If you’ve recently broken up with someone, and you’re finding it exceptionally hard to move on, you could be an ‘exaholic’.
Therapist Dr. Lisa Bobby explains: “An exaholic has a very difficult time moving on. They’re hooked into the relationship, and it’s difficult for them to heal and move on. They will use words like devastation and talk about the loss — they tend to think fairly obsessively about their ex and have trouble in day-to-day life as a result of that.”
If this sounds like you, don’t worry. Dr. Bobby has created a 12 step program for sufferers hoping to recover. And if you think she’s being a bit overly dramatic, then listen up: “Getting over the loss can be one of the most traumatic and difficult challenges you’ll face. To others this might sound overly dramatic. To such judgmental people, serious problems include such things as a cancer diagnosis, getting laid off at work, and other ‘real problems’ and ‘real life challenges.’ But what you go through is certainly very real!”
So there. She’s got a point too, break-ups are HARD, even if it was your decision. Check out the website exaholics.com if you’re feeling like you could do with some help!