Dealing with a broken heart – a guide

If you’ve had your heart broken, you know how hard it can be to get on with your life. It may even feel impossible, but if there’s one thing worth remembering, it’s that it WILL get easier. You just have to work your way through it. Here are some tips to do just that.

Feel it
While at first, you may try to avoid feeling the burn by keeping really, really busy, there will come a stage where you just have to sit down and let yourself feel it. It’s not nice, and it probably won’t be pretty, but you’ll feel better afterwards. Bottling it all up can only work for so long!

Remember you had a life before
We’re not born with other halves (unless you’re a twin!), and we would put our money on it that you were perfectly happy before you met that guy. Sure, you may have wanted to meet someone, but spending Friday nights alone wasn’t as miserable as it seems now, was it? It was actually kind of nice. You had a shower and watched the films YOU wanted to watch, or read a good book. Remember there’s life outside relationships, and it’s not as bad as it seems right now!

Make a list of your strengths
If you’re feeling weak, make a list of your strengths, or all the times you showed how strong you could be. A little reminder that you’ve gotten through bad times before and came out the other end can do the world of good!

Don’t block the fantasies
If you tell yourself you’re not going to think about that person ever again, you’re going to want to think about them even more. Allow the fantasies to roll through your mind. They will eventually stop, and you’ll know you’re on the mend.

Going for a run or doing some kind of exercise can work wonders if you need an instant pick me up. It increases the levels of serotonin in your body, which is the happy hormone.

Make a list of all his pros and cons
The pro list may be considerably longer at first, but as you remember the bad things, write them down. As it grows you’ll come to realise that you’re going to be fine. In the words of your mother, this too shall pass!