While some people are lucky enough to have held onto childhood friends long into their adult years, most of us have simply grown apart from our older pals as time goes on.
As a kid, everyone was a potential friend. Interests and opinions didn’t come into it, and as long as you were happy to share your toys you were perfect friend material. Growing older, we placed a little more weight on our friendships – remember how important it was in school to have someone you could call your BFF?
I can remember at least five different girls who I would have called my “best friend” at one time or another during my school years. Although luckily there’s no bad blood between any of us, I can’t remember the last time I spoke to any of them. And to make things worse, if I did bump into them on the street I fear it would be very, very awkward. How could we catch up on ten years in a single conversation? Would we even have anything to talk about, bar our former obsession with Boyzone?
I hate knowing that there are people out there who I was once close to but have zero contact with now. That’s why I’m going to make 2015 the year I change that. Forget dieting or healthy eating, my resolution this year will be all about making the effort with old friends. I’m not expecting to get back to the BFF zone of course, but I’d love to build up some contact with forgotten pals all the same.
Whether it’s a Facebook message, or a birthday card, or even (GASP) arranging to meet them, I really don’t see any downside to the plan. Yes it’s been a while and we might have grown up and changed along the way, but that’s not a reason to avoid seeing someone.
It’s true that it becomes harder to make new friends as you grow older. School and college years were full of potential new pals, but unless you plan on travelling the world or changing job every six months, there are not a whole lot of opportunities to meet new people once you hit adult life. But what about those old friends we’ve left behind? Wouldn’t it be great to hit things off with them all over again?
A new year is as good a time as any to rebuild old connections and to make new ones too. So why not track down that school friend or childhood bestie that you haven’t spoken to in years? Maybe things ended badly or maybe the relationship just faded out, but after all this time there’s no reason why you can’t both give things a second chance.