If you’ve been dating your boyfriend for a while now, you may indulge in some wedding themed daydreams. Of course this doesn’t mean you necessarily want to get married ASAP – but hypothetically speaking, if he DID ask you, here are some questions you might want to ask yourself:
Is it love, or lust?
Looks don’t last, so ask yourself: if you woke up in the morning and he’d gotten considerably less good looking, would you still love him, or would you run for the hills?
Do you want the same things?
Are you both in agreement about having kids, or where and how you want to live? The last thing you want is to find yourself engaged to a man who wants completely different things, no matter how much you love him. And you’d be surprised how many couples find themselves in this situation after years of being together!
How do you handle arguments?
Having arguments is a natural part of being in a relationship, but it’s how you handle them that counts. Do you really want to be married to someone who flies off the handle at the slightest hint of a disagreement? Or who disappears for hours leaving you worried about where they are after you confront them over something?
What’s he like with money?
We know you can’t buy love, but you can squander it away if your other half has no appreciation of how hard you work for your money. Is he going to be arriving home with a brand new car when the washing machine needs replacing? Being an adult is hard enough, with these extra stresses.
Do you want him, or the fairytale?
Ask yourself if you want him, or if you just want the security of being married. If you want him, flaws and all, then go for it. If not, perhaps it’s time to re-think the situation….