Guys have no problem with hooking up with someone or even having a booty call but when it comes to being in a relationship they are always a bit more cautious. The thought of commitment can make a guy feel skeptical about making it official, so he will usually have some reasons not to go for it.
Here are the excuses that guys use not to be in a relationship:
1. "I just got out of a bad relationship"
They might have got out of a bad relationship, but that was actually 3 years ago. There comes a point where you’re past that phase and are just single again. It’s just a defense mechanisim used so that they don’t have to commit to anything.
2. "I’m super busy right now"
We all have busy lives but we still make time to be with the people we like. It’s an easy excuse to use because no one’s going to question it if it’s work or college related. If it’s to do with your job, it’s more plausible, but if it’s to do with college work then we all know you can put it off.
3. "I don’t want to ruin our friendship"
If you’re actually good friends, but things have escalated between the two of you, this is when a guy would use this line. It’s actually nice that he is considering your friendship, but if you have been more than just friends for a while, he clearly is having doubts.
4. "I just want to focus on my career"
So basically he has an app idea and he isn’t sure what it is yet. Your life doesn’t have to go on hold when you’re trying to find a career, in fact, having that support behind them will only motivate them further.
5. "We don’t really have anything in common"
This is actually a common misunderstanding about relationships, that you have to like everything they like. It’s better to have the same values or morals than some trivial similar interests. You learn to like different things in relationships, so this is a bad excuse.
6. "I’m still immature"
Guys can have their moments of immaturity, but when it comes down to it, they know how to behave like an adult. Acting immature probably just means he would rather hook up with girls than be tied down.
7. "I want to enjoy college"
Basically, he is saying that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you because he would rather have a few one night stands instead. We all want to enjoy college, but if you get on really well together and see eye to eye, then maybe you should take a leap of faith.
8. "I’m still finding myself"
It can take people up until their 30's to “find” themselves and even then they still have a lot more to figure out. You will be waiting a long time to be in a relationship if you’re waiting to see who you really are. You will find out more about yourself by being with someone else.
9. "I want to take things slow"
It’s always better not to rush into a relationship, but if things are progressing a bit too slow, then he is stalling. He doesn’t want things to progress that fast and still needs time to think things over. If it’s been over a year and you’re still not official then what's the point of hanging around.
10. "I’m not in the right place emotionally"
Guys aren’t very emotional creatures, compared to women anyway, so if a guy uses this as an excuse he is hiding something. It’s a sure fire way of dodging the bullet and he is getting all the benefits of being in a relationship without actually being in one.
11. "It’s not you, it’s me"
This a very polite way of saying that "I don’t what to be tied down to being in a relationship, but I still want to hang out with you." Clearly, he is just keeping his options open and is still playing the field. If you’re not getting what you want out of the this then it’s time to move on.
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