘It was the Worst of Times, It Was the Worst of Times.’ Did I mention it was the hardest time of my life?”

I hope that in ten or twenty years, I won’t look back at my twenties quite so viciously as actress Lisa Kudrow does, but it’s still refreshing to hear that us millennials are not the only ones struggling with this period of adulthood.

After years of being looked after by parents, teachers and lecturers, no-one tells you that the real world can be a difficult place to face alone. If things don’t go exactly to plan or we find ourselves floundering, it can be tough to put things in perspective and realise that our twenties are just one small part of something much bigger.

“Your whole life is ahead of you, yet you have no identity. You're kind of an adult, but you aren't really treated as an adult,” said Lisa in the same interview… and she is right. We might spend all of our teenage years dying to get out on our own and find out exactly who we are – but when it actually comes down to it, self-discovery can be a very slow process.

We have so many plans for what we’ll do when we’re finally living in the adult world. We’ll get that dream job instantly, live in a gorgeous Carrie Bradshaw-style apartment and spend every evening drinking cocktails to ease the stress of another busy but highly productive day.

If only. The reality is that we end up living from payday to payday, settling for a job that’s not QUITE what we want to be doing, getting way too drunk on the weekends and spending Sundays crippled by The Fear. Not quite living the dream, is it?

The thing is though, every adult goes through some sort of transitional period before things start slotting into place. For some it might last longer than others, but that’s all it is, a time of change. Things will start clicking, it just takes patience.

“In your twenties, you’re all about who you don’t want to be. In your thirties, you’re asking yourself who do you want to be. And in your forties, you realise you just are who you are.” Another quote inspiring some hope, this time from actress and comedian Amy Poehler.

But the truth is, we shouldn’t have to wait ten or fifteen years for things to start working in our favour. Yes, our twenties can be a difficult and confusing time, but once we are aware of that, it becomes easier to move with the tide and just take things as they come. Life’s not meant to be easy just yet.

Mad Men actress Elizabeth Moss had the right idea when she said, “Almost everyone says the same thing [to those in their twenties], which is relax, don’t worry…you should take that advice now, you know what I mean? Because in ten years, you’ll be telling yourself the same thing.”

Rather than looking back at these years a decade down the line, let’s live them now and just accept whatever is thrown at us. Our twenties might not be all smooth sailing, but that’s no reason to waste them worrying about the future.

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1. It’s Good To Have A Little Self Confidence From Time To Time

2) You Will Look Upon Your Friends Relationships With Envy At Some Point

3. Sometimes It’s OK To Let Others Know How Sh** It Is Inside Your Head

4. Whenever Your Parents Doubt You, Remind Them Of How Lucky They Truly Are

5. Sometimes The Question “Do I Look OK?” Needs An Honest Answer

6. Being Tired Is Not Always The Best Excuse For Not Going Out

7. Sexual Freedom is Where It's At

8. Celebrate Your Friends Successes With Much Enthusiasm

9. If You Love Something, Set It Free

10. Inventive Greetings Are The Key To Great Friendships

11. Self Hatred Far Outweighs The Hatred That Anyone Else Has For You

12. Your Friends Are Your Everything

13. Sugar Coating Is A Life Necessity

14. Admiration Should Be Loudly Voiced

15. With Such A Busy Life, You Must Sometimes Prioritise

16. Being Dramatic Is A Great Quality

17. Be A Social Butterfly At All Times

18. Sometimes, You Just Need To Set Yourself Free

19. STD’s Can Sometimes Be Treated With Humour

20. Creative Wording Makes Everything More Interesting

21. Being Cruelly Honest Is An Art Form

22. Having Deep, Dark Fears Is Part Of Life

23. Being A Grown Up Is Sometimes Unsettling

24. But At The End Of  The Day, Your Friends Are Your Everything

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This is pretty hilarious.

If you remember back to the good ol’ days of not having to worry about rent, or sugar or your carbon footprint, you’ll remember being scared about growing up. For all of the reason just listed.

Buzzfeed decided to ask these children what they thought adulthood was really like, and needless to say, they were right about everything. 

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